Another beloved dog gone way too young...

[sarahses]

I'm in a state of shock.

My 6 year old mixed breed border collie Rori had to be put down today.   For the past few weeks she'd lost some weight but was still her happy, energetic, wonderful self.  This morning she was playing and happy and then just collapsed in the yard.  Long story short, her xrays showed lots of abdominal fluid, likely a mass, possibly in her spleen.  Possibly some sort of gastrointestinal cancer.  Her blood pressure dropped and they had to put her on oxygen.  They didn't think she would make it on the drive to surgery at the vet ER, gave us a choice, so we put her down because she looked to be suffering so much.    This all happened so incredibly fast, hours, we are in a state of shock. 

7 years ago, something similar happened with our last dog.  She was a smaller breed so it was even more of a shock.  She got sick very quickly, had a mass, they removed her spleen and while it was benign, she never recovered from surgery and ended up passing 2 days later.  Just like with Rori, no real clear answers. 

I always thought I would have dogs my whole life.  I don't think so if this is how it's going to go.   Is it common for them to pass so young?  6-7 years old is such a short life.

Vets didn't think it's anything in the environment, but I just don't understand the bad luck of this happening twice in a row.

-Heartbroken in Seattle

[KayC]

I am so sorry for your loss!  I'm with you, that seems way too young for a dog to die, and esp. losing two so young!

It's the hardest thing in the world.  

The what ifs blame game happens to most of us going through early grief, it did me when my husband died nearly 18 years ago...it's not that we are guilty of anything but loving them, and the truth is feelings are not facts, but it's that we can't wrap our heads around what happened, and our mind is trying to find some different possible outcome so it searches all the what ifs...

Comfort for Grieving Animal Lovers

A Dangerous Villain: Guilt
Breaking the Power of Guilt
A Dangerous Villain: Guilt
http://www.pet-loss.net/guilt.shtml
http://www.griefhealing.com/article-loss-and-the-burden-of-guilt.htm
https://www.griefhealingblog.com/2019/08/pet-loss-when-guilt-overshadows-grief.html
https://www.griefhealingblog.com/2017/07/pet-loss-when-guilt-goes-unresolved.html

I hope this short video brings you some comfort and peace.

 

[Marie1]

I really appreciated your posts.

I went through a similar situation and I am heartbroken.

Saturday my cat was fine and Sunday I had to rush him to the Vet ER.

I was with him all night in my arms.

There came a time Monday that I had to put him to sleep.y husband died 6 months ago. I have no family or children. I do have wonderful amazing friends.

My cat was so instrumental to my life daily getting through grief.

Losing him so fast. I too am in shock.

It was my first Thanksgiving without my husband and 2 and days later I lost my cat. There is so much more. God is with me. I adopted another cat but she is hiding and won't come to me yet.

I went through guilt. I heard over and over that this not unusual to loose pets this way and that helped.

I so miss my little friend.

 

 

 

 

[KayC]

I am so sorry, it's the hardest thing in the world, esp. when we're alone and our husband has already died, we interact with our animals and they are such companions and comfort.  My heart goes out to you.

Consider those posts for you too.

[sarahses]

Thank you. It is so hard.  I appreciate your support. 

[AJWCat]

Wow that is such a shock. I am so sorry for your loss. And it is odd. 

[Jo Anne]

I am sorry for your loss. It does hit you in the heart and is an all encompassing pain. I hope you are able to find peace. I have yet to do so. 

[KayC]

50 minutes ago, Jo Anne said:

I am sorry for your loss. It does hit you in the heart and is an all encompassing pain. I hope you are able to find peace. I have yet to do so. 

Post when you are ready.  We want to be here for you.  It's one of the hardest losses there is...