Members steveb Posted June 17, 2022 Members Report Share Posted June 17, 2022 We are all concerned about you tnd. Please post when you are up to it. Hugs … steve 3 Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Moderators Popular Post KayC Posted June 17, 2022 Moderators Popular Post Report Share Posted June 17, 2022 12 hours ago, foreverhis said: Isn’t it amazing how much we all care about each other? Yes, this is like a family. We pour out our innermost thoughts and feelings, it's no wonder we draw closer than we do with others. We share from our heart... When one so wonderful as tnd is living in a potentially dangerous situation...it's very hard! Praying! 5 Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Moderators KayC Posted June 18, 2022 Moderators Report Share Posted June 18, 2022 Getting will re-made today to get ex-SIL off it...don't want to leave my kids with the mess my sister did. Also getting POA and this coming week I'm getting my son added as signer on my bank account. Can never be too careful. I'm in good health but one shouldn't take risk about this, I am turning 70 in 2 1/2 months! 1 2 Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Members John9 Posted June 18, 2022 Members Report Share Posted June 18, 2022 5 hours ago, KayC said: Getting will re-made today to get ex-SIL off it...don't want to leave my kids with the mess my sister did. Also getting POA and this coming week I'm getting my son added as signer on my bank account. Can never be too careful. I'm in good health but one shouldn't take risk about this, I am turning 70 in 2 1/2 months! KayC, I am glad you are being proactive and I hope nobody has to go through what I have gone through. I have tried to make sure Son won't have any issues BUT I am not psychic JUST psycho. 1 1 1 Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Members Popular Post SSC Posted June 18, 2022 Members Popular Post Report Share Posted June 18, 2022 Worried about tnd…is there a reason she has to stay in Texas? The system is so overwhelmed there and it feels so unsafe for her. I wish there was a way we could help her. 5 3 Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Members Popular Post Gail 8588 Posted June 18, 2022 Members Popular Post Report Share Posted June 18, 2022 SSC, Many of us are worried about Tnd. I don't know of anything we can do other than keep her in our prayers. She is a very independent woman and seems determined to make her own way through whatever comes. An admirable trait for sure. I too wish she would reach out to us here for help, but it is a slippery slope to share personal information with strangers on the internet. She is doing her best to keep herself safe, I can appreciate that. Sadly, her living situation seems so unsafe that reaching out to people on the internet that have been in communication with her for more than a year may be a better risk than being so very alone and vulnerable in Texas. But it is her decision. I continue to pray for her health, physical safety and her relocation into a better living situation asap. Gail 4 4 Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Members Popular Post steveb Posted June 19, 2022 Members Popular Post Report Share Posted June 19, 2022 I wish there was someone like a trusted friend or relative that could post on her behalf when circumstances prevent her from doing so. steve 4 2 Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Moderators KayC Posted June 19, 2022 Moderators Report Share Posted June 19, 2022 17 hours ago, SSC said: is there a reason she has to stay in Texas? She says she can't travel because of her condition, oxygen, etc. I know if she were here we'd get help but she said she can't. 15 hours ago, Gail 8588 said: reaching out to people on the internet that have been in communication with her for more than a year may be a better risk than being so very alone and vulnerable in Texas. But it is her decision. I continue to pray for her health, physical safety and her relocation into a better living situation asap. Yes! 14 hours ago, steveb said: I wish there was someone like a trusted friend or relative that could post on her behalf when circumstances prevent her from doing so. Agreed! She is very alone and vulnerable. Her "family" did a number on her, putting her in this situation. They should be ashamed. I hope they're at least worried about her. 3 Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Moderators Popular Post KayC Posted June 21, 2022 Moderators Popular Post Report Share Posted June 21, 2022 @tnd Please report/update us to let us know you're okay!!! Last night Kodie swallowed a piece of plastic wrap, it had pizza juice/cheeses on it so smelled good, when I looked it was gone. I tried cramming my finger down his throat to get him to vomit, I was frantic, all I got was bit, can't say as I blame him, he must have thought I'd gone plum nuts! Walking him (aids digestion) and waiting to see if it passes, about 6" x 6", 8 3/4" at diagonal, oh how I hope/pray!!! 1 6 Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Members John9 Posted June 21, 2022 Members Report Share Posted June 21, 2022 kayC, I saw and commented on the other forum about hydrogen peroxide being used by the Vet to induce vomiting. There are rules though. 2 Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Members Jemiga70 Posted June 22, 2022 Members Report Share Posted June 22, 2022 11 hours ago, KayC said: Please report/update us to let us know you're okay!!! I was thinking the same thing today. It's been a week and a half. Please let us know you are alright @tnd. 2 1 Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Members foreverhis Posted June 22, 2022 Members Report Share Posted June 22, 2022 On 6/18/2022 at 4:31 PM, Gail 8588 said: I continue to pray for her health, physical safety and her relocation into a better living situation asap. Me too. As some of you know because I've mentioned it, while I do have faith and I do pray, I almost never "direct" my prayers specifically. Well, except for John and our girls. But right now, I'm sending little prayers each day for tnd's safety and to get her out of there into a safe place of her own. 3 1 Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Moderators KayC Posted June 22, 2022 Moderators Report Share Posted June 22, 2022 20 hours ago, John9 said: kayC, I saw and commented on the other forum about hydrogen peroxide being used by the Vet to induce vomiting. There are rules though. It's too late for that, do you use it straight or dilute it? He sure wasn't cooperating when I tried to get him to vomit! Of course they have no idea why mom is flipping out or the danger they're in! No news yet, he didn't poop on our walks, he may have at Jazzy's in the bushes, who knows where, it's a big property, lots of brush. I messaged tnd, I don't think she's on a computer. I just hope and pray she's okay. 1 Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Members John9 Posted June 22, 2022 Members Report Share Posted June 22, 2022 5 hours ago, KayC said: It's too late for that, do you use it straight or dilute it? He sure wasn't cooperating when I tried to get him to vomit! Of course they have no idea why mom is flipping out or the danger they're in! No news yet, he didn't poop on our walks, he may have at Jazzy's in the bushes, who knows where, it's a big property, lots of brush. I messaged tnd, I don't think she's on a computer. I just hope and pray she's okay. KayC, I know that when I replied it was not going to help and on the other forum I said too little too late. I would say make sure that anything I say is verified BUT, I believe it is undiluted 3% hydrogen peroxide and the amount is based on the weight of the animal. FYI, there is also a homemade remedy for skunk spray remedy too, that my loving wife used with much success. I too am worried about tnd, for many reasons. 1 1 Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Moderators KayC Posted June 22, 2022 Moderators Report Share Posted June 22, 2022 Thank you, John! I have been lucky to have never had a dog sprayed by a skunk except years ago when I was at work and my husband got to deal with it. I can't imagine what could keep her away this long... 1 1 Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Members Popular Post Gail 8588 Posted June 22, 2022 Members Popular Post Report Share Posted June 22, 2022 1 hour ago, KayC said: . . . I can't imagine what could keep her away this long... Here is what I am imagining (hoping) is going on with Tnd. She may have become ill enough to be taken to the emergency room to address her sarcoidosis. As it was an emergency, her phone and laptop did not go with her. After a week of good care her condition improved. However, it could be that at the urging of her husband, Francis would not agree to Tnd being discharged back to their home. If so, the hospital may have moved her to a rehab facility while a social worker tries to assist Tnd in obtaining subsidized housing. Hopefully Tnd will eventually be reunited with her phone and laptop, or she will be able to get replacements and she will post here again and let us know her status. This is the most positive scenario that I can imagine, so that's what I am going with. Keeping her in my prayers. Gail 7 Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Members John9 Posted June 22, 2022 Members Report Share Posted June 22, 2022 Gail 8588, I have had similar thoughts and it is a shame there is no way for anyone to know what actually has happened or is going on. Because if you are correct I think that tnd would like to know that we care for her and are worried. I am almost positive when something happens to me, nobody will know about it. I will just not be here because I don't think our Son will update anyone. 3 1 Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Members Gail 8588 Posted June 22, 2022 Members Report Share Posted June 22, 2022 John9, You are correct that for most of us, myself included, we will just disappear from the forum and no one here will know what happened to us. However, with you and me and most people on here, I have confidence that relatives or close friends will know what happened and will take appropriate action. Your son or my sons will get us care or treatment if we need it. When the time comes, your son will see to it that you are buried next to your loving wife, just as my sons will get me buried next to my dear husband. Tnd on the other hand is so very alone. Gail 4 Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Members John9 Posted June 22, 2022 Members Report Share Posted June 22, 2022 Gail 8588, I understand what you said, and I believe early on in chats with tnd we were discussing what might happen. I am not sure if things ever got done as far as putting things in writing and making it legal because of all of the issues she had. I just hope that she is okay and will be able to get the peace she so richly deserves. I also wonder and worry about her cats because I don't trust Frances to do the right thing if it comes to that. My opinion only based on comments made by tnd. 3 Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Members Popular Post Roxeanne Posted June 23, 2022 Members Popular Post Report Share Posted June 23, 2022 I don't know why life can be so hardest for someone...she lost her husband as all of us, but for her it was really bad 'cos changed her life so dramatically...hope the best for her and her cats! Hope that mad family are doing the right thing at least for once in their life... 6 Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Moderators Popular Post KayC Posted June 23, 2022 Moderators Popular Post Report Share Posted June 23, 2022 15 hours ago, Gail 8588 said: She may have become ill enough to be taken to the emergency room to address her sarcoidosis. As it was an emergency, her phone and laptop did not go with her. After a week of good care her condition improved. However, it could be that at the urging of her husband, Francis would not agree to Tnd being discharged back to their home. If so, the hospital may have moved her to a rehab facility while a social worker tries to assist Tnd in obtaining subsidized housing. Hopefully Tnd will eventually be reunited with her phone and laptop, or she will be able to get replacements and she will post here again and let us know her status. You may well be right and if so, I sure hope she IS getting help she so needs! I can't imagine anyone putting someone so ill out on the streets, she has been subsidizing their income too! I hope they don't take her belongings and what about her cats, they mean so much to her and she'd be frantic about their well being! 5 1 Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Moderators KayC Posted June 23, 2022 Moderators Report Share Posted June 23, 2022 15 hours ago, John9 said: I will just not be here because I don't think our Son will update anyone. I've asked my son to but I don't know if he'd think of it in his shock. I've been getting everything in order "in case" so they don't have to go through what Peggy is putting us through with her inaction/procrastination. You can't procrastinate death....no one knows the day or hour! Will done, POA done, Medical directive done, getting my son on as signer asap, they didn't have time to do the card yesterday (short handed) so I'm picking it up today and will mail it to my son for signature, I've made copies of everything for him and my daughter. I'm now keeping everything important in my briefcase in case of sudden fire evacuation, instead of files. It's harder keeping my briefcase updated with vet shots, etc. but it's how I have to live now, after last summer and the current weather patterns, ugh. I guess all we can do right now is continue praying for tnd. I wonder if she knows how much we care for her! 2 2 Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Members John9 Posted June 23, 2022 Members Report Share Posted June 23, 2022 19 minutes ago, KayC said: I guess all we can do right now is continue praying for tnd. I wonder if she knows how much we care for her! KayC, I think that she does, because we have told her we care. We all have indicated how much we want her to have a safe place for her and the cats. I just wonder what has happened. 1 2 Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Members Kevin8988 Posted June 23, 2022 Members Report Share Posted June 23, 2022 I pray for @tnd too. 2 2 Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Members DMB Posted June 23, 2022 Members Report Share Posted June 23, 2022 Yes, worried as well. Hope Gail's thoughts are possibly what has happened. 3 1 Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Moderators Popular Post KayC Posted July 6, 2022 Moderators Popular Post Report Share Posted July 6, 2022 Yesterday was a day from hell and today is looking to be the same. When I had a tire repaired months ago, apparently that patch didn't hold, got a flatter than flat tire 50 miles from here, in a horrible place, very scary, some of the cars zip by up to 90 mph. Called the tire place (tires under warranty still), of course, no help. Called a tow and he put my donut on for a price. Drove to Les Schwab because I thought I had an account there, turns out they close it if not used within two years. Who the hell needs tires that soon! Right in between credit cards, new one came but didn't have it yet, no cash on me as I'd just bought groceries (mostly refrigerated items that were out for hours in hot weather despite my attempts to run the A/C most of that time) and gas. I had to pay someone to come get me, fortunately she had cash so I reimbursed her after I got home, also she took Kodie to her house to play as he'd been inside way too long already. Had to put groceries away after getting home and walk down to get Kodie, of course, it was pouring rain and humid and I left my rain jacket in the car. Jack's phone has been out and I'd reported it so it's hopefully fixed, he'd mowed and weed whacked yesterday but forgot the graves, so guess I'll have to try to take care of that later but can't use mine, so will have to use something else, not easy with my hands/pain. Of course, my son who has been absentee all this time called me last night when I was exhausted as he finally got time alone (rare), I was too tired to even fix some dinner! I had to find someone willing to give me a ride back to get my car today (more $), having to pay for a new tire I shouldn't have to, too afraid to drive the highway on that donut! So far I'm out $364 through no fault of my own! I have a long mtg. late this afternoon, don't know how I'll do this, take care of Kodie, on 5 1/2 hours sleep the last two nights! Spent from 2 am to 6 am changing my credit cards on vendor's sites, of course had to call some as their website are lame! Again, all this would have been so easy had George been here! He'd take care of the donut, he'd have followed me to my tire place where they'd take care of it under warranty, he'd give me a ride home from there and back down today to pick it up...but nope, instead I'm left struggling on my own! Now an old lady, feeling vulnerable... Oh, and in the middle of all this, my family decides to set a time to spread Peggy's ashes! So they're messaging me while I'm trying to get help...they've waited over three months and NOW it's an emergency?! My little sister even had to mention how quickly her schedule fills up (having fun)...like the rest of us aren't busy and don't have lives?! 2 6 Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Members Gail 8588 Posted July 6, 2022 Members Report Share Posted July 6, 2022 Good luck getting through today. Hopefully things will settle down. I totally get how hard it is to do everything, without our sweeties carrying 1/2 (or more) of the load. Hugs, Gail 2 1 Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Members John9 Posted July 6, 2022 Members Report Share Posted July 6, 2022 KayC, I am sorry that you are having such a hard time right now. I sadly have to say once again that the people who make decisions don't seem to care or understand how it affects us. You are right that a credit account for a specific place like a tire store should have more leeway. But that is my opinion and it means nothing in the way things are run nowadays. Not that this is the same, but our Son is dealing with trying to get money back that was "stolen" from his checking account. A fraudulent debit went through and the phone lines are overwhelmed because of lack of help and he was on hold for over 3 hours only to be told he had to wait and call back. I agree that if my loving wife was still alive all of the minor issues would be better handled. I say minor because with her support we seemed to handle everything. Now all of the minor stuff is really hard and the major stuff is just so hard and seemingly so overwhelming that I just want it to be over. I have said before that I don't understand people anymore and why the priorities seem out of line with mine. Maybe it is just me and how I see things now and how I feel but I think communication is sorely lacking, if I receive anything it seems to be as an afterthought. I hope things get a little easier for you and you can enjoy some relaxing time with Kodie and Panther too. 2 Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Moderators KayC Posted July 7, 2022 Moderators Report Share Posted July 7, 2022 John, I'm so sorry this happened to your son, it took me 2 3/4 hours to report the recent fraud on my M/C and about 3 3/4 hours to change to my temporary visa on my accounts, then MORE time when my permanent one came! That's when Dish suckered me, which I had to cancel last night! I don't think I got to relax until 8 pm! That's when I usually go to sleep so stayed up a little longer to cuddle with Kodie. What a trooper! On 7/6/2022 at 7:37 AM, John9 said: I don't understand people anymore and why the priorities seem out of line with mine. I don't think I'll ever understand it! I'm out all the $ for the tires (warranty doesn't apply to damage) so no coverage for new one either, the tow guy (who was wrong about the issue, it was a different tire that hadn't been patched, it had a broken off screw in it that I must have got on the freeway), gas for rides coming to my rescue, and groceries that didn't survive the hot day in spite of trying to keep them cold in car's A/C which isn't as good as my previous Honda's). I got my replacement M/C and spent hours changing my autopays etc on line, but couldn't do so with Dish as they don't have a 'wallet" on line so had to call them....they guy told me I HAD to replace my equipment or it wouldn't work by 7/24! He scheduled an appt for me to get new equipment, it would have been more $, a new two year contract, up to $240 penalty if I cancel within that time, and tried to walk through the "policy" in fast motion, I wasn't comfortable with it, I knew I'd lose all my 100+ recordings and have to learn something new (am NOT a techie and already am under so much stress my brain isn't up to par!)...he took 45 min. cutting out my walk with Kodie which he needed as I knew I'd be gone most of the day. Messaged Iris requesting she come get him midway but she didn't get the text or phone msg until the end of the day! I ended up running him down to Jack's to pay him and back home to get ready for my ride to pick up my car, he barely got to pee, that's it! He's such a good boy! I also made my 3rd trip to the bank for the form to SNAIL MAIL to my son this time as he never got their email, so brought the stamped envelope with me and mailed it to him, texting him it was on its way. Got home in time to leave for Deaconess Mtg but called and said I'd be a few min. late (they're always late so I couldn't feel too bad), as I had to give Kodie a 15 min. walk! Had 2 1/2 hour meeting, ugh! Why do they take so long! To me, anything longer than an hour is not good planning and not respectful of our time! Gave Kodie a choice of park or Jazzy, he chose Jazzy, I was so glad as he really needed getting energy out and I needed a few min. to decompress, their place is beautiful and relaxing! (They even have their own private gorge and waterfall, beautiful trees, bushes, Jazzy lives in dog/people heaven!). Fixed eggs for dinner, will return phone calls later, too tired to do any more! Panther Kitty was happy to see me, as was Kodie! 2 Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Members Popular Post Gail 8588 Posted July 11, 2022 Members Popular Post Report Share Posted July 11, 2022 On 6/11/2022 at 5:57 AM, tnd said: I am home and okay. Will post more later. It has been a month since Tnd posted or visited this site. Thinking of her today and hoping for the best for her. Gail 4 2 Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Members Popular Post John9 Posted July 11, 2022 Members Popular Post Report Share Posted July 11, 2022 Gail 8588, I have been thinking about tnd and am worried about her too. 5 Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Members Popular Post Roxeanne Posted July 11, 2022 Members Popular Post Report Share Posted July 11, 2022 I'm really scared and worried about Tnd...a month without post it's too much for her....i hope for the best but.... 3 2 Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Members Popular Post Gail 8588 Posted July 11, 2022 Members Popular Post Report Share Posted July 11, 2022 It sounds strange to say, but if she has died (of natural causes), I would be sort of happy for her. She would be with her husband, no longer in pain or stressed out. My worry is that Fran's husband kicked her out of their home and that Tnd is somehow in worse circumstances than when she was in Fran's house. I still pray for her and hope she is not suffering. Gail 3 2 Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Members Popular Post John9 Posted July 11, 2022 Members Popular Post Report Share Posted July 11, 2022 Gail 8588, I have had the same thoughts and the same hopes. But we really have no way of knowing unless tnd comes back online, because if she died I doubt Fran would let us know and if they kicked her out they wouldn't say that either. But I have often thought and worried about her. But I would be happy for her if she is no longer suffering with her medical issues and reunited with her Husband. I know that is my hope for myself and everyone else as well. 4 2 Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Members Popular Post DMB Posted July 11, 2022 Members Popular Post Report Share Posted July 11, 2022 Since I'm following this thread I keep hoping the next post will be from her. 3 3 Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Members Popular Post SSC Posted July 11, 2022 Members Popular Post Report Share Posted July 11, 2022 I check every day as well. I too have this push/pull of wanting her to return and post telling us she is okay but also wishing her to be out of pain and to be reunited with her husband. We have such trauma centered around death that it is still difficult for me to let someone go even knowing they will be happier in the next life. But I mostly worry about her being alive right now not being able to have control of her life enough to post. I don’t even know if Fran was aware of tnd finding support here and how we would be concerned for her welfare. 4 2 Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Members steveb Posted July 11, 2022 Members Report Share Posted July 11, 2022 Like you all, I only hope and pray for the best for tnd. I’ve said it before, but I’ll say it again, she is an extraordinary woman. Her strength of character shines brightly through her posts. 3 1 Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Moderators Popular Post KayC Posted July 12, 2022 Moderators Popular Post Report Share Posted July 12, 2022 She is an amazing woman, her outlook, positivity... It hits us all. 3 2 Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Members Popular Post John9 Posted July 12, 2022 Members Popular Post Report Share Posted July 12, 2022 1 hour ago, KayC said: She is an amazing woman, her outlook, positivity... It hits us all. KayC, As I had said, tnd really helped me because of her positivity. If she is gone, I will miss that. I know that she was so looking forward to being able to enjoy some peace with her cats in her own place again. 3 3 Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Members Popular Post Sparky1 Posted July 12, 2022 Members Popular Post Report Share Posted July 12, 2022 I also am concerned when I don't see a post from her. One doesn't know what to think. I just pray that she is okay and will soon post again with good news. I know a lot of us like our privacy but in her case it would have been nice if she had messaged someone with her cell number. Let's all hope for the best. 3 4 Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
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