Members Tweetymm125@aol.com Posted March 17, 2012 Members Report Share Posted March 17, 2012 My son Robs Biirthday is coming up March 20th My job is giving me grief and I just started antideppresants I feel like I am going crazy I am trying to hold it together . I have to pt on my Happy face t work. I started crying last week at work because I lost my dad.I was told to "Get it together" I hope the antideppresants help I have to make myself strong so I can find another job. I have been at this one for 17th years and the administrator has been here 8 and she is a cruel monster!I have been having problems wiyh my memory bt I think that stems from grief My son died from an accidental drug overdose Nov 16 2009Robs Mom Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Members Susie_q512 Posted March 17, 2012 Members Report Share Posted March 17, 2012 Rob's Mom - It's horrible that you are being treated so poorly by your employer, especially having worked there for 17 yrs. Makes me want to punch that bung-hole in the face! Is there anyway that you can get something from your doctor detailing the effects of grief and depression, something similar to a doctor's excuse? Anything that could be submitted to Human Resources Dept? Could a meeting be scheduled between your supervisor, yourself, and her supervisor in which her treatment of you and attitude toward you could be openly addressed? Could you file a complaint with the Dept. of Labor or with her supervisor? I swear, I do not understand how anyone could be so callous towards a grieving parent. Problems with memory and concentration are common to grief. Geez, you've lost your son and your dad, AND your son's birthday is approaching! I get so discouraged with humans. I am hoping that you will be able to find a new job, one with compassionate and supportive people who care for their employees and co-workers. Praying too that the 20th will bring a special visit from Rob....one that will allow you to know he is loving you and with you still. The 20th will be a tough day for me also as it will mark 6 months since my daughter's death. I'll be thinking of you that day. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Members Tweetymm125@aol.com Posted March 17, 2012 Author Members Report Share Posted March 17, 2012 I am going to file a complaint with the department of labor. Hr will not do anything These people are not human. They are the type that would fire me. I was written up for not having enough PTO when my son died.I just started an antidepppresant and I am goiing to get my mental health together . I just can not take too much stress anymore. I have to pay my bills but I am going to be looking for another job I do not wish bad things but God help them if they lose a child They will than know what hell on earth is. You are in my prayers on the 20th. Thankyou for yor kind wordsRobs Mom Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Members TonyRoberts Posted March 17, 2012 Members Report Share Posted March 17, 2012 Rob's mom, The experience I is similar to your experience. On February 3, 2011, my only son and only child passed away from an overdose. I struggled for a year with the grief before I finally sought help. I actually had my first visit with my psychiatrist on the anniversary of his passing. I was diagnosed with depressive disorder NOS as well as a few that were not pertinent to my feelings over my son. I have been on Zoloft since that day, and I find this to inhibit my filters on what I do and what I say. Before I started the Zoloft, I was very emotional and cried at some of the most simple sad issues, but now, I have not cried about anything since. It worries me for the lack of emotion I have been showing. Travis' birthday is coming up on May 31, and he would be 21, he was 19 when he passed. I have a grand-daughter who is almost 2 yrs old now, and a grand-son who is just over 6 months, both were his. Seems like everyone wants to give advice, knowing they are trying to help, but it is hard for me to take any advice since most I know have never been through this type of loss. My wife is a mental health counselor, and I am a mental health counselor in training, working on a master degree in counseling. I really feel for you with your work place, seems like the only thing that matters to so many is the color green. I have a good idea of how you feel, and if you need to talk, I am here...TonyRob's Mom - It's horrible that you are being treated so poorly by your employer, especially having worked there for 17 yrs. Makes me want to punch that bung-hole in the face! Is there anyway that you can get something from your doctor detailing the effects of grief and depression, something similar to a doctor's excuse? Anything that could be submitted to Human Resources Dept? Could a meeting be scheduled between your supervisor, yourself, and her supervisor in which her treatment of you and attitude toward you could be openly addressed? Could you file a complaint with the Dept. of Labor or with her supervisor? I swear, I do not understand how anyone could be so callous towards a grieving parent. Problems with memory and concentration are common to grief. Geez, you've lost your son and your dad, AND your son's birthday is approaching! I get so discouraged with humans. I am hoping that you will be able to find a new job, one with compassionate and supportive people who care for their employees and co-workers. Praying too that the 20th will bring a special visit from Rob....one that will allow you to know he is loving you and with you still. The 20th will be a tough day for me also as it will mark 6 months since my daughter's death. I'll be thinking of you that day. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Members Tweetymm125@aol.com Posted March 17, 2012 Author Members Report Share Posted March 17, 2012 To Tony Roberts I am going to see someone My insrance will cover 100%. I am not sure if should see a pyschiatrist or psychologist or grief counselor. I really feel in a very bad way I am so nervous lately and cry alot I just started Celexa 20 Mg I force myself to put on the happy face at work. Now I feel stressed that i may lose this job but I know i havet o find another one because they put more stress on me. Any advice on exactly who I shold see would be helpflll I am sorry that you lost your son to the same thing I did It just sucks A waste of a young lifeRobs Mom Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Members Tina Sykes Posted March 18, 2012 Members Report Share Posted March 18, 2012 To Tony Roberts I am going to see someone My insrance will cover 100%. I am not sure if should see a pyschiatrist or psychologist or grief counselor. I really feel in a very bad way I am so nervous lately and cry alot I just started Celexa 20 Mg I force myself to put on the happy face at work. Now I feel stressed that i may lose this job but I know i havet o find another one because they put more stress on me. Any advice on exactly who I shold see would be helpflll I am sorry that you lost your son to the same thing I did It just sucks A waste of a young lifeRobs Mom Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Members Tina Sykes Posted March 18, 2012 Members Report Share Posted March 18, 2012 To Tony Roberts I am going to see someone My insrance will cover 100%. I am not sure if should see a pyschiatrist or psychologist or grief counselor. I really feel in a very bad way I am so nervous lately and cry alot I just started Celexa 20 Mg I force myself to put on the happy face at work. Now I feel stressed that i may lose this job but I know i havet o find another one because they put more stress on me. Any advice on exactly who I shold see would be helpflll I am sorry that you lost your son to the same thing I did It just sucks A waste of a young lifeRobs Mom Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Members Tweetymm125@aol.com Posted March 18, 2012 Author Members Report Share Posted March 18, 2012 To Tina SykesIt says that you replied to my Post t Sons birthday March 20th but i do not see anythinfg Could you please repostThanks Robs MOM Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Members Tweetymm125@aol.com Posted March 18, 2012 Author Members Report Share Posted March 18, 2012 To Tina SykesIt says that you replied to my Post t Sons birthday March 20th but i do not see anythinfg Could you please repostThanks Robs MOM Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Members davincidanes Posted March 20, 2012 Members Report Share Posted March 20, 2012 Happy Birthday, Rob! Celebrate on the wings of Heaven's Angels. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Members vivkib Posted March 20, 2012 Members Report Share Posted March 20, 2012 Happy Birthday Rob!!! Bring peace and angel kisses to your mom today so she can feel you with her. Vivian-Kevin's Mom Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
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