Psychic medium?

[Lost now]

Has anyone ever been to a psychic medium to connect with their loved ones. I have heard from some friends and strangers about their experiences and they all have shared positive experiences. They recommend I go to one too. I am seriously considering going to one as I desperately need to connect with my mom.

I am getting messages from her in my dreams. And I wake up everyday between 2-5 am. I now believe there is afterlife and I know my mom is around me.

Can you please share your experience if you have been to one?

[KMkm]

My wifes friends have seen mediums and also had dreams about her.  I feel that they have a connection but the information is subjective.  They have told me things that the mediums say and a lot is accurate but some stuff seems either outdated or irrelevant.  Like make sure the kids do this right away while they have been doing it for months.  But I have heard that time passes a lot faster for people who have passed.  So something that happened months ago could have been a few seconds or minutes ago for them.  If you want to see a medium just find a reputable one and interpret what they say so you can feel better. It's all about feeling better.  I have a meeting booked early next year.  I hope you find some form of connection.  

[widower2]

No I haven't, never would, and quite frankly I think it's all quackery and people praying on vulnerable people like us. 

[KMkm]

I believe in if something helps then it's worth looking into.  Maybe read books about it.  There is a good one that my late wife  and all her friends have read.  The title is 'Signs' by Laura Lynne Jackson.  I do believe in the afterlife cause I want to feel like we came from somewhere and we will go back there when we leave.  Spirituality and the afterlife can help with someone who is grieving.  They can maybe find comfort in knowing their loved one is with them still.  I want to believe.  My friend believes in spirituality and when my wife passed he phoned me and said that she keeps bugging him and saying key upstairs..over and over.  I didn't know what it meant but I asked my in laws and they said the key to your house is upstairs in our house.  Before my wife passed i told her that I couldn't go home ever again and she told me that I had to it was the kids house too.  When she passed I didn't return home instead stayed with my mom and my kids but when my friend called it was two weeks later and he was adamant that this meant something.  After I called my in laws and got the key I brought my kids home and he never heard her tell him that again.  Just do what you need to cause it's your grief and I belive that its your own journey to self discovery and healing.  I hope you find something or someone who helps you through these tough times.

[DMB]

I will most likely never seek out a medium.  I am not a total believer but I also don't totally not believe.  I do believe in signs, and I do believe some people have maybe not so much a gift, but a clearer view of moments of interpreting things they may see/feel.  When I was very young I had many experiences of deja vue and feel it was real. I literally would see myself at a place before I was actually there, or I would get a chill hearing someone say something that I previously heard.  I don't have it now.  I think by being so young and not having so many distractions and life experiences that's why.  Or not, LOL.  You must think I'm a little out there!   Now, living life and being through all sorts of things, it's just gone.  I drink wine some nights, and other nights that I don't drink, I take melatonin so my dreams are mostly forgotten or just bits and pieces.  I vividly had dreams of being lost in the beginning when he passed which makes sense.  I don't have so many now.  I've been blocking him and everything dream related.  My daughter was home one weekend and I woke her up by yelling for help!  She heard me, but in my dream it was like no one could hear me, nothing was coming out.   I will hopefully one day quit medicating and drinking to  be at peace with what my dreams may mean, but for now, the events of the world are just too crazy,  I am stressed a lot and tired and I  just want to sleep.  Maybe when I get back down by the water in the cottage, ( if it ever gets finished!) I can be relaxed more I can see him in a dream.

[Lost now]

3 hours ago, KMkm said:

I believe in if something helps then it's worth looking into.  Maybe read books about it.  There is a good one that my late wife  and all her friends have read.  The title is 'Signs' by Laura Lynne Jackson.  I do believe in the afterlife cause I want to feel like we came from somewhere and we will go back there when we leave.  Spirituality and the afterlife can help with someone who is grieving.  They can maybe find comfort in knowing their loved one is with them still.  I want to believe.  My friend believes in spirituality and when my wife passed he phoned me and said that she keeps bugging him and saying key upstairs..over and over.  I didn't know what it meant but I asked my in laws and they said the key to your house is upstairs in our house.  Before my wife passed i told her that I couldn't go home ever again and she told me that I had to it was the kids house too.  When she passed I didn't return home instead stayed with my mom and my kids but when my friend called it was two weeks later and he was adamant that this meant something.  After I called my in laws and got the key I brought my kids home and he never heard her tell him that again.  Just do what you need to cause it's your grief and I belive that its your own journey to self discovery and healing.  I hope you find something or someone who helps you through these tough times.

Thanks so much for your positive response. I know some people don't believe in it but right now it's the only thing that is healing me. Your experience is great. It was definitely your wife trying to connect. You should ask your friend to connect with her again. 

I do feel my mom's presence sometimes and I feel so confident at that time. It lasts a few minutes. 

Take care.

[SSC]

I am watching “Life after death” with Tyler Henry on Netflix.  It’s interesting.

[widower2]

Please don't take my response as "I don't believe there's an afterlife." I just don't buy that anyone has some special psychic power to talk to anyone on "the other side" but plenty of people make money claiming to. But again that's only my opinion; no more, no less. I could be wrong. And if it helps anyone, more power to them. 

[KMkm]

If you can find the book I referenced maybe it will give you a little bit of encouragement to know that maybe some people do have the ability.  The book is 'Signs' by Laura Lynne Jackson.  It talks about her ability to communicate with people who have passed and gives some people the ability to know that their loved ones are ok.  I know about skepticism and I always felt like that when we passed we just went somewhere but after reading more about the subject and others that have been helped I want to believe so maybe I will be one of those people that can get signs from my wife.  

[Sparky1]

My hope is in an afterlife, and I strongly believe that there is another parallel dimension. Sort of like the spiritual side, could be heaven for all we know.  When my wife passed away, I gave my stepson a portrait of my wife and I and he hung it in his living room. Last October him and his wife had their second child, another girl. He told me that the baby stares at the portrait all the time, he thinks she can see her grandmother at times and she recognizes her from the portrait. 

[LMR]

I don't know if I believe anything anymore but years ago I was visiting a psychic fair just out of curiosity. My mum had died a few years before. Spur of the moment I decided to have a sitting with one of the ladies there. She didn't tell me very much and I remember even less however at the time I had a very strong sense that I was being hugged. It was a really wonderful feeling. I wouldn't mind doing that again.

[Canadagirl81]

I absolutely will be seeking a medium soon to connect with Glenn...just have to find the right one. I know there are people that aren't authentic but I also know there are people that are. I've visited with one before when I lived in Canada and it was a truly amazing experience. 

On 3/15/2022 at 3:14 PM, SSC said:

I am watching “Life after death” with Tyler Henry on Netflix.  It’s interesting.

 I'm watching it right now, I'm loving it. 

[Lost now]

1 hour ago, Canadagirl81 said:

I absolutely will be seeking a medium soon to connect with Glenn...just have to find the right one. I know there are people that aren't authentic but I also know there are people that are. I've visited with one before when I lived in Canada and it was a truly amazing experience. 

 I'm watching it right now, I'm loving it. 

That's wonderful. I believe in it and looking forward to connect with my mom. I hope you find someone good soon. 

[Canadagirl81]

@Lost now I hope you do too hon. I hope you can connect with your Mom <3 

[Jemiga70]

@Lost now  Havent but would like to. Absolutely there are fraudsters and delusional people with no talent but I also believe there are people who have the ability to channel the departed. Theres a nonprofit organization I follow closely and theyve been a tremendous help to me in my grief, and their cofounder published a "guidebook" recently about mediumship, finding an evidential medium and avoiding the hucksters. Havent yet read it because i cant concentrate well enough! Also i did a workbook/video course called Love Knows No Death and there were 3 or 4 chapters on mediumship that I found helpful. Maybe that would help you?  I came into this a hardened, almost vehement skeptic, but my attitude has changed also because of some personal experiences the last 10 months since my wife crossed. This is not to say there are never any moments of doubt though... but Im the kinda guy who leaves the house and doubts that he switched the gas off.

[BBB]

I'm not trying to offend anyone here, that is not my intention but I have very strong feelings on this and I'm going to share them. I'm going to give you a couple of angles on this.

First, we are the very people that psychics seek out. We are vulnerable and very much want to reach out and see, touch, hear from our departed. I have looked everywhere, local and online and tried several. All of the readings were extremely generic with the occasional hitting on something one might say 'wow how did they know that'? But, you have to remember that the internet is a wealth of information. Secondly, my wife and I agreed a long time ago that if one of us died that IF we were able to communicate with the other somehow, whether it was directly or through another person, that we would use a 'secret word' so that we would know in fact that is was us. Only the two of us knew the secret word and we never told anyone the word or that we did this. I then sought out other psychics both local and online and every single on of them told me that they could not do it. In fact, only one even tried and they failed. 

Lastly, from a logical perspective...there was a man, James Randi, who had a standing offer to psychics. His offer was 1 million dollars to anyone who could prove their psychic abilities, whether it was moving objects or speaking to the dead. Not a single one has ever collected that money and I'm sure that there are psychics out there who could use a million dollars. 

It is for ALL of these reasons that I do not believe it is possible to communicate with the dead. But of course, we are all entitled to form our own opinions. All that said, I'd LOVE for someone to step forward and tell me our secret word. Then I'd not 100% that the medium was talking to my wife and not who they claim to be my wife. Without proof, we're all just trusting people who are trying to make a buck.

 

 

[KayC]

I don't participate in these discussions for my own personal/spiritual reasons I don't care to get into.  

[LMR]

A member of my family practices psychic mediumship. I haven't yet had a reading with him because he's been on some heavy medication after an injury. What I can tell you for absolute certain is that he isn't a con artist. He is a very gentle and caring soul, not at all materialistic.

He has questioned his "ability" himself. He once asked me if I thought it could all just be in his head. I have no answer to that. He has a sense that most others do not, whatever it may be. If you believe that "dead" people are alive on another plane of existence then I think you have to be open to the possibility that some people could commune with them in a limited way.

[Lost now]

8 hours ago, Jemiga70 said:

@Lost now  Havent but would like to. Absolutely there are fraudsters and delusional people with no talent but I also believe there are people who have the ability to channel the departed. Theres a nonprofit organization I follow closely and theyve been a tremendous help to me in my grief, and their cofounder published a "guidebook" recently about mediumship, finding an evidential medium and avoiding the hucksters. Havent yet read it because i cant concentrate well enough! Also i did a workbook/video course called Love Knows No Death and there were 3 or 4 chapters on mediumship that I found helpful. Maybe that would help you?  I came into this a hardened, almost vehement skeptic, but my attitude has changed also because of some personal experiences the last 10 months since my wife crossed. This is not to say there are never any moments of doubt though... but Im the kinda guy who leaves the house and doubts that he switched the gas off.

Thanks so much. I will look up the resources you have mentioned. I was very neutral towards this prior to my mom passing but I have read and heard several things which make me believe in it. I just want my mom around. 

Sorry for your loss. It's so difficult without them. 

[Gail 8588]

I am in the camp that many psychics are simply trying to make a buck.  Vulnerable, grieving people are easy marks for them. 

I am not saying they are all terrible crooks, some undoubtedly give words of comfort to their clients.  Others may be unscrupulous in their efforts to take more and more money from emotionally desperate people. 

If you do see a psychic, set a limit on how much money  you are able to turn over to them.  It is my feeling that the more money a psychic asks you for, the more likely that psychic is a con artist.

Good luck.

Gail 

[widower2]

12 hours ago, BBB said:

my wife and I agreed a long time ago that if one of us died that IF we were able to communicate with the other somehow, whether it was directly or through another person, that we would use a 'secret word' so that we would know in fact that is was us. Only the two of us knew the secret word and we never told anyone the word or that we did this. 

Houdini fan?  He famously did this with his wife also. It's a great idea.

[unmukt]

Hi, i went to a psychic medium yesterday. And the person didn't even want to charge me since he considers it his gift..he just hold my hand and then he described how my love looked . I didn't mention anything to him. He said that he was looking over me, describing his appearance. He then told me about one of our gifts ( again in never mentioned anything ) and told me that my love wants me to keep that gift close to me...and if i feel bothered too much, he asked me to put that gift in our favourite place that we went to. After that the medium made me feel him close by. My love is sad too and he was overwhelmed . He didn't want to go...he felt guilty since he always thought he would take care of me , and now he couldn't do so physically. But he said he would always be there with me. He asked me to pray so that we can be together in the next life too...and when we finally bid goodbyes , he went to his knees, hold my hand and kissed me. I am just grateful...wanted to share my experience if it makes any difference. I hope you get someone who would be genuinely interested in a reading and not fall for the fake ones. Lots of love .

[Lost now]

1 hour ago, Gagarina Nath said:

Hi, i went to a psychic medium yesterday. And the person didn't even want to charge me since he considers it his gift..he just hold my hand and then he described how my love looked . I didn't mention anything to him. He said that he was looking over me, describing his appearance. He then told me about one of our gifts ( again in never mentioned anything ) and told me that my love wants me to keep that gift close to me...and if i feel bothered too much, he asked me to put that gift in our favourite place that we went to. After that the medium made me feel him close by. My love is sad too and he was overwhelmed . He didn't want to go...he felt guilty since he always thought he would take care of me , and now he couldn't do so physically. But he said he would always be there with me. He asked me to pray so that we can be together in the next life too...and when we finally bid goodbyes , he went to his knees, hold my hand and kissed me. I am just grateful...wanted to share my experience if it makes any difference. I hope you get someone who would be genuinely interested in a reading and not fall for the fake ones. Lots of love .

Hi Gagarina,

First of all, sorry for your huge loss. Sending some strength your way. Thanks for sharing your experience with me. It's wonderful. Without a doubt it was the love of your life connecting with you. How else the medium could know about that gift! I am sure you also felt his presence and it gave you a lot of healing power. I am so glad it was a positive experience for you.

Right now this is the only thing that keeps me going. Knowing that our loved ones are around. I am totally broken and devastated and need my mom.

Thanks once again and take care!

-Ishita

 

[BBB]

9 hours ago, widower2 said:

Houdini fan?  He famously did this with his wife also. It's a great idea.

I did not know he did exactly that. I've heard that he told his wife that if there was a way to come back and communicate, he would do it. And of course, he did not because no one can talk to the dead.

[Steve79]

I believe some people are tuned into different frequencies of energy.

I've got a close day-to-day friend who works as a self-employed reiki practitioner. I was sceptical of reiki healings until she gave me one. She's without doubt tuned into something beyond, has been her entire life (she's 63), and would describe herself an an energy worker. Energy just attracts to her, and she channels is appropriately, as we're all just energy. Candles especially go mad around her, whether those candles are at my place, or hers. If she's present, they just flicker like mad, but never if she's not around. Her phone is filled with pictures of balls of energy light around her house. Not orbs, just weird patterns and streaks of energy. One day she went to her bedroom and a picture had fallen from her dresser onto the floor. When she picked it up, there was a very clear watermark imprint of a baby's face staring back at her. I've been with her when some highly unexplainable things have happened. And yet I never felt freaked out.

She constantly tells me of spiritual occurrences in the healing room when she's giving reiki healings. They seem to inadvertently merge in with the reiki. I could describe many examples, and a lot of her clients have come to expect it. My friend feels, through her body, characteristics of the deceased. For example, once she began coughing heavily and choking during the healing, and it transpires her client's mother had recently passed from throat cancer. Another time my friend's leg went entirely numb. She knew it was her client's grandfather. She knows who it is most times. She questioned her client, a young girl, and her grandfather had a leg amputated. I could talk for hours about my friend. Another time she couldn't stop herself from shaking back and forth. Her client's mother was always rocking in a rocking chair. The examples are endless, and it gets a lot more bizarre that I have described.

She doesn't make money from it. She doesn't even do much intentional mediumship because strangely enough she lacks confidence. As I said, it's inadvertent. But she did twice offer to connect with my nan, both times successfully. She asked me to ask my nan something only me and my nan would know. I asked what was it I gave to my nan when I was 4 years old. It was something my nan kept on her window ledge for the next 27 years til her death. My friend told me what it was. That's all the proof I need. There is absolutely no way she could have got lucky and guessed it. And it was something I would never have told my friend.

I am not afraid of death since I met my friend. Meeting her has completely changed my outlook on life. I feel very lucky to have her in my life. She's a very interesting friend. Interestingly, one of her adult daughters is similarly as gifted.

[Lost now]

3 hours ago, Steve79 said:

I believe some people are tuned into different frequencies of energy.

I've got a close day-to-day friend who works as a self-employed reiki practitioner. I was sceptical of reiki healings until she gave me one. She's without doubt tuned into something beyond, has been her entire life (she's 63), and would describe herself an an energy worker. Energy just attracts to her, and she channels is appropriately, as we're all just energy. Candles especially go mad around her, whether those candles are at my place, or hers. If she's present, they just flicker like mad, but never if she's not around. Her phone is filled with pictures of balls of energy light around her house. Not orbs, just weird patterns and streaks of energy. One day she went to her bedroom and a picture had fallen from her dresser onto the floor. When she picked it up, there was a very clear watermark imprint of a baby's face staring back at her. I've been with her when some highly unexplainable things have happened. And yet I never felt freaked out.

She constantly tells me of spiritual occurrences in the healing room when she's giving reiki healings. They seem to inadvertently merge in with the reiki. I could describe many examples, and a lot of her clients have come to expect it. My friend feels, through her body, characteristics of the deceased. For example, once she began coughing heavily and choking during the healing, and it transpires her client's mother had recently passed from throat cancer. Another time my friend's leg went entirely numb. She knew it was her client's grandfather. She knows who it is most times. She questioned her client, a young girl, and her grandfather had a leg amputated. I could talk for hours about my friend. Another time she couldn't stop herself from shaking back and forth. Her client's mother was always rocking in a rocking chair. The examples are endless, and it gets a lot more bizarre that I have described.

She doesn't make money from it. She doesn't even do much intentional mediumship because strangely enough she lacks confidence. As I said, it's inadvertent. But she did twice offer to connect with my nan, both times successfully. She asked me to ask my nan something only me and my nan would know. I asked what was it I gave to my nan when I was 4 years old. It was something my nan kept on her window ledge for the next 27 years til her death. My friend told me what it was. That's all the proof I need. There is absolutely no way she could have got lucky and guessed it. And it was something I would never have told my friend.

I am not afraid of death since I met my friend. Meeting her has completely changed my outlook on life. I feel very lucky to have her in my life. She's a very interesting friend. Interestingly, one of her adult daughters is similarly as gifted.

Hi Steve,

Thanks so much for sharing this with us. All the stories are believable. This is what I needed to know. I want something to keep me going. Otherwise I don't see a point of my life. I need my mom. But this makes me feel so much better. I will meet my mom one day and she is around me right now. 

Your friend is gifted. She should be confident and give readings to people.

Once again thanks so much. 

-Ishita

 

[BlueFrog]

I never went to a medium, I just rely on dreams. My Dad died when I was 18. I used to dream of him. Some were just regular dreams, and others felt as if he was really there. Many people said it was just my mind making sense of things, and wishing to see him in my dreams and that's why I dreamed of him. The next dream with my Dad, I remembered to ask him.

me - 'Dad, everyone says I'm manufacturing this in my own mind and that you aren't really here visiting me'.

Dad - 'OH! I'm really here. It takes me a lot of energy to do this'.

With my husband, he doesn't seem able to speak in my dreams. He mimes and shows me things with scenery and clothing. My first dream of him he was happy and smiling and wearing a bright yellow shirt he used to wear years ago. I believe he picked that shirt because it was from a time when he was young, strong and healthy.

My second dream of Tom, I had cried myself to sleep saying 'why? why? Why can't you be here with me?'. In the dream, he was in his wheelchair. (He had been paralyzed on the right side of his body when he was wheelchair bound). He was smiling really big! Then he started doing daredevil acts in his chair - zig zags, wheelies and all kind of antics! As it occurred to me that these moves would be impossible without the use of his right hand, he seemd to read my mind. He turned the chair to face me, and although he was already smiling so big, he smiled even bigger - and he stood up out of the chair!!! I took this to mean that he is no longer limited physically and he's happy.

About a week after that, again I cried myself to sleep with the same question. Tom came again in my dream, but this time he was not happy. We were at the hospital and he was all but catatonic and unresponsive in his wheelchair. He let me know that if he was here with me, this is how it would be. He would not be happy. So I stopped asking why he couldn't be here with me.

I think that when we sleep, our guard is down. Our conscious mind is at rest and it's probably easier for the departed to reach us. Tom's sister has had experiences where he sits on her bed. She can see the indentation in the blankets! I wondered why he didn't come to me in this way, and I think it's because I'm harder to reach - I'm always thinking and my mind doesn't stop. His sister is much more relaxed and open, and probably much easier to 'appear' to.

Tom's friends have had 'coincidences' they interpret as communication from him. I find it all very convincing. Remembering my Dad's remark, I'm sure it takes him a lot of energy to reach out and be received. I haven't reached out to any medium. I don't know if I ever will. I feel as though I've been blessed with the communications I've had. And Tom and I also talked about the angels that came visiting in his last months, so I know he was escorted when he passed. I asked if he was ok with where they would take him and he strongly replied '10-4'.

[KMkm]

I have had one dream where it felt so real.  Other than that I haven't had any dreams relating to my wife.  I hate that I ask over and over again but I never seem to have any.  There is a lot of things in this life that can't be explained but I believe that maybe when a person passes they take only part of their consciousness.  I wrote a poem for my wife that I engraved in the bottom of our urn case and when I see a medium I will ask if my wife likes it and even ask if she can tell me what it is.  I won't ask if she can recite the message.  There are skeptics and believers in every aspect of our lives.  Maybe in the future there will be more evidence and a more standardized way of communicating.  I will always believe that my wife is with me and if she can communicate with me then that's a plus.  I will pray for another dream and hopefully even more.  

[widower2]

11 hours ago, Steve79 said:

I believe some people are tuned into different frequencies of energy.

I've got a close day-to-day friend who works as a self-employed reiki practitioner. I was sceptical of reiki healings until she gave me one. She's without doubt tuned into something beyond, has been her entire life (she's 63), and would describe herself an an energy worker. Energy just attracts to her, and she channels is appropriately, as we're all just energy. Candles especially go mad around her, whether those candles are at my place, or hers. If she's present, they just flicker like mad, but never if she's not around. Her phone is filled with pictures of balls of energy light around her house. Not orbs, just weird patterns and streaks of energy. One day she went to her bedroom and a picture had fallen from her dresser onto the floor. When she picked it up, there was a very clear watermark imprint of a baby's face staring back at her. I've been with her when some highly unexplainable things have happened. And yet I never felt freaked out.

She constantly tells me of spiritual occurrences in the healing room when she's giving reiki healings. They seem to inadvertently merge in with the reiki. I could describe many examples, and a lot of her clients have come to expect it. My friend feels, through her body, characteristics of the deceased. For example, once she began coughing heavily and choking during the healing, and it transpires her client's mother had recently passed from throat cancer. Another time my friend's leg went entirely numb. She knew it was her client's grandfather. She knows who it is most times. She questioned her client, a young girl, and her grandfather had a leg amputated. I could talk for hours about my friend. Another time she couldn't stop herself from shaking back and forth. Her client's mother was always rocking in a rocking chair. The examples are endless, and it gets a lot more bizarre that I have described.

She doesn't make money from it. She doesn't even do much intentional mediumship because strangely enough she lacks confidence. As I said, it's inadvertent. But she did twice offer to connect with my nan, both times successfully. She asked me to ask my nan something only me and my nan would know. I asked what was it I gave to my nan when I was 4 years old. It was something my nan kept on her window ledge for the next 27 years til her death. My friend told me what it was. That's all the proof I need. There is absolutely no way she could have got lucky and guessed it. And it was something I would never have told my friend.

I am not afraid of death since I met my friend. Meeting her has completely changed my outlook on life. I feel very lucky to have her in my life. She's a very interesting friend. Interestingly, one of her adult daughters is similarly as gifted.

Interesting stuff Steve, thanks. Again I don't pretend to have all the answers, or any of the answers. Just my own opinions.

[Canadagirl81]

@Gagarina Nath I'm so happy you were connected to your angel. Reading your reply made me smile so much. 

@Steve79 Thank you for your reply here as well. I'm so glad you have her in your life too.

[Jen H]

I don't know if I believe in mediums just like I don't know if I believe there are aliens or ghosts. I do believe in a higher spirit and an afterlife.  I don't think I need someone to tell me that he is ok or with me to feel better.  I believe that already and I'm sure they will tell me that anyway.  If anyone feels they need validation to get through their loss better than I have no problem with it.  I actually encourage it, just do your homework before you go to one.  I do seem to believe in dreams and signs from personal experience.  My mom came to me in a dream and it was a turning point in my grieve with her.  I was searching for her in a park and when I found her I told her we need to go but she just sat there and said why, I like it here. She was sick and depressed for a long time before she passed.  As for my boyfriend, I was only having nightmares with him in dreams and kept begging for a good one.  One morning  I went back to sleep laying on my side after feeding my cats and suddenly I felt a gentle comforting warm weight on me.  It was him holding me.  I kept thinking or saying don't leave.  Then I turned my head and we passionately kissed.  Then I turned my head back and he put his hands in mine and held me again for awhile til I woke up.  The weird thing about it is I really never seen or heard anything. Just felt it.  I cried a lot that day but it further made me a believer of afterlife and that our loved ones are with us. 

 

 

 

 

 

[KayC]

Jen, I'm so glad you got that..  I haven't had a good dream of him since he died, and it's almost 17 years now.  I didn't take sleeping pills until the last couple of years so I can't fault that.  I don't understand why he doesn't come to me in my dreams, when we were each other's everything and always together...

 

[BlueFrog]

On 3/22/2022 at 9:46 AM, KayC said:

Jen, I'm so glad you got that..  I haven't had a good dream of him since he died, and it's almost 17 years now.  I didn't take sleeping pills until the last couple of years so I can't fault that.  I don't understand why he doesn't come to me in my dreams, when we were each other's everything and always together...

 

I think, like my Dad said, it takes a lot of energy for them to reach us. I find it interesting that my Dad and I always talked. But Tom doesn't talk, he communicates with action. I've also heard of the departed communicating with others when they can't reach their mate, and telling something specific so that the mate, when hearing of the dream, KNOWS it was a visitation.

When Tom was in his last months, he was visited. At first, they were folks he knew and that freaked him out. I heard him telling his sister, with such panic in his voice, "I saw 5 or 6 people - AND THEY WERE ALL DEAD!!!!". I prayed that if they were coming to get him, to at least not scare him. After that they came as beings that he did not know. I asked a lot of questions about them, and as best as I can ascertain, they were energy/spirit entities. I believe it was the same visitors he had previously seen and knew, but they didn't show their recognizable form to prevent upsetting him. So I think it takes energy to appear to us, and I also think they don't want to frighten us.

I hope you get a good dream. It's very comforting and I believe he would want that for you.

 

[KayC]

13 hours ago, BlueFrog said:

I think, like my Dad said, it takes a lot of energy for them to reach us.

I've heard this, but it's been nearly 17 years...

[BlueFrog]

7 hours ago, KayC said:

I've heard this, but it's been nearly 17 years...

Some people have a religious belief that there are no ghosts (all appearances of such actually being the work of Satan) and that we are not to interact with those on the other side. Did your husband believe this? I wonder if he feels he would frighten you, interfere with you or break a religious rule if he reached out to you.

I so wish he can reach you. :-) 

[widower2]

On 3/22/2022 at 9:46 AM, KayC said:

Jen, I'm so glad you got that..  I haven't had a good dream of him since he died, and it's almost 17 years now.  I didn't take sleeping pills until the last couple of years so I can't fault that.  I don't understand why he doesn't come to me in my dreams, when we were each other's everything and always together...

I'm sorry Kay. And I don't know if this helps, but I question if dreams and the afterlife are connected...so he's out there waiting for you, it's just that dreams aren't a conduit. They both seem hard to understand and sort of "mystical" to us so we sometimes think they're connected, but that's a dicey assumption. I've dreamed of my beloved here and there, pretty rare, but it's happened...but it wasn't like I'd hoped like some movie where she's coming to me and saying I miss you and I'll see you again as angels sing around her on a cloud or whatever. That's movie stuff.  Actually as far as what happened in the dream, other than her being in it, it was very ordinary. I didn't feel like "oh I just saw her!" Again just IMO, but I don't think dreams are like we're used to thinking of or seeing in movies, etc. It's just random mental static with no real meaning in general. That's why they're so weird, and I think why I often dream of situations or places I've never been or with people who I have no clue who they are. 

[BlueFrog]

21 minutes ago, widower2 said:

I'm sorry Kay. And I don't know if this helps, but I question if dreams and the afterlife are connected...so he's out there waiting for you, it's just that dreams aren't a conduit. They both seem hard to understand and sort of "mystical" to us so we sometimes think they're connected, but that's a dicey assumption. I've dreamed of my beloved here and there, pretty rare, but it's happened...but it wasn't like I'd hoped like some movie where she's coming to me and saying I miss you and I'll see you again as angels sing around her on a cloud or whatever. That's movie stuff.  Actually as far as what happened in the dream, other than her being in it, it was very ordinary. I didn't feel like "oh I just saw her!" Again just IMO, but I don't think dreams are like we're used to thinking of or seeing in movies, etc. It's just random mental static with no real meaning in general. That's why they're so weird, and I think why I often dream of situations or places I've never been or with people who I have no clue who they are. 

That's quite possible that there's no connection at all. For me, certain dreams I believe to be visitation, but who knows for sure. It makes me feel better to think so.

[Canadagirl81]

I completely disagree regarding dreams being nothing. I have lucid dreams and I interact with Glenn. The night he died he came to me and told me he knew he passed, to not worry about going through his stuff and getting rid of and that he would always be with me. A bright light of sun settled on him and I woke up. I’ve had many dreams since where we talk of him passing and he tells me that he really didn’t and “I’ll see.” We hold each other and talk. I’ve also connected with other relatives who have passed on and I have time travel dreams. Some of us are more in tune than others. I’m only speaking for myself here but I wouldn’t make blanket statements saying something is only one way when there are many many other possibilities. 

[Jen H]

No one knows for sure.  What I had with him felt more than a dream.  I felt half awake and my eyes felt open because I was seeing my bedroom the same way I would of if I were awake.  I didn't see him or anything else.  Just felt it all.  

[BlueFrog]

2 minutes ago, Canadagirl81 said:

I completely disagree regarding dreams being nothing. I have lucid dreams and I interact with Glenn. The night he died he came to me and told me he knew he passed, to not worry about going through his stuff and getting rid of and that he would always be with me. A bright light of sun settled on him and I woke up. I’ve had many dreams since where we talk of him passing and he tells me that he really didn’t and “I’ll see.” We hold each other and talk. I’ve also connected with other relatives who have passed on and I have time travel dreams. Some of us are more in tune than others. I’m only speaking for myself here but I wouldn’t make blanket statements saying something is only one way when there are many many other possibilities. 

I do believe in dream visitations. Like I said, I have 'regular' dreams, and then I have others where I feel it's an actual meeting. Your dreams with Glenn are far more elaborate and interactive than my dream communications with Tom. As I said, Tom can't speak to me, but my Dad could. I get songs from Tom. And I've had other things happen that are quite unexplainable, except that Tom did it! (like his Parks wrenchs that I LOST - in town, 12 miles away. I found them in his toolbox! I had looked there several times and they.were.not.there!). These things don't happen often, but they happen enough that I know he is around and he's ok.

He sits on his sister's bed as I described! She can see the indentation on the blankets! I wondered why he doesn't come and sit on my bed. But maybe it's just something about our natures, and the nature of our relationships that lets them touch us in one way or another. Kind of like how some of us have blue eyes, and some of us have brown eyes. One isn't better than the other, but it means our experiences are different.

I'm really glad you have the visits you do! :-) I hope KayC can have some too. Or if that's not possible, that she can connect in a meaningful way.

[BlueFrog]

I have a friend who is a widower. He only dreamed of his wife once. He was typing at the computer, and she came up behind him. He was surprised and said 'you're here!' He hugged her and sobbed and sobbed. That was the only dream he had of her. He doesn't believe in an afterlife. So why some have the experience and others don't, I can't explain. This is a strange and majestic Universe we live in. 

[KMkm]

Some people are more in tune like others say.  My friends wife has a close friend that has always heard people speak to her but it happens when she is close to others.  It has always been there and it's scary cause she never knows when it will happen.  She can't talk to them but she hears them ask her to tell someone they are ok and things like that.  I guess she has a connection somehow.  As for me I'm a logical and systematic person who's brain doesn't seem to have any connection but I said this before..I was driving down a road and yelled at my wife about giving me a sign, one that i would see no matter what.  I thought she was mad at me and hated me cause of things in the past and i was crying very hard.  My Sirius radio cuts out for no reason and the song Electricity by Dua Lipa comes on and the chorus was playing.  If you think about what we are made of at the smallest level and can wrap your head around it then spirituality and the other side shouldn't be too hard to comprehend. I can't say for certain since like I said I have to see concrete proof or my brain won't accept it but for some reason I want to accept it without that proof.  I haven't had many signs and I understand it's because of my brain and the way I am.  One of my wife's close friends went to a spiritual retreat where she wasn't allowed to talk or communicate in any way for 7 days and it changed her life.  If I want to be skeptical like I usually am then I have to make an attempt to try and meditate and do things that might help me change the way my brain thinks and is wired I guess.  I'm glad we have a place to discuss things on a level where no one starts yelling at each other.  Society today is full of hate and resentment towards others beliefs.  I hope I haven't upset anyone and please never take my opinion as being forceful or rude.  I'm just a lost grieving man trying to reconnect to a loved one like everyone else.  Take care of yourselves cause the world needs more compassionate, loving and accepting people.

[KayC]

I think dreams show our underlying feelings/thoughts/stresses in our subconscious but perhaps a visitation sometimes, I just haven't pursued it myself.  I know the love we share, I know it's still there, I live on faith in that love and in him and await my time to be with him...
Here's some articles on dreams...
control your dreams? Here's how you can -- ScienceDaily
Dream, How To Control Your (While You're Sleeping) | HuffPost
Nightmares and Bad Dreams in Grief

I find it interesting if people have good dreams of them they attribute it to a visitation, if they have bad dreams, their subconscious...

[Steve79]

2 hours ago, KMkm said:

One of my wife's close friends went to a spiritual retreat where she wasn't allowed to talk or communicate in any way for 7 days and it changed her life.

That's very interesting. Would you mind saying a bit more about that please? 

Why did she go? In what way did it change her life? How did that manifest?

[KMkm]

I did a 10 day meditation retreat in Merritt a few years ago and we spent the full 10 days in silence and couldn't look/speak/acknowledge any of the other 50 people there..meditation 10 hrs a day. It was intense.  She did it because of issues she had in her life.

[BBB]

I don't believe in any of it but to each their own. 

[Jen H]

No one really can prove anything.  But it was still a wonderful experience either way. What's important is if it helps the grief process.

 

[widower2]

14 hours ago, KMkm said:

I'm glad we have a place to discuss things on a level where no one starts yelling at each other.  Society today is full of hate and resentment towards others beliefs. 

Amen. Seems more and more people are becoming addicted to pitching a hissy fit. The media is largely to blame, but it's not all on them. 

Whatever is or isn't out there or how it works, who knows. But if people have had experiences that helped, more power to them. Whatever works! 

[Jemiga70]

On 3/24/2022 at 8:30 AM, Canadagirl81 said:

I’ve had many dreams since where we talk of him passing and he tells me that he really didn’t and “I’ll see.”

@Canadagirl81  Hi Canada Girl, I saw this and just had to comment. Something similar happened to me about 2 months and then again 5 months after my wife crossed.  We met in my dreams. I believe it was in fact a visit not a dream. She looked 15-20 yrs younger, vibrant, healthy and content.  In the first instance I said to her "You know you died, right?"  And she looked at me quizzically but still a Buddha kind of smile on her lips, and she said (not spoken but telepathically) "What? I'm right here!"  In the second instance I was telling her about what I've been learning about afterlife/paranormal and I said something like "You know our consciousness lives on and we really don't die, just the body does, and you know this is true, right?"  and she looked at me the same contented way, smiled and nodded.

I'm an openminded skeptic (and still battle daily w doubts) and even many days I'm a terrible nihilist, so nothing woo woo about me, but whatever the case these "dream" experiences continue to comfort me. I'll never forget them, unlike my dreams.

[Canadagirl81]

@Jemiga70 That is so so beautiful!!!!! That's exactly what happened with Glenn.  I said "You died on the 7th, you know that right?" and he looked at me...almost with this child-like smirk, like he knew some huge secret I didn't and he said "No I didn't beautiful, you'll see." I love this so much!!! I watched the documentary "Surviving Death" on Netflix and it talked of exactly that, consciousness after death. I just truly believe us humans have no idea what is truly going on. Our world and humanity is mystical and vast. I think the visits you had with your wife were in fact just that, visits and I find it so profound and beautiful what she confirmed for you. You have brought me comfort with your reply tonight, thank you from the bottom of my heart.