Losing my best friend

[MessyJessie]

I lost my mother to a brain aneurysm Nov 2020. She had been fighting to live since she suffered from the aneurysm suddenly in July. She was only 65 and it was all so sudden. The pandemic made it so hard to be there for her. She was moved to several Health care facilities but when she had emergencies most hospitals allowed us to visit. I have regrets with the things I didn’t say or said. My mom was someone I called frequently so a big change in my life. I really envisioned her living to be much older. I’m so glad she retired early and was able to enjoy her past 5 years. She was a wonderful mother and Grammy. I’m blessed to have siblings, aunts and uncles and cousins. God, exercising, My husband and children keep me going. I’m incredibly lonely still and have no friends or feel like I can’t really talk to anyone. I lost my father as well when I was 17. 

[BEQUET93]

The loss of your mother is indeed a big change and it will take time to adapt. While you do have your own family, as well as your siblings, aunts, uncles, and cousins, your mother was unique and you had a special relationship with her, so the feelings of loneliness are understandable. No one will ever be able to fill the hole that was left by your mother's passing, but, in time, it will be easier for you. From you description of her, she sounds like she was an amazing woman and I am very sorry for your loss.

[Monty]

MessyJessy,

I too lost my mother to a brain aneurysm 4 years ago when she was 62. It too was very sudden but instant. There was no chance to say all the things that were left unsaid. My siblings, father and I all wrote Mum a letter to say all the things we needed and wanted to say but never had the chance. Maybe you could write your Mum a letter or keep a journal writing what you would normally say to her. 

My Dad was my rock and he passed in October. I miss him terribly and wish I could talk to him. Get one of his big hugs and hear his laugh. I’m crying as I type this. I guess what I am trying to say is I feel your sadness and you are not alone. Be kind to yourself.