Members Leftie46 Posted April 14, 2012 Members Report Share Posted April 14, 2012 After my mum died, my dad told me that before she was born, she gave birth to a boy and a girl (separately, three years apart, but both as a single parent). In both cases, the father abandoned her and in those times, her parents would not support her and sent her away to a mother and baby home. Both children were adopted as babies, and I found out from cousins (who all knew but didn't tell us) that my mum grieved for the loss of her two babies, her whole life. My father didn't know much, he met her not long after the second child was adopted and she told him the bare facts (because he would've found out with local village gossip) but never talked of it to him again. Everyone who knew ANYTHING at all is dead (all my mum's siblings and their partners) and I feel so sorry that she didn't tell me and so angry and let down. I just keep thinking over and over I'd give anything to go back in time and give her the time and space to be able to tell me. I'm sure she tried once but I kind of cut her off cos I thought she was going to talk about sex and that freaked me out. It's really hard to let go of this - I've known for about a year now. I managed to trace her son and he's lovely, we're in touch. Trying to trace my half sister also. Anyone had anything similar happen to them?I'd love to hear anyone's suggestions on coping with this or anyone's views on it really. I know that maybe it hasn't happened to many other people but I'd just really like some input..... :-/6 days since this post.... 17 readers, no replies. I would've just really liked one or two comments and felt sure I'd get some kind person prepared to say a word or two, but no, obviously not. It's over a year since these events, I can barely drag myself through the days and just about function for my two children. Absolutely gutted that I couldn't even get any support here. I'll stop bothering to check now. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
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