Members JES Posted June 5, 2019 Members Report Posted June 5, 2019 @ksiemb Thank you for sharing...says it exactly.
Members tlc Posted June 7, 2019 Members Report Posted June 7, 2019 No, sorry some of us will never learn to live with it or get over it or move on. There are just things like losing the love of your life that you will never recover. That's just the way it is for some of us, maybe the few. I don't need to say anymore. There will be those who hear and relate and those who don't. That just the way it is. The deep pit.
Moderators KayC Posted June 7, 2019 Moderators Report Posted June 7, 2019 No this isn't something we ever get over, I can attest to that.
Members foreverhis Posted June 7, 2019 Members Report Posted June 7, 2019 I agree with the quote that we will "grieve forever" and "will not get over it." What will not be true for me is the notion of ever being "whole again." I am as always speaking only for myself and do not assume others feel the same way. The idea that my soul and heart will heal like broken bones or that I'll rebuild a full life around losing my soul mate is simply foreign to me. The best part of me, the one man who made me a better woman, who completed me (to steal a phrase) is who has been taken away. There is no way to repair that like cracked china or fill it in like missing puzzle pieces. While I do find glimmers of light, I will never again live fully in the bright sun. That's just how it is for me. I guess what i don't care for is anything that tells us we will be or do something just because that's how it was or is for someone else. But I also don't assume that no one will find comfort in the thoughts expressed in this quote, which I believe is intended to offer hope--and that is not a bad thing..
Members John/Wendy Posted June 7, 2019 Members Report Posted June 7, 2019 I get the hopefulness of this quote. But, the idea of being “whole” again... I can’t see that. I spent 24 years looking for my other half. I lived 31 years as a whole person with her. Now I just exist. My heart is now broken and will remain as such until I’m where she is again. I know I’ll be whole again. But not until that day.
Members foreverhis Posted June 8, 2019 Members Report Posted June 8, 2019 6 hours ago, John/Wendy said: Now I just exist. Yes, that's it exactly. I have used those same words to describe my life now. I exist because I must. I try to find glimmers of light. I smile and sometimes even laugh with friends or family. But underneath, I am and will always be broken. I have to focus narrowly on whatever task I'm doing because when I think about my love missing things, even or maybe especially the day-to-day life and our special-only-to-us little couple things, I start to fall apart.
Members ksiemb Posted June 8, 2019 Author Members Report Posted June 8, 2019 13 hours ago, John/Wendy said: I get the hopefulness of this quote. But, the idea of being “whole” again... I can’t see that. I spent 24 years looking for my other half. I lived 31 years as a whole person with her. Now I just exist. My heart is now broken and will remain as such until I’m where she is again. I know I’ll be whole again. But not until that day. I posted that article (verse) in hopes it would help some one. But, I see that you suffer and will continue to, just as I do every second of every day. I too will have no peace until the day I am with my Wife once again in our new lives eternal, and world without end. God bless you and bring you peace.
Members SBA Posted June 10, 2019 Members Report Posted June 10, 2019 Yes, that's it exactly. I have used those same words to describe my life now. I exist because I must. I try to find glimmers of light. I smile and sometimes even laugh with friends or family. But underneath, I am and will always be broken. I have to focus narrowly on whatever task I'm doing because when I think about my love missing things, even or maybe especially the day-to-day life and our special-only-to-us little couple things, I start to fall apart. This is exactly how I feel. You are able to put into words what I want to say. God Bless
Members foreverhis Posted June 10, 2019 Members Report Posted June 10, 2019 @SBA It's comforting to know that others understand how I feel and what my life is like now. Thank you for your kind words. I'm sending hugs and warm, comforting thoughts to you to help you get through the day, as we all must.
Members JES Posted June 10, 2019 Members Report Posted June 10, 2019 @foreverhis Understand completely how you feel. I think the quote does say the way it will be and is meant to give hope, but agree, we will never be whole again because we will always be missing a big part of us, that will never change. We may move forward as we have no choice but we will always remain broken in many ways. Thinking of you. Jeanne
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