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I’m struggling terribly. My mum died suddenly.


AlisonC

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My Mum was diagnosed with dementia last year, although she is very tiny and frail, her dementia was in the early stages and apart from a bad memory she was still relatively fit for an 80 year old. I was very close to both my parents who have been together for almost 60 years. 

Visited them every Wednesday for dinner after I finished work. I hadn’t been to see them for 2 weeks due to the lockdown 2.

She had a heart attack in the bathroom. My Dad found her collapsed and rang me. I live about a mile away. 

I got there in a few minutes and as I walked in my Mum was on the dining room floor being worked on. Her tiny frail lifeless body with 2 big paramedics doing CPR and the electric shock thing. 

She was pronounced dead at 4:22pm on the 21st November 2020. 

Her funeral was yesterday. I’m a mess, I’m still in total shock and in complete despair. 

My 3 older brothers live away, 2 in London and one in N.I. 

I was supposed to return back to work tomorrow. I can’t do it, I’m not ready. 

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Alison C,

I’m so sad for your loss and trauma you went through. It’s heartbreaking to lose a mom. I lost mine two years ago and she was also very frail. It devastating. Therapy, making myself take small walks, writing and time have helped me cope. Know my thoughts are with you. Hope you’re doing ok.

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Alison,

It's been 2 years next month that my mom passed.  I still find myself longing for her company and conversation.  Some days I feel like she is with me and others I just cry .

I am so sorry for your loss!

May your memory of her final moments be able to heal and allow all the genuinely beautiful moments you shared fill you with joy. 

 

 

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I lost my father last week to a sudden heart attack - he too was in the bathroom (they often experience nausea before it happens). My sad was healthy- walked 5 miles daily, was 71 and just starting over again since we lost my mom 7 years ago- I’m still grieving my mom and I lost our family rock with no warning. I’m angry. Just angry. I wish I had the words for you but know you’re not alone 

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