I think I did something good

[Rashell]

I started using the “GriefSupport” subreddit on reddit, and at first I was using it to vent and whatnot, but I found it made me feel better when instead of venting, I was responding to people with my experiences, answering their questions, and giving them the resources that have been helping me. When I’m feeling really awful, I’ll go on and respond to everything I can and try to help anyone that’s asking for it, or vent by sharing my experiences on the posts of people going through the same thing. Last night, a girl that had watched her boyfriend get murdered had posted and said she wanted to and was going to kill herself, she had a plan but she was scared. I spent a long time writing to her and kept messaging to check on her. I got really worried when she stopped replying and was thinking, why am I purposely putting myself through more trauma right now as I stayed up all night waiting for her to respond. (If any of you don’t use reddit, it’s basically like this site and no personal info is shared so there would be no way to contact anyone to do a welfare check) Well, she did finally reply this morning and said that she was so glad she found the website and it saved her life last night. It just felt really good to know that because of the awful thing that happened to me, I was able to help someone at their lowest point. Today has been a really rough day but I did find a little joy in that, and to me, my partner is still apart of doing great things to help others through me, even though he isn’t here. 

[KayC]

Rashell, you are very early in to focus on helping others as you have your plate full with your own grief, so fresh!  I am so glad you were there for her and saved her life!  Yes, we can save lives here or on other platforms, we never know who we might touch.  

Don't feel you have to be there for everyone else at this time though, you have so much you're dealing with right now, I know, you're a very caring person.  There will be time for that as you have gone through this a little longer, today I hope you can get some sleep!  We have come to love you already.  Dr. Phil says it's good to bring some positivity to our hard experiences, such as John Walsh with Missing Persons did.  But maybe not week one or two.

 

[Maria_PI]

11 hours ago, Rashell said:

Today has been a really rough day but I did find a little joy in that, and to me, my partner is still apart of doing great things to help others through me, even though he isn’t here. 

Hold on to this feeling! Try to find solace in the fact that you have him in your heart and mind and no matter what anyone else says or does, that won't go away and no one can take it away from you, because it's inside you. I know it's hard without the physical presence of our soulmates but carrying his legacy is one one deep satisfaction and motive, at least for me, to keep on living and taking care of myself as he would have.