Members Jim828 Posted June 28, 2011 Members Report Share Posted June 28, 2011 We have eight kids (5 mine, 3 my wife's) and they all live with us. Two weeks ago a car accident took all three of my step-daughters. Since then we've been through a lot. To me, they were daughters. I never let the 'step' relationship matter to me. To me, I lost my babies. The oldest was 11 (Savvy) and the twins were 8 (Nell and Dani). I'm disturbed by our current state. We sent the other five to spend the summer with their mother, so there are no kids in the house right now. We've been sleeping on the couch or at a hotel. I know my wife is still in shock because she can't cry. She's been on another grief website, and we're about to start grief counseling. I cry a lot, but I feel lost. I don't know who or what I am anymore. I don't know what to do. I'm afraid I won't be enough for the other kids when they come back. I'm just going in circles doing nothing and I can't stand to be alone for more than an hour. I feel anxious if I try to think more than 24 hours into the future. I'm not getting anything done. We have lots of friends and family that want to help, but I don't even know what to ask from them. I feel like nothing. My body feels no wants or needs, my mind feels no wants or needs, my heart feels no wants or needs, my soul feels no wants or needs. I want to be there for my wife, but I don't know what to give her because she describes her feelings the same as mine. I'd really like to hear whether others have experienced the same and what can break me free so I can function again. The thought of others depending on me just has no effect on me now. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
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