Crying

[LMR]

I am crying so much that I have lost my eyelashes!

I thought I was getting calmer after 3 months then suddenly I crashed even worse than before. Three weeks of crying. I cry all day. Eventually I fall asleep for a while then wake and cry some more. My eyes are stinging. I try to get out a little, just to walk to the store but I am crying before I make it home. I don't know what to do.

My doctor's appointment got cancelled. Because of the rise in Covid the office is closing for a month.

[LoveNeverDies]

Is your doctor doing virtual visits ? Maybe they can prescribe something over the phone . My heart is breaking for you ! 

[Diane R. E.]

Oh goodness LMR; yes, your doctor's office should do a virtual visit Or even a telephone visit. If not, you should look elsewhere! I venture to say that many of us here have needed medications, especially during these early months after our loss.

[Maria_PI]

I am so sorry you are going through this! I’ve been there, crying so much that can harly see and my eyes sting. But before you resort to medication, would you consider some a breathing technique to help you calm down - two consecutive inhales then a long exhale and a 5 second hold. It’s like a sigh. One to three times should be enough to help you with the bouts of anxiety. If you think about it - that’s what’s babies do after they have cried themselves to exhaustion. But with babies it is reflexive, while you can do it consiously. Hope it helps you like it does to me. I learned it from a neuroscientist, Andrew Huberman. It has something to do with the release of dopamine in the brain.


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[Dawn Lee]

Crying is good for the soul. I still sit and cry over pictures. I cry over what would have been. Sigh.....

[jmmosley53]

Hi LMR,

I cry a lot also, one thing I try to do is to schedule crying time.  I tell myself 'hold it together until 2pm'  then at 2 I cry my eye out.  I have dark circle under my puffy eyes from so many tears. I don't like looking like I have been in a fight so the cry time is a vanity thing for me but it works some days.  Other day nothing stops the tears so I let them fall.

If your doctor's staff still answers the phone, ask for a referral.  If they don't answer the phone call your insurance carrier and ask for a recommendation.  If they don't help, go to an emergency room.  I believe you have depression and if not treated it will not improve.

[SharedLife]

LMR - Please consider seeking grief counseling.  Go to a web search engine and search for "grief counseling [your city], [your state]". In some areas, there are grief counseling groups, often at churches and conducted by a relgion-based group. One of my neighbors went to one of the group sessions and said it was helpful.

[KayC]

Someone in the pet forum is losing her eyesight, damaged due to over-crying.  It's good to cry, it's a release, but overdoing it can be harmful as she's discovering.  Keeping our minds occupied part of the time can help (I had to return to work within two weeks and I figure it helped, even though I had meltdowns, they were fewer than they would have been had I been home all the time.  Neither is it good to bottle up your emotions or shut them out totally...try for some balance such as here...https://www.griefhealingblog.com/2013/12/finding-crying-time-in-grief.html

 

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