Dad

[juultje]

My father has just passed away. without any announcement, one moment he was here and now I must live without him. I have tried to stay strong for my family, but I am broken. I just can not feel the pain anymore, I do not want to feel it. People say that I am an ice prinness, but I ljust augh away all the pain.

[reader]

Dear juultje,

My deepest sympathies and condolences. I'm so sorry for your loss. I know the pain and sorrow is deep. Please know we are here with you. 

Thinking of you. Sending all my thoughts and prayers.

[Michelle1971]

juultje, my condolences. Losing a parent is so, so hard. Of course you are broken, you just lost your dad. Why don't you allow yourself to grieve?

[Nicole-my grief journey]

My heartfelt condolences on the loss of your father. Sometimes people think I am and ice princess too. I think that sometimes I’m just numb, the pain of loss is unbearable and sometimes I have to compartmentalize things to get all of the things done that no one else can, because we all have our different roles. Everyone tells me how strong I am and I want to say, don’t put that label on me. Whether it’s true or not, I then feel that I have to be when really I’m devastated and need understanding and love as much as everyone else. But I was at the funeral home on Sunday for my 39 year old childhood friend and I couldn’t cry. I was and am, still in shock. I’m sure people had thoughts about it...but I remind myself that what people think about me is none of my business. Your grief is about you and others can take a walk if they have an issue with it. This loss happened to you. It is your father and you can feel whatever you want, whenever you want. In time different emotions will surface and rush in, subside and rush back in again. There’s no set time or right or wrong. I’m sorry for your heartbrake, your tremendous loss. Truly. To have no warning adds another layer to your grief and my heart feels for you. 

[juultje]

On ‎5‎/‎28‎/‎2018 at 6:20 PM, Michelle1971 said:

juultje, my condolences. Losing a parent is so, so hard. Of course you are broken, you just lost your dad. Why don't you allow yourself to grieve?

because he died before my eyes and I could not do anything to save him. everyone puts such a burden on my shoulders, as if I can carry the whole world. but now I bear all their burdens, that I can not let go of my grief.

 

[Had the Best Dad]

juultje,

I'm so sorry to hear about your loss. You have my deepest sympathy. I just lost my dad too. And while my circumstances are different from yours, I've had people shove their opinions and agendas about me and how I should grieve my dad in my face and it rudely interrupted my grieving. Whatever you're feeling is valid. It's your response to grieving your dad. And that's all that matters. Seriously. You've had to stay strong for your family and if someone doesn't understand that and calls you an Ice Princess than that's on them;not you.

You're doing your best to both be there for your family and move on. It's not easy. And honestly it sucks. It does. You just lost your dad. It just happened abruptly and it was both shocking and devastating at the same time. Again, I'm so sorry to hear about the loss of your father. I know how precarious this time is because even though my circumstances are different than yours I feel broken too. I feel a part of me is lost forever and I'm having a very hard time trusting people because I've had people trounce all over my toes with their own agendas. So, please know that you are you. Remember all the positive wonderful things your dad saw in you. Listen to the loving supportive caring things he said to you over the years and know that that's what's real even though he's past on