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Brayden

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Brief summary 2019

 

 

 

Hi, I’m mostly on here looking to find people who can help listen to, be friends with, and relate with my mom. She needs other mommas who have been through hell and back. 

 So this is briefly what my mom and I are looking for help with.

my moms 2nd born(my middle brother), passed away on January 12 2019 at the age of 26. Two months later, March 13 2019, my moms oldest(my big brother and absolute best friend my entire life) went missing in Cozumel, Mexico. No answers, but my parents were scammed out of about 5k I think. I am also a drug addict and she’s always worried about me, I don’t make things better. My sister had open heart surgery last year at the age of 25. My mom is also very sick with cancer and many other things. My dad does everything for this family and is repaid with absolutely nothing but ****. Idk what he did growing up or in his past life but I don’t get how he deserves any of what has been given to him. It’s not fair to him at all and never has been. I was engaged to my high school sweetheart and we were together for 5 years, got engaged on Christmas Eve, the last time we have pictures of my brother bc he died a month later. My ex-fiancé and I got pregnant around the beginning of the year 2019. She later had pains and started bleeding, miscarrying while we were taking a shower together, it fell onto the floor of the shower. This was shortly after finding out about my brother going missing. Then, 2 days before our 5 year anniversary in June 2019, my ex-fiancé, highschool sweetheart, absolute love of my life, Bestfriend, only person I had left other than the rest of my family, decided to cheat on me using my own truck while she was staying at my parents house. Then, when I called her out after my mom said she got home really late oke night, I checked our cameras and asked her about it which she denied anything happened, then later when we weren’t together she texted me to break up and admit to cheating. Broke up with me over a fucking text message after 5 years, being engaged and losing a baby together.  I went to rehab in florida for a little over a year from June 2020- Aug 2021. In that time she got pregnant and has since had a baby with a new guy and has a big happy family with her, the dude, his son, and their new baby. I picked up 2 years clean in June 2022 a couple months ago, and here recently relapsed again. There’s a lot more that happened before my brother died, but this is the stuff my mom and I need help with the most. Thank you for listening and helping<3

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Dear Brayden,

My thoughts are with you and your mom. I hope you can connect with some resources in the community or through church to help you during this very difficult time.

Here are some links I found:

https://mhaok.org/services/support-groups/

https://www.namioklahoma.org/support-groups

https://oklahoma.gov/odmhsas/online-support.html

https://www.occc.edu/support/grief/

 

 

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Hi Brayden, it sounds like there is a lot of trauma and pain in the family. A lot of losses you have been through. I believe the only way to help others is to start by helping yourself first. I am saying this, because recently my best friend died and I was not in the best shape mentally and physically and made some choices, which maybe otherwise I would not have made. What I mean is, that you can only be at your best by first taking care of you.

It is difficult to find the best professional help, which is why I would advise for you to try with free resources for trauma and pain release. You can try hypnosis videos and meditation video for trauma release. There are also sound videos for healing and relaxation. I am usually using YouTube and just listen to the thing I think would most help me that day. The thing is that we can not change the past or delete it, no matter how painful it is. But maybe there is a way to deal with the present and actually feel okay. I would also recommend to listen to Tenzin Wangyal Rinpoche. 

Love 

 

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