Members ModKatB Posted October 19, 2018 Members Report Share Posted October 19, 2018 I just got thru going to Ohio to see my grandkids and it was a good time for me and them. I decided to fly up instead of drive since it was so far. On the flight up I sat next to an older lady and we were talking and she said she was going to Ohio to her best friends funeral. Then on my return flight I met a couple waiting to see if they could get a flight back home and we got to talking just like I had done with the lady on the flight down. The second lady I talked to was telling me her daughter had been murdered and she was still having trouble with all of the pain and hurt even though it had been a couple of years. I told them about my story and about the forum here and also shared some of the things I have written. Just goes to show that grief is everywhere and none of us are immune from what it can do. As always my wish is that all of us can find peace and maybe a small reason to smile. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Members Lost6263 Posted October 20, 2018 Members Report Share Posted October 20, 2018 10 hours ago, KatB said: I just got thru going to Ohio to see my grandkids and it was a good time for me and them. I decided to fly up instead of drive since it was so far. On the flight up I sat next to an older lady and we were talking and she said she was going to Ohio to her best friends funeral. Then on my return flight I met a couple waiting to see if they could get a flight back home and we got to talking just like I had done with the lady on the flight down. The second lady I talked to was telling me her daughter had been murdered and she was still having trouble with all of the pain and hurt even though it had been a couple of years. I told them about my story and about the forum here and also shared some of the things I have written. Just goes to show that grief is everywhere and none of us are immune from what it can do. As always my wish is that all of us can find peace and maybe a small reason to smile. I lost my husband the day after you lost yours. I'm so sorry for your loss. It's been 8 months and I still can't believe this is my reality, I miss him so much. Next Wednesday would have been our 11 year anniversary and I just wish he was here with me. I have talked to so many people who have lost someone this year and sometimes I think there is so much grief that it doesn't seem fair. But I guess nothing in life is fair. I hope one day you find some peace as well. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Members ModKatB Posted October 20, 2018 Author Members Report Share Posted October 20, 2018 2 hours ago, Lost6263 said: I lost my husband the day after you lost yours. I'm so sorry for your loss. It's been 8 months and I still can't believe this is my reality, I miss him so much. Next Wednesday would have been our 11 year anniversary and I just wish he was here with me. I have talked to so many people who have lost someone this year and sometimes I think there is so much grief that it doesn't seem fair. But I guess nothing in life is fair. I hope one day you find some peace as well. This is one of those things that will never make sense and it will never be something that I will ever forget. What would have been our 22nd anniversary (10/19/96) was yesterday and I made it thru the day without going totally nuts which I guess is a good thing. I still wish with all of my heart that he was here beside me and I know feeling that way will never change. I am sorry that you lost your husband because I know what that means. Maybe one day you and I along with all of the others that are making this same journey will be able to have some type of happiness to hold us together until it is our time to join the loved ones that went before us. Many hugs and prayers go out to you. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Moderators KayC Posted October 20, 2018 Moderators Report Share Posted October 20, 2018 Yesterday was our anniversary too. I switched my schedule around so I'd be busy. It was a beautiful day and I knew if he was here we'd be headed to the coast. Life is so different without him in it. Kat, reading your first post about your encounters flying, brought this to mind: (God) who comforts us in all our tribulation, that we may be able to comfort those who are in any trouble, with the comfort with which we ourselves are comforted by God. 2 Corinthians 1:4 Sounds like you are doing just that! Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Members Lost6263 Posted October 21, 2018 Members Report Share Posted October 21, 2018 21 hours ago, KatB said: This is one of those things that will never make sense and it will never be something that I will ever forget. What would have been our 22nd anniversary (10/19/96) was yesterday and I made it thru the day without going totally nuts which I guess is a good thing. I still wish with all of my heart that he was here beside me and I know feeling that way will never change. I am sorry that you lost your husband because I know what that means. Maybe one day you and I along with all of the others that are making this same journey will be able to have some type of happiness to hold us together until it is our time to join the loved ones that went before us. Many hugs and prayers go out to you. I know in my heart I will see him again. But until then I don't know what to do other than stay busy. My outlook on everything in life has changed now. It pisses me off when I see people always on their phone....get off your phone and spend time with the people you love. Hearing people laugh hurts my heart, why are you laughing when my husband can't. I know it's not far but that's how I feel. I try to do things that would make him proud, help take care of his mom, even if she can be horrible, do the yard work, or change out the lights, or wash our quads, take long walks with the dogs as much as possible, just many things he always did that I got use to him doing. One day we were at lunch with my parents and he spotted an elderly gentlemen with a Vietnam vet hat on with what looked to be his nurse and this huge Great Dane dog (which I'm assuming was his service dog ) eating in the corner. My husband walked over, introduced himself, met his dog and thanked him for his service. He came back to our table and asked our waitress to send his waitress over. She came and he gave her his card and said please take care of their meal but don't tell him who it's from just say thank you for his service. But that was just who he was. He did that all the time. We are st our vet with one of our dogs and a woman was at the front desk crying because her dog needed surgery and she couldn't afford it, when they put us in the patient room he handed the vet tech his card and said take care of that ladies dog, they thanked him Andy said they already decided to waive her bill. This was the man I have always known him to be. And the fact that he was taken so young makes me so mad. This world needs good people like him....genuine people who care about others, even when they don't even know them. I will never understand, but I hold on to knowing I will see him again. I hope we all at some point find some peace too. I hope you have a good night. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Moderators KayC Posted October 21, 2018 Moderators Report Share Posted October 21, 2018 8 hours ago, Lost6263 said: It pisses me off when I see people always on their phone....get off your phone and spend time with the people you love. I love that! Amen, sister! Your husband sounds like a wonderful person, thank you for sharing things about him with us. I can understand your anger at his being taken so young, nothing fair about it. Yes, I too know that I will see my husband again. I may not know of all the changes that will be, but I do know we'll be together again. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
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