Members Kateu Posted January 2, 2019 Members Report Posted January 2, 2019 In response to the person who lost your dad to that vile monster pancreatic cancer. I also lost my dad to the same vile monster ... It happened so sudden and he died within two weeks. This past Nov.14th. My point, I share in the hatred of the disease with you as well I don't feel his spirit or just dont know where he is ... No signs. ..nothing. I don't dream about him either .. I did all the above when my grandma died. I want to feel his spirit or dream about him. Ive actually forgotten his voice.... Thanks to my sister I can hear it now in a vm she saved and sent me. I am extremely bothered that I cant feel/hear see my dad (spirit) with me either. It makes me feel lost and angry.
Members Nicole-my grief journey Posted January 2, 2019 Members Report Posted January 2, 2019 I lost my mom to colon cancer metasis to liver, mesentary and basically cancer everywhere taking over her body and my brother to adrenal cancer and my dad had a whipple surgery. All GI cancers and really fast, traumatic losses. Now my uncle has pancreatic cancer. I’m awake tonight trying to learn everything I can so that I’m informed about what they say tomorrow. Obviously I fear the worst with the way all my other losses have gone. You’re right, it is a monster. I pray I have the strength in me to do this again. I have deep emapathy for you and what you are going through. I would give anything to be able to hear their voices, dream about them, see them, or feel a sense of peace. As for my uncle, it’s not a choice of whether or not I’m going to do everything I can for him. I love him, don’t want to lose him and above all want to lessen his pain and suffering. Just when I think what more can happen, this happens again. It’s out of control. Sending love your way and well wishes. Lots of love! hugs, Nicole
Members Kateu Posted January 2, 2019 Author Members Report Posted January 2, 2019 Nicole, I'm so sorry for all your losess...you must be a special person to have the strength to endure this. It is so painful to see someone suffer from cancer. I will keep you in my thoughts and prayers as you go thru this again with your uncle. I know that sounds so cliche ...that you are strong and I'll keep you in my prayers....it is so hard... remember to also take care of yourself ....it is so important. I don't think we do this enough...we feel to guilty and care to much for the one suffering. I researched all about pancreatic cancer after my dads passing of course I dont remeber everything but i know there are two forms. It also has to do with endocrine sysyem ( the different forms). I hope his is less complicated and they caught it soon enough. I have a friend in her late 30s in which that was the case and she is doing well. Again, my heart goes out to you and if you need to talk please keep in touch with me. I appreciated your response so much and send my hugs to you as well! Kate
Members Nicole-my grief journey Posted January 3, 2019 Members Report Posted January 3, 2019 Thank you Kate. It doesn’t sound cliche to me at all. I really appreciate the thoughtfullness, love, prayers and strength you’re sending my way. It wasn’t the best news today, but it also wasn’t the worst either. Depending on when his pancreatitis clears (he’s had it for an extended period which isn’t normal), he will either get chemo, or possible resection (which would be ideal). I did manage to take in and align the information and get him some pain control management, so I feel good about that and got lots of questions answered. His type is the more common pancreatic that they see a lot of and at this point it hasn’t spread outside the head. As long as it’s not too long before he can start treatment, so that it doesn’t spread, there is def more hope. I’m happy to hear that your friend’s was caught early. What a blessing. I hope she continues to do well. Yes, we take it on and carry it on our shoulders and in our hearts. You’re right about me needing to remember to take care of myself. I haven’t been this last year and am making my doc appts in the next coming weeks to get on track. Searching for balance, mentally, physically and spiritually. Thanks for extending your friendship. Hugs, Nicole
Members nuvar Posted January 3, 2019 Members Report Posted January 3, 2019 Hi Nicole, Sorry to hear what you've gone through and I appreciate all the support you've provided to me. My heart goes to you and I sincerely hope your uncle will get through this. Will pray for his and your well-being. Take care
Members Kateu Posted January 20, 2019 Author Members Report Posted January 20, 2019 Well dad I've been writing you and talking to you and talking about you ....I love writing about you best I wish it could could be different ....I wish i could go to Edinburg Ln. And see you in your chair and hear you ...even if you did sometimes ask me things that annoyed me. What i wouldn't give to just be annoyed again. You didn't know this but every word out of your mouth i treasured ... I thought you were the smartest, brightest, strongest person in the world..it's like the world's gone silent dad. No one else really matters...I mean as far as advice..opinion... Sharing stories...so true..i don't really care about what anyone says...just you. It really doesn't matter though..I miss you dad. I love so much i always will!
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