Doctors advice following loss of my mum

[EvieJo]

Hi, I am new here.  I’ve found this forum because I don’t know where to turn.  I lost my mum rather suddenly in May last year, she was diagnosed with cancer on a Tuesday and gone by the Thursday.  We were incredibly close and it’s left such a huge hole in my life that I know will never be filled.  I have a sister although we are not as close as I would like and she seems to be handling her grief differently/better than me.  It’s like she has accepted it all now but Im still far from feeling that way.  I have struggled to find counselling support in my area as I feel I may find this helpful but I don’t really want to talk to someone over the phone etc.  I saw my gp recently as I feel like I am ‘losing’ myself - for want of a better way of describing it.  I am struggling at work and my relationship with my partner is strained (although he has been supportive).  I was only in room 5 minutes, he said something about complicated grief and wrote me a prescription for an antidepressant.  It all felt very ‘scripted’ on his part.  Don’t get me wrong, I know they are extremely busy but I don’t know that this is the way to go and am worried they will make me feel even worse.  Sorry to ramble - I just feel like Im stuck in quicksand - and sinking. Does anyone else feel this way or am I losing the plot?

[reader]

Dear EvieJo,

I'm sorry to hear about the loss of your mum. It is a terrible shock to lose a beloved parent. I think what you are feeling and thinking is natural and normal. It hasn't even been one year yet in your grief journey. Please know you are not alone. I hope these websites for grief will help.

What's Your Grief

Grief in Common

Grief Healing Blog

GriefShare

Grief Recovery Method.

Please also know there is no right way to grieve. We all have to do what is right for ourselves.

I know others can identify with how you are feeling.

Thinking of you. Sending my thoughts and prayers.