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I have decided to write about this journey. It may be crap but it may also be a master piece, I'll go for something in the middle. It may be just for me in the end but who knows. I just feel this journey needs to be told by someone who is experiencing it, not a counselor or psychologist. The boots and all version.

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Yoli, I commend you for tackling this task. I hope it turns out into a guide that will help many people that are going through this tortuous ordeal of losing their partner. And you're right, no counselor or psychologist can tell someone what to expect and how to cope with this ordeal, unless they have gone through it like us that have lost their partner that was our world. I wish you the best with this project.

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36 minutes ago, Yoli said:

I have decided to write about this journey. It may be crap but it may also be a master piece, I'll go for something in the middle.

Excellent!  I'm a writer, so I have a little experience with writing crap and "Oh, that is so good!" (often followed by, "Wow, did I actually write that?") and everything in between.  I urge you not to worry about "Is this wonderful writing? Will someone else like it?" when you write what we'll call the first draft.  Just spew it out, let your thoughts go, and know that sometimes your mind will likely veer off into tangents along the way, which is actually a good thing.  Then you can go back later and read what you've written, maybe organize it differently, and delete or add as you go.  You may even be able to see the steps forward, small or large, that you have made and are making, but hadn't realized.

The only thing that matters when you write about your grief journey is that it helps and comforts you.  Who knows, you may discover that writing your journey will help someone else along the way.  It may just be your masterpiece.   Shooting for something in the middle is always a good goal because it's more important that we communicate clearly than that we write elegant or elaborate prose. 

Writing can be so cathartic that I'd encourage everyone to at least keep a journal of some kind.

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Thanks both. I do believe it will be cathartic. Indy was always the one who was so good with words and it was her who was looking into a writing course. I already have a bunch of notes and a rough idea of the layout.

Foreverhis, I might have to ask for some advice....

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Yoli

I'm glad you are tackling this project.  I wish I had the discipline to write.  Those of us going through this journey need so much reinforcement.  We tend to avoid talking about our pain outside this group.

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Yoli, that is a great idea, it can be very therapeutic.  

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16 hours ago, foreverhis said:

Writing can be so cathartic that I'd encourage everyone to at least keep a journal of some kind.

I found this to be so true! I started journaling the day my husband passed away and it is cathartic. For the first few weeks, I was writing about my feelings and what I was doing, but at some point it turned into "talking" to my husband. I also post quotes that speak to me about some aspect of Doug, such as "My dearest Doug, I wanted to spend the rest of my life with you, but I’m deeply honored knowing that you spent the rest of your life with me."

 

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3 hours ago, Diane R. E. said:

"My dearest Doug, I wanted to spend the rest of my life with you, but I’m deeply honored knowing that you spent the rest of your life with me."

That is beautiful Diane.

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On 2/3/2021 at 6:42 PM, foreverhis said:

Excellent!  I'm a writer

Me too

 

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so I have a little experience with writing crap

Me too :) 

 

 

Writing a journal was definitely therapy for me when I desperately needed it. It was every day at first, then gradually became more sporadic. It's not for everyone, but as you say, it's not about being "great writing," it's about expressing yourself in a time when you so badly need to... 

 

 

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Yoli -I live in NZ (Wellington).   Where are you? How canI contact you? Sorry folks, I only know how to post and reply.  Thanks/Ann

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6 hours ago, widower2 said:

Me too

 

Me too :) 

 

 

Writing a journal was definitely therapy for me when I desperately needed it. It was every day at first, then gradually became more sporadic. It's not for everyone, but as you say, it's not about being "great writing," it's about expressing yourself in a time when you so badly need to... 

 

 

I wrote a journal since the day of my loss, it was a therapy, a way to express my feelings

 creativity  is a great way to transform  your wounds in beauty

 

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7 hours ago, AnnRA said:

Yoli -I live in NZ (Wellington).   Where are you? How canI contact you? Sorry folks, I only know how to post and reply.  Thanks/Ann

Click on her username/avatar, it will take you to her profile.  Click on message and you will be able to write a personal note to her.

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aha - Thank you Kay, I will do that.

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16 hours ago, AnnRA said:

Yoli -I live in NZ (Wellington).   Where are you? How canI contact you? Sorry folks, I only know how to post and reply.  Thanks/Ann

Hi Ann. I have replied in the pm you sent me.

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