Members nostalgic reverie Posted August 26, 2020 Members Report Share Posted August 26, 2020 I going through a world of hurt right now. Nothing makes sense. My father was my best friend and was taken from me and now life seems so bleak. How is everyone coping and what strategies are you using that help? Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Members Kirsty111 Posted August 28, 2020 Members Report Share Posted August 28, 2020 I am right beside you, a universe of sorrow. How can we imagine a world devoid of light? No one else knows the pain of every star lit memory stilled by the absence of our loved ones- our love is so complete.I cannot even say the words aloud, to admit that my father is not here is like saying this whole place is meaningless. He was my North star. I try to distract myself, but all that helps is listening to the birds, being in the forest, and feeling my child's hand in mine- that asks for no explanation. I am here for you whenever you like. Sending all my love and comfort. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Members DragiTata Posted August 30, 2020 Members Report Share Posted August 30, 2020 On 8/25/2020 at 8:04 PM, nostalgic reverie said: I going through a world of hurt right now. Nothing makes sense. My father was my best friend and was taken from me and now life seems so bleak. How is everyone coping and what strategies are you using that help? I just lost my father 7 days ago. He was riding a bicycle from a grocery store when a pickup truck hit him. Just like that...gone...forever...I feel your grief, there are not words to explain the pain we are experiencing. Like yours, my father was my best friend, my inspiration in life, my source of strength, my guide, teacher....All of that just yanked away from us. Tell me more about him? What did he do, what did he like? I feel like it helps to talk about them, or just to talk to somebody. I have family and friends who are very supportive, I'm so grateful. Hope you do to. I used to run away from pain with other difficulties in life, loses...but not this time. I'm taking all the help I can get to make it through. A message or text from somebody who cares, seems to soothe the open wound. Even if just for a moment. One moment at a time, don't run away from the feelings, my dad said that when you get burned you go back into the fire. We can do this..... Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Members Zee24 Posted November 9, 2020 Members Report Share Posted November 9, 2020 So sorry for your loss and for everyone reading this thread. I don’t know how people cope. I just think you go on existing not living for anyone impacted very deeply. Some do bounce back , it depends on personality, life stage. It varies especially if there was trauma involved. Is there a timeline, I don’t know. Its all so personal. Some feel better talking, others don’t. Time stands still but actually it is moving. They say being busy helps so do distractions. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Members Sanyukta parmar Posted November 14, 2020 Members Report Share Posted November 14, 2020 Hi everyone, I have been looking at posts about people grieving hoping to find someone who's going through exactly the same thing as I am. I know everyone is grieving but when I look at posts I think ' oh but you have a family' or 'oh but you are older'. Over time I think I have realised that no matter what the grieving process is the same. I guess I was looking for someone to find in my exact same loneliness. But everyone is lonely. I know I am lonely even when I am surrounded by a group of people that I have loved and adored. Every relationship in my life feels useless right now. I can't connect with anyone I feel so odd being around people. I just havnt felt like myself in such a long time. It's been about 4 months and I guess I have learnt to deal with the pain but everyday I get up and miss my dad. Not a day, not an hour goes by, that I don't think of him. I don't understand how can someone just disappear from our lives. And suddenly our whole world is changed. Sometimes I still feel like I am living in a dream and none of this is real. Sometimes I have to remind myself that he's gone. Thing is I have not only lost a my present or past with him but also a future. A future that I had created in my mind by default. Like being there to for my marriage or when I get my first job or for my kids. That's all gone..i.have to break that, little by little. And everytime I do,it hurts.but I am just soo tired of being sad and so sick of tears. But I also wanna hold on to the pain..a pain that connects me to him Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Members Ruby54 Posted November 14, 2020 Members Report Share Posted November 14, 2020 I keep expecting (hoping) that I’ll wake up and this just won’t be true. I miss my Dad so much that I can barely breathe. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Members Monty Posted November 14, 2020 Members Report Share Posted November 14, 2020 I miss my Dad terribly too. I miss the way he use to say my name or open his arms for a hug. Nostalgic, I lost my Mum suddenly 4 years ago. To have your loved one ripped away from you so suddenly is devastating. My siblings and I all wrote my Mum letters so we could say all the things to her that we felt we never got to say. It helped me a little. take care. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
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