Members Sheilz Posted June 3 Members Report Share Posted June 3 My positive of the day: I had my televisit with my Primary. She's great. Cried through the whole thing and she told me I was ok. Oh... & I ate tuna fish (canned) for dinner. But I ate for about 3 evenings in a row. 3 1 Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Moderators KayC Posted June 3 Author Moderators Report Share Posted June 3 It was a hard night, not much sleep, Kodie finally peed after 38 hours of not...on the couch. So I'm up laundering couch covers, trying to get him to pee outside (nope! He'd already gone.), washing the couch, it'll take days to dry. He kept making noises smacking, panting, etc. I know panting can be a sign of distress so that had me worried...finally got a couple hours sleep. I hope today goes better. But at least he finally went! Sigh... Only 10 carbs yesterday but BS was up this morning, all the stress and not getting our walks in. This too shall pass. 3 Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Members RichS Posted June 3 Members Report Share Posted June 3 One of our cats we had in the past had to have a cone put on her due to a surgery (to keep her away from chewing on her stitches). All she did all day was try to get it off of her neck. She almost succeeded, too. 3 1 Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Moderators KayC Posted June 3 Author Moderators Report Share Posted June 3 Kodie got his off the first night, we have 15 days of this! A friend suggested I take it off when I walk him (VERY short walks right now) and I did, he pooped right away and then peed for the longest time, he likes to go in the briars, but I was so glad he did! Every time he tried to get at it, I'd tell him know, it'd last a minute, then again, made it home w/o mishaps. She also suggested I use a spray of 1/2 vinegar, half water on the couch, it helped immensely. This is my positive today! Oh and I got my wood stove cleaned out, house vacuumed and dusted! 4 Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Members Popular Post Sheilz Posted June 3 Members Popular Post Report Share Posted June 3 I'm trying to post a positive every day but I've been a mess today. I can't even read any posts right now because I'm too emotional. When will it get easier???????????? My positive today is I went for a short walk. I hated it & missed Brian & cried. But I got out. That's it for me. 4 1 Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Moderators widower2 Posted June 4 Moderators Report Share Posted June 4 4 hours ago, KayC said: Kodie got his off the first night, we have 15 days of this! A friend suggested I take it off when I walk him (VERY short walks right now) and I did, he pooped right away and then peed for the longest time, he likes to go in the briars, but I was so glad he did! Every time he tried to get at it, I'd tell him know, it'd last a minute, then again, made it home w/o mishaps. She also suggested I use a spray of 1/2 vinegar, half water on the couch, it helped immensely. This is my positive today! Oh and I got my wood stove cleaned out, house vacuumed and dusted! Glad he's on the right track! FWIW when my dog got older and starting having that problem (#1 and #2s in the house) there is this stuff they sold in the grocery store in a 409 style spray container (and in the same area as that stuff) which worked really well. Sorry I don't recall the name but the bottle was black so it stood out. 1 Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Members RichS Posted June 4 Members Report Share Posted June 4 widower2: By any chance, would it be this product: https://www.lowes.com/pd/Clorox-Urine-Remover-Stain-and-Odor-Pack-32-fl-oz-Urine-R/50287997?cm_mmc=shp-_-c-_-prd-_-lwn-_-ggl-_-LIA_LWN_127_Cleaning-_-50287997-_-local-_-0-_-0&gclid=EAIaIQobChMI5eni46yo_wIV5znUAR1hNQMJEAQYBCABEgLAIPD_BwE&gclsrc=aw.ds 2 Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Moderators widower2 Posted June 4 Moderators Report Share Posted June 4 Pretty sure it is thx! 1 Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Moderators widower2 Posted June 4 Moderators Report Share Posted June 4 40 minutes ago, Sheilz said: I'm trying to post a positive every day but I've been a mess today. I can't even read any posts right now because I'm too emotional. When will it get easier???????????? My positive today is I went for a short walk. I hated it & missed Brian & cried. But I got out. That's it for me. For the point you're at, I think that's plenty. 2 Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Moderators KayC Posted June 4 Author Moderators Report Share Posted June 4 Thank you for the suggestion! Took him out twice to "walk" on neighboring property and back, he pooped and peed a LOT both times, feeding him water out of a ladle and giving him food throughout the day, holding it up to him also. This is a full time job... Got it ordered, won't be here for a few days, (Lowes is 120 mile round trip so ordered off Walmart for even less! Of course I had to order $30 worth of fat bombs to get that price! Will use them... 1 1 1 Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Members Sheilz Posted June 4 Members Report Share Posted June 4 1 hour ago, KayC said: Took him out twice to "walk" on neighboring property and back This seems like good news this morning and maybe things will get easier for both of you. Poor Kodie but he has a good mama. 1 1 Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Members foreverhis Posted June 4 Members Report Share Posted June 4 6 hours ago, KayC said: Of course I had to order $30 worth of fat bombs to get that price! Will use them... My friend, you deserve those fat bombs! What we'll do for those we love knows no bounds. You need to keep your strength up, right?💗 1 Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Moderators KayC Posted June 4 Author Moderators Report Share Posted June 4 Today he drug me through briars for 40 min. to "poop" only he never did! I finally called a halt to it, he had the best places in the world to go and turned them all down! He peed though, for what seemed like forever! 1 Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Members RichS Posted June 4 Members Report Share Posted June 4 20 minutes ago, KayC said: he had the best places in the world to go and turned them all down! Sounds like my single life in the 70's..........Anyway, time to get out the Ex-Lax ☺️ 1 Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Moderators KayC Posted June 4 Author Moderators Report Share Posted June 4 He's not constipated...he'll go eventually, he's just super picky about where! Sorry you all, this is my life lately! Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Moderators widower2 Posted June 4 Moderators Report Share Posted June 4 Dogs are like that. And I swear mine would pick the worst times to be picky, like when it's raining or cold...it was like "cmon just GO already!" 1 Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Members RichS Posted June 4 Members Report Share Posted June 4 46 minutes ago, widower2 said: Dogs are like that. And I swear mine would pick the worst times to be picky My cat Salem likes to play games at times. He goes in his litter box, #1. I go clean it out and throw it away. A few minutes later, he goes #2. I guess that's his way of telling me he didn't like the variety of wet cat food I fed him in the morning....... 1 1 Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Members shawnt Posted June 5 Members Report Share Posted June 5 I had a dog that would go on my shoe if he thought I had been unfair . Never anyone else's shoe. I am afraid dogs never get used to wearing a cone , it unnerves them that that can't see or hear normal , you can only try to assure them and distract them. My positive was I was tricked to go away to the lake for the weekend and a few times I forgot the pain and had some fun and laughed, had a little to much to eat & drink, but that was ok I was with friends. The 3 hour drive home alone was painful knowing no one waited for me, but I am trying to stay on the positive. 3 1 Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Moderators widower2 Posted June 5 Moderators Report Share Posted June 5 My my experience, In those times, esp early on, a laugh - a real laugh - is a precious gift. I'm glad you had that, even if just for a brief time. I get the drive home thing. I live in "the boonies" so just about anything social I do involves a long drive. At drives in the dark are twice as bad for me, so I rarely do it. 1 1 Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Members Sheilz Posted June 5 Members Report Share Posted June 5 10 hours ago, shawnt said: a few times I forgot the pain and had some fun and laughed Laughter is good for the body & soul. Very precious commodity at this time & I'm happy you got to laugh. I was the laugher in my relationship... Brian was the serious one. I long for a good laugh, a real laugh... just for a moment. My positive for yesterday was hard to find. But it was this board & a Columbo marathon. It was a tough day for sure but hoping to find another positive today. Stay tuned. 2 Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Moderators KayC Posted June 5 Author Moderators Report Share Posted June 5 11 hours ago, shawnt said: am afraid dogs never get used to wearing a cone He had his cone off when I walked him, I just had to watch him like a hawk. Hence his dragging me everywhere as I couldn't put his Halti on with the eye surgery wound...too much pressure for that area. 11 hours ago, shawnt said: My positive was I was tricked to go away to the lake for the weekend Tricked??? 8 hours ago, widower2 said: I live in "the boonies" so just about anything social I do involves a long drive. ANYTHING I do involves a long drive! 1 1/4-1 1/2 hour drive from anything (shopping, groceries, medical, etc.) I live in the boondocks too! 2 1 Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Moderators KayC Posted June 5 Author Moderators Report Share Posted June 5 The last two days went better since his surgery, at least he's not out of it anymore, the first few days were rough, so I guess that's my positive for yesterday! 2 1 Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Members Popular Post Roxeanne Posted June 5 Members Popular Post Report Share Posted June 5 My cat Margot is 16 years old...now she has hypertyroidism and renal problems! She is skinny now...she must take 2 meds a day! I'm grateful that i can take care of her, that she is still with me...she was a gift from my love!💕 3 2 Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Members Popular Post Gator M Posted June 5 Members Popular Post Report Share Posted June 5 I got through church again without crying. I spent the afternoon with my daughter (who is now 13mo sober...Praise God) at her boyfriend's house with his family. It was nice until I went to go home. My daughter and I cried because Ann was not there to experience it....my daughter finally getting her life on track. I was blessed but the ride home across the lake to an empty house was tough. 5 1 Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Members Sheilz Posted June 5 Members Report Share Posted June 5 50 minutes ago, Gator M said: I was blessed but the ride home across the lake to an empty house was tough You were blessed with 2 positives yesterday. I'm happy for you. Ann knows. We have a similar issue with daughters only mine hasn't been as long as yours. Thus the option of moving closer to her really isn't open to me. Plus I worry that this has put her back in a bad place hoping she doesn't backslide. 4 Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Members Gator M Posted June 5 Members Report Share Posted June 5 14 minutes ago, Sheilz said: You were blessed with 2 positives yesterday. I'm happy for you. Ann knows. We have a similar issue with daughters only mine hasn't been as long as yours. Thus the option of moving closer to her really isn't open to me. Plus I worry that this has put her back in a bad place hoping she doesn't backslide. On the other hand her sister is ghosting me. 1 2 Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Members Sheilz Posted June 6 Members Report Share Posted June 6 Today's positive: I tried trimming the hedges (while crying). Didn't get too far because my arms were getting tired & jelly-like. But I started them. 3 1 Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Moderators widower2 Posted June 6 Moderators Report Share Posted June 6 Funny you mention that, I just did that last week, they were WAY overdue. I still need to cut them back more but didn't want to do too much at once. 1 1 Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Members Roxeanne Posted June 6 Members Report Share Posted June 6 On 6/5/2023 at 5:15 AM, widower2 said: a laugh - a real laugh - is a precious gift. True...and i had a few of them in the last 5 years without my love! He made me laugh so much...i miss terribly our laughter !!!! 2 2 Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Moderators KayC Posted June 6 Author Moderators Report Share Posted June 6 The rangers came by to check on the job they did on my place, I wanted them to do some brush behind my wood shed, they'll take down a small tree next to it but said the shrubs are mostly my neighbors, I think their GPS is off, the neighbors haven't done anything in 48 years so doubt they ever will, if my pole barn and wood catches on fire, we're toast here. Anyway not much left to do except the neighbor that was going to take the lilac tree never did, it'd require a tractor which you can't get in there, so told them to take that to the ground, I'll spray it with some vine/stump remover. I hate seeing it go but it abuts the house. Maybe it's a moot point but that's the whole point of "defensible space." So that's my positive, that and Kodie and I are learning our limitations and getting into a routine with his care. I feel for him as he can't play with his toys and is bored. Lots of bellyrubs! 2 2 Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Members Gator M Posted June 6 Members Report Share Posted June 6 5 hours ago, Roxeanne said: True...and i had a few of them in the last 5 years without my love! He made me laugh so much...i miss terribly our laughter !!!! Ann said I always made her laugh. Those days are gone. 2 2 Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Members shawnt Posted June 7 Members Report Share Posted June 7 I was productive today, it felt good. Now I am beat and hoping to sleep the night thru. ( after I cry, of course) 2 1 Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Moderators Popular Post KayC Posted June 7 Author Moderators Popular Post Report Share Posted June 7 Got the Clorox Urine Remover Spray two people here suggested, covered the couch with it, read for tough spots to let it dry. I did...twice. Washed covers again and replaced after dry (took all day, it was 92 here). This morning Kodie sniffed it and laid down on it so it passes his muster! Beginning day 6 of 15 with cone. Still hand feeding him water from a ladle, and food. Taking cone off/on so he can walk/do his business...he drags me through briars and bushes, the neighbors can hear me yelling, "Just GO!!!" this has to be the pickiest dog known to man! He has places to go that are Nirvana for dogs, and STILL he's picky! Can't use Halti as too close to eye, so meanwhile he's dragging this old lady all over! I'm tiny and although he's only 21 lbs he's as strong as any Husky! Seems everything I've taught him is out the window right now. But my positive for yesterday was getting the Clorox spray finally! Today the rangers are supposed to come back and remove the lilac tree next to my house (for defensible space) and clear around the pole barn where the firewood is kept. That will be my positive today. 5 Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Members RichS Posted June 7 Members Report Share Posted June 7 My gazebo continues to be my sanctuary...................There I find the time to: - Get away from the noise of the TV and phone calls and the distraction of being on the internet. - Take a break from whatever chores I need to do (and probably don't want to do). - Pray and reflect on my life (where I've been and where I am now). And yes, grieve in private. - Take in the beauty of the trees in my backyard and the birds chirping. - To give thanks that I even have a place like this. The first 8-9 years of my life were spent in 6 family tenement apartments. - 4 Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Members Gator M Posted June 7 Members Report Share Posted June 7 I fixed a leaky pool filter. Just trying to keep the pool from turning into a swamp before arbitration. Things I must do...I can do. Everything else...forget it. 3 Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Moderators KayC Posted June 7 Author Moderators Report Share Posted June 7 Rich I love that you have your sanctuary! And Gator, that you fixed something! Mine today was Kodie and I took our whole walk in! He carried his back foot for a while and limped so that concerned me but he finally stopped with that so maybe a sticker or something, couldn't find anything wrong. 2 1 Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Members Popular Post Sheilz Posted June 7 Members Popular Post Report Share Posted June 7 Today's positive: I paid a bill & got my clothes ready for tomorrow's CT scan (so I'd be ready instead of scrambling to find something to wear). AND..... a friend bought me some pound cake. A day full of positives! 5 Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Moderators KayC Posted June 8 Author Moderators Report Share Posted June 8 Good luck with your CT scan, let us know the outcome...🙏🙏🙏 1 Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Members Sheilz Posted June 8 Members Report Share Posted June 8 My positive: Made it to my CT scan. Cried when they asked who I want as "In Case of Emergency". Then cried again when the technician kindly asked what my plans were or the test of the day. But I got it done. Now to await the results. But not sure what is happening to me. I am doing much worse... every day. There isn't a half hour that goes by that I don't cry with terrible gut wrenching sounds. I don't know how much longer I can keep this up. I can't focus at all. Trying to keep myself from drowning in this sorrow but I can't stand the pain much longer. Tomorrow I need to talk to my doctor. Sorry for posting this on the "Positive" feed. 2 1 1 Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Members RichS Posted June 9 Members Report Share Posted June 9 Sheilz: Our prayers are with you to get negative test results. It's good that you'll be talking to your doctor tomorrow. Be sure to explain to him/her all of your feelings you're going through. Also, keep in mind that you're currently overwhelmed. It's only been four weeks. You're still in shock, which is normal. I'm sure ALL OF US felt the same way after four weeks. I know I did. 2 Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Members foreverhis Posted June 9 Members Report Share Posted June 9 26 minutes ago, Sheilz said: Cried when they asked who I want as "In Case of Emergency". Yes, when that specific situation happened to me, I kind of lost it. It was more than a year after John died and I had to get some imaging. I hadn't been to the center for a few years, so when I was going through check in, the assistant asked, "And John is still your emergency contact?" At first I couldn't even speak. Then I whispered (because that's all I could get out), "No, he died." as the tears came. The assistant was really kind and said, "I'm sorry. Just take your time. There's no rush." even though there were others waiting. It wasn't even close to my first time of handling something like that, so it hit me at that moment how some things don't get any easier to handle. And please, please when you talk to your doctor don't hold back (though don't give them any reason to consider you a risk to yourself either). As much as I have always hesitated when it comes to medications, my doctor sat me down and was firm that he wanted me to take a couple of things to help me through. As he's been our internist for years and I know he's not a "pill pusher," I listened. I was at a point of, "It's not that I want to kill myself, but I really don't care about living." So I take a non-SSRI/non-SNRI anti-depressant at the lowest clinical dose. He explained that the depression of grief is situational, but can be helped by certain anti-depressants, either short-term or long-term. And I have a prescription for xanax that I took low dose for day time anxiety, as needed, and regular dose at night for sleep, also as needed. I have to admit they've helped me through some deeply dark times. (And it's okay that your positive for today was mixed with some negative. How could it not be?) 2 Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Moderators KayC Posted June 9 Author Moderators Report Share Posted June 9 I'm glad you're going to talk to your doctor. Most don't have specific training in grief but if you have one that cares, they can be of help. Annie, I'm glad yours understood the difference between clinical and situational depression so he could treat it accordingly. You got it done, that's a positive. Gut wrenching tears are to be expected, you're very early in this. 2 Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Moderators KayC Posted June 9 Author Moderators Report Share Posted June 9 On 6/7/2023 at 5:02 AM, KayC said: Today the rangers are supposed to come back and remove the lilac tree next to my house (for defensible space) and clear around the pole barn where the firewood is kept. That will be my positive today. They didn't show up Wed. or Thursday, no phone calls either. I wrote them before 5 pm last night and heard back, they'd lost $10,000 in funding (!!!) and would be by today for 20 min. I want to write and tell them not to bother. The lilac tree is looking better than ever, it's very green and if I keep it trimmed maybe it'll be okay. They told me behind the pole barn (firewood) isn't my property, my understanding is different and I think their app is off but whatever. They show part of my house on the neighboring property, ha! I still have the surveyor's stakes in place after all these years. What do they know! Luckily the neighbors are super nice and would not do anything if it was, but it's not. So if they're overloaded, they can pass me by. Yesterday I let Kodie have his cone off for a few min (under my supervision) inside the fence, he ran and ran and ran! Then he spun/spun/spun! He peed for the longest time and then pooped. It'd been a week since his surgery. I got him back in and put the cone on, he was as good as gold about it. I did the same last night and this morning. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Members RichS Posted June 9 Members Report Share Posted June 9 Sounds like Kodie had himself a nice day! If someone took a cone off of my neck, I'd be overjoyed! My positive for today was that it was Friday, not Saturday (???). I got up, looked at the clock and realized that I had a little over a hour to eat breakfast, get dressed and head off to my part-time job. About 10 minutes later, some brain cells kicked in and reminded me that it was Friday. A cup of coffee is much more enjoyable when you don't have to rush. 1 Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Moderators KayC Posted June 9 Author Moderators Report Share Posted June 9 That IS a positive, Rich. I had messaged Oakridge Air that instructs the rangers, that they didn't need to come and explained I think I can keep my lilac tree, it's always green, not touching the house, and if I keep it trimmed so I don't have dead branches I can't reach...it was looking more prolific than ever!...but Kodie alerted me too late, lack of communication in their office...they cut my tree down before I could stop them. The worst part was when he told me it would have been okay and he just thought he was doing me a favor. Will have to find another positive today, it's still early. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Members Gator M Posted June 9 Members Report Share Posted June 9 I went to dinner last night with a friend from church and lunch with another friend today. 2 1 Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Moderators KayC Posted June 9 Author Moderators Report Share Posted June 9 Wow, you're in high demand! I miss my friend that moved to TX eight years ago, we did everything together! Hobbies, cooking, going places, or just having a cup of cappuccino! Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Moderators widower2 Posted June 9 Moderators Report Share Posted June 9 I have next week (TGIF!) off but nowhere to go. On the other hand, I'm good at doing nothing Will probably catch a few movies. I have a bedroom to paint, but not feeling very inclined 2 Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Moderators KayC Posted June 9 Author Moderators Report Share Posted June 9 Aww, take the time off! You're right, I was thinking it was Saturday! Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Members Missing Him31623 Posted June 9 Members Report Share Posted June 9 I woke up this morning and I have people that love and support me. 2 1 Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
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