Help

[Lance]

I lost my brother in January. I am dealing with the grief in my own way, but I need help/ideas how to help my brothers wife and their family. My sister-in-law tells me she is fine but the kids are telling me another story. I have suggested to her go for counseling, but keeps telling me she is fine. Clearly after conversation with kids she is not. I need suggestions of how to get her help. Any thoughts? 

[Kevin8988]

Does your sister in law has health insurance that covers counseling?  If not, it could be quite costly to her.

[Lance]

She does but insists she doesn’t need it and she is fine. She takes one of the kids for counseling. I suggested maybe trying that person, but response is she is ok. 

[reader]

I'm so sorry for your loss. It's good of you to want to help your sister-in-law.  Suggesting counselling is a good step, but I know it's hard when people are resistant. Is there another family member or friend that would be willing to speak with her. Gently say we are worried about you and the kids are too. We want to support you and the kids maybe consider talking to a counsellor or joining a support group. Maybe a pastor could also come to the house talk to her.

Write her an email or card or letter.

https://whatsyourgrief.com/support-grieving-family-member-friend-6-principals/

Keep the lines of communications open and keep checking on her. Maybe she'll feel more comfortable and accept some suggestions soon.