Moderators widower2 Posted April 17, 2012 Moderators Report Share Posted April 17, 2012 Then do them a favor (unless they've indicated otherwise): KEEP IN TOUCH. I can't stress this enough. It's hard enough as it is but the loneliness, that gaping hole, that is made from this unbelievable, and to have people you thought cared about you "abandon" you by not calling, visiting etc is a large dose of salt in the wound. If you really DO care about this person at least a little, don't do this. Thx. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Members ModKonnie Posted April 18, 2012 Members Report Share Posted April 18, 2012 Thanks for your sound advice. You are right, keeping in touch is vital.ModKonnie Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Moderators widower2 Posted June 4, 2012 Author Moderators Report Share Posted June 4, 2012 Don't mean to harp on this (well maybe I do) but I'd like to add/emphsize: keeping in touch doesn't mean a token email/phone call and going "call if you need anything."Quite frankly that's weak and a lazy cop out. YOU call. Trust me, they need something. Like people showing that they care and that they are geniunely interested in how you're doing. And don't give me "I don't know what to say........." How about "I just wanted to let you know I was thinking of you and hoping you're holding up OK." This isn't rocket science. Thanks. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Members pbrinkley Posted June 5, 2012 Members Report Share Posted June 5, 2012 Here here...thank you for saying what everyone is thinking Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Members Aimee Posted June 5, 2012 Members Report Share Posted June 5, 2012 I so agree. I am being to feel like I have the plague. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Moderators widower2 Posted June 8, 2012 Author Moderators Report Share Posted June 8, 2012 Thanks - sorry you're experiencing same, but it does help to know I'm not the only one, if you know what I mean. It's so odd though. Honestly, what the hell? Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Members grace17313 Posted July 5, 2012 Members Report Share Posted July 5, 2012 Wow, so I am not the only one!! I have quite a few of "call if you need anything"''s. Or how about "I haven't called because I don't want to bug you". REALLY? Oh wait, I finally get a text from a VERY good friend of mine (2wks after my spouses funeral) asking how I am doing. So I say "not good" because I wasn't at that specific moment. So she says "I told you to call if you needed me". WTH!! I just say she doesn't have any idea what I am going through because she has never lost anyone close to her. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
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