Members Popular Post Robert D. Posted September 21, 2022 Members Popular Post Report Share Posted September 21, 2022 I do something everyday. Everytime I pass my beloved JoAnn's robe i hold it or hug it...and i always kiss it.....It hangs on the bathroom door....Then in the bedroom I touch the "J" letter on a makeup box on her vanity;...to the right hanging on the door is a shopping bag she used ..I touch it;...then in her sewing room across the hall I touch a sweater sitting on the ironing board,...as I go to lift up the window/blades;....then in the next room beside that room....in my room, i have (books/treadmill), I have a row of 7 pictures on the wall next to the closet door....the one that is at eye level I kiss;...Back out in the hallway...at the end of it, towards the living room,...is Jo's table....When I redid the entire living room for her...(painted it),...not too long before her stroke on June 27, 2022, we got that table for the newly painted living room....JoAnn decorated it with figurines on top of the cabinet....and sitting atop it now is a picture of her....and when I pass it...I kiss her picture...As I am existing now...and as i go through the house ...I continually give my beloved JoAnn my love.....I can see me doing this till I see her again. I also say that I love her at various times in the house. 4 1 Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Members Lost7 Posted September 21, 2022 Members Report Share Posted September 21, 2022 Robert I find myself doing the same thing to my husband pictures...I also tell him I love him and I will be back soon I am on my way to baby sit out grandbaby...she was born 5 days before he passed. However I can not bring myself to visit his grave yet and he went to his heavenly home almost 9 months ago. My heart aches. I am so sorry for you my friend. I do get it. Blessings Lost7 2 Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Members Robert D. Posted September 21, 2022 Author Members Report Share Posted September 21, 2022 Lost7....Thank you friend....I just prayed for you....and I am very thankful for your prayers....yes, it is major heartache....everything being changed...or transformed,....except our love for them....that just keeps on growing....My home is so different....the inside, the outside...the town I live in...the stores....everything....But my love is constant...and growing for my beloved JoAnn. Thank you Lost7! We will make it through this!! God bless!! 2 Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Members BohoKat Posted September 21, 2022 Members Report Share Posted September 21, 2022 19 hours ago, Robert D. said: Everytime I pass my beloved JoAnn's robe i hold it or hug it...and i always kiss it I used to kiss Mark’s picture all the time. Then there was a time where the pictures went in the drawer because I couldn’t bear it. The pictures came back out but I can’t kiss him anymore without completely breaking down and sobbing. Going into the second year is somehow worse. In the Texas heat I can’t do it yet but soon I will be able to wear his favorite flannel and that is like having his arms around me. @Robert D. i understand, I am there too. <hugs> 1 1 Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Moderators KayC Posted September 22, 2022 Moderators Report Share Posted September 22, 2022 When in my early grief, the pictures went up...came down as I couldn't bear it...back up again, down, finally up to stay. This takes a while, it's a process we make our way through and we're winging it the best we know how. Listen to your heart and what it can handle my friend. 3 Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Members Jemiga70 Posted September 23, 2022 Members Report Share Posted September 23, 2022 On 9/21/2022 at 1:46 PM, Robert D. said: it is major heartache....everything being changed...or transformed,....except our love for them....that just keeps on growing @Robert D. Robert - I can relate. I'm nearly 17 months out. Her pictures in my room on the wall, on the night table. Her clothes (the ones I kept that meant something to me) in the closet. Her toothbrush beside mine, still. My love for her deepens. On 9/21/2022 at 3:38 PM, BohoKat said: Going into the second year is somehow worse. @BohoKat BohoKat, you and I are nearly the same distance out. I too am finding this 2nd year more difficult. Perhaps because I'm - slowly - coming out of the shock and left with longing and loneliness. Hugs. 3 1 Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Members LMR Posted September 23, 2022 Members Report Share Posted September 23, 2022 My photos have stayed up but they sometimes drive me out of bed in the morning. I am just starting my third year. It's unbelievable. It still seems like yesterday. 3 1 Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Moderators KayC Posted September 23, 2022 Moderators Report Share Posted September 23, 2022 Yep, it can feel like yesterday and yet forever ago, at the same time. 3 Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Members Popular Post Gail 8588 Posted September 25, 2022 Members Popular Post Report Share Posted September 25, 2022 RobertD, As long as having these things around you bring you comfort keep them where they are and touch and kiss them all you want. There may come a time when you want to repurpose the sewing room, or whatever, and that's okay too. We will hold our true loves in our hearts forever even if the house burns down with all these things. My husband died in 2017 and I have moved twice, but his clothes still hang on a hook on my bedroom closet door. They bring me comfort every time I go in my closet. Many of his things are in every room of my house, though he never lived here. Many of us take comfort from photos and items of our loved ones. I also talk to my husband everyday. Gail 4 1 Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Members BohoKat Posted September 25, 2022 Members Report Share Posted September 25, 2022 10 hours ago, Gail 8588 said: I also talk to my husband everyday. Now I don’t feel so crazy!!! 2 1 Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
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