Members ModKatB Posted October 27, 2018 Members Report Share Posted October 27, 2018 In the last month I have been asked several times why I still wear my wedding rings and it sometimes makes me angry because of the comments that go with that question. YES I wear my wedding rings and I have no intention of taking them off anytime soon. I have tried to explain why I continue to wear them but most of the time people just don't get it. I have had a couple of people that understood and told me not to worry about those who can't figure it out. In my heart I am still married to that wonderful man I married 22 years ago. I did not choose for him to not be in my life and this was not a divorce, it was a death that took him away. I want to remember him and all of our years together and I am not looking for someone else. My heart is taken and there is not room for anyone else right now and there probably won't ever be. If others who lose someone want to move on and have someone else in their lives then that is a choice for them to make, but don't try to force me into changing how I feel. I had already been married twice before and had two daughters I was raising when I met Billy. We just seemed to fit together in ways that had not been there in the other marriages. He was the love of my life, my soulmate and the one I was supposed to grow old with. I am thankful to have found this forum and the people here that do understand all of the things that are going on for each of us during this journey. I can only hope and pray that one day things will be better and that we all will be able to find peace and a reason to smile. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Members Sunflower2 Posted October 28, 2018 Members Report Share Posted October 28, 2018 @KatB start with this thought! You do not owe an explanation to anyone. This is your journey. You can become a teacher. I've had just a few questions asked but the individuals asking were asking to learn to understand. At those times I shared what I felt I needed to be shared and also being aware of what they wanted to receive. The questions asked were not about the ring.....I understand that people have asked questions, that during this vulnerable time, shake our foundation even more. I've always believed that I have no control what others do or say but the key to peace and finding my way is all about how I react. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Members Spengler Posted October 28, 2018 Members Report Share Posted October 28, 2018 I, likewise, still wear my wedding ring. I've been asked about it, and my honest response is that I would feel naked without it. I married late, long after I had given up hope of a "normal" life. And I still remember the feeling of solid pride in wearing the ring early in our marriage, the feeling of belonging to the woman I loved, the feeling of building a family. Yes, I still wear the ring. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Moderators KayC Posted October 28, 2018 Moderators Report Share Posted October 28, 2018 Kat, I get it. I wear my wedding band because it brings me comfort and is a reminder of the happiest day of my life...that of my wedding day to George and the days my kids were born were definitely the happiest days of my life. My wedding band is part of my connection to him, it symbolizes all that was between our hearts. I agree with Sunflower, you owe no one any explanation, and that they dare question you about it is on them. I had a friend that chastised me for wearing mine, I was beyond flabbergasted at her audacity! Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Members Jamiei Posted October 29, 2018 Members Report Share Posted October 29, 2018 People who ask questions like this are idiots! Why would someone even ask that. Dewayne gave me a ring 1 week before he died! I will wear it always. I don’t think someone would dare ask me why I wear it. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Members Brazil Man Posted October 29, 2018 Members Report Share Posted October 29, 2018 I still use my wedding ring. I would like to use her ring too but I don't have it yet because my syster in law got it when she died at the hospital and she lives far.But I intend to wear both rings as soon as I can. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Moderators KayC Posted October 30, 2018 Moderators Report Share Posted October 30, 2018 I hope your SIL gets it to you SOON! It belongs with you! Jamiei, I love how your spirit sounds fighting/protective and I hope for their sake they DON'T ask you about it! Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Members Brazil Man Posted October 31, 2018 Members Report Share Posted October 31, 2018 On 10/30/2018 at 11:44 AM, KayC said: I hope your SIL gets it to you SOON! It belongs with you! Thank you KayC. I would feel comforted to wear both rings. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Members Djh0901kc Posted November 1, 2018 Members Report Share Posted November 1, 2018 Several years after we got married we had rings tattooed onto our left ring fingers with our initials so obviously I still “wear” that and on my right ring finger I wear the ring my wife was wearing when she died. It gets some weird looks but I don’t let it bother me Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Members Michelene Posted November 1, 2018 Members Report Share Posted November 1, 2018 I wear both our wedding rings on my wedding ring finger. No one has said anything to me yet. My smaller one holds his larger one in place so I don't lose it. My husband gave it to me in the hospital to hold because they had taken it off for his surgery, so I had just put it on my finger. I never took it off. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Moderators KayC Posted November 1, 2018 Moderators Report Share Posted November 1, 2018 Djh, If it's a very feminine ring, I'd imagine it would give you some weird looks, LOL! But I'd wear it proudly, nonetheless. I wore size 5 and George size 11 so it'd be pretty hard for me to wear his except on a chain around my neck. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Members Djh0901kc Posted November 1, 2018 Members Report Share Posted November 1, 2018 It’s a simple band of crystals. Nothing fancy but definitely not something a guy would wear. She was never without it so now I’m not either. Let people think what they want. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Members Autocharge Posted November 1, 2018 Members Report Share Posted November 1, 2018 I have talked about this in my thread also. A search of the forum turned up lots of threads about this topic also. Your not the First and sadly not going to be the last to ask this question. You already have plenty of answers from many good people on this forum. I'm writing this just because you made me remember a post I once posted. Below is what I did with our Rings. combined into one forever. Four birth-stones for four family members. Autocharge Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
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