Going home after work

[Robert D.]

I laid my wife in the ground last weekend.. I came back to work this week.. I'm going home right now and it is really really hard. It is really hard to go home anymore my wife is not calling me during the day I'm not calling her on the way home.. there's no communication anymore other than me telling her how much I love her during the day and how much I miss her.. that is one of the hardest things that I'm going through right now.. is that she is not home to go to anymore.... her presence is there.. all of her things... quilts, clothes Etc.. but she is not there and that is really really hard.

[Dawn Wms]

My heart goes out to you.  I just came home from work myself, to an empty home.  I hate it and I haven't found anything that helps.  Losing my husband has been the worst and hardest thing I have ever gone through.  The way I have dealt with the inability to talk to my husband is through journaling.  I write to him as I would talk to him.  If that's not your thing, I think it is good to just keep "talking" to her like you do when you tell her you love her and miss her.  I am so sorry for your loss and wish I had words of hope and encouragement, but I am still deep in grief myself and it just really hurts.  Just want you to know I understand.  That's why I turn to this site myself-to see that other people know what I am going through.  

[Robert D.]

Thank you. I do find this site helpful too...I just got on it recently....and I identify with everything you just said.....I had the sweetest friend I will ever have....for 23 years....I never thought this would really happen....it will be constant heartbrake from now on....just existing till I see her again....just trying to get through each day. Amazing how much different I think of others now after hearing their spouse died......

[Robert D.]

I am very sorry for your loss too....! Thank you for your advice...and letting me know I'm not alone in this....unfortunately. 

[KayC]

I remember finding that one of the hardest things...coming home to an empty house, weekends, weeknights...no phone calls.  It's taken me years but I've grown more accustomed to it, but that said, I can't say I like it, I still miss him every day.

Do you have anyone checking on you?

[Lost7]

Dear RobertD

I am so very sorry for your loss. I miss those phone calls too him call him wanting to know what was for dinner, phone calls just to say I love you or tell him about something crazy that happened during the work day coming home to let empty house. People keep telling me I should get a pet but for now I can't barely take care of myself I just don't have the energy or the heart to love on anything else right now. I am lifting you up Robert let's hang on together.

Lost7 

[Robert D.]

Kay C.   Thank you.... I do have someone checking in on me and I appreciate that you asked that friend!

[Robert D.]

Lost 7..... it is exactly how I feel.. absolutely no energy to do anything.. everything I do I have to force it really really force myself to do it.. everything I do now is the first time I've done it since my wife passed on August 11th.. everywhere I go everything I do.. I've also considered getting a cat.. but with my mind changing all the time now I'm afraid I'll change it before I even go pick it up..... I lifted you up to the Lord also.. yes let's all help each other get through this ...this is the hardest thing anybody will ever go through....