My adult son has finally pushed us to the point where we must grieve what we thought he would be...

[brokenbyheartache]

Well, he finally did it this time.  Our 19 year old is in serious trouble and is currently sitting in jail because of his behaviors and horrible choices.  I am struggling to understand how we got here... We saw signs early on and he has been on 100's of treatment plans and yet we still ended up exactly where we were afraid we would.  Now we need to figure out how to move forward.  I need help with this, I feel a constant heartache and feeling of loss that I can't describe.  He had such a bright future, or so we thought.  

Any advice on coping with the decisions, the backlash and how to move forward is welcomed.

[reader]

Dear brokenbyheartache,

I am sorry to hear about your experiences wit your son. I know its extremely difficult to cope and accept. I know you love your son and did the best you could for him.  We all try.

There are a lot of resources in the community and through church. If you want to maybe consider talking to a counsellor or therapist or joining a support group. There are also many good websites dedicated to parents going through similar experiences.

Sending you all my thoughts and prayers.

[Twingoats]

I am very sorry for what you are going through. I don’t have any advice but I just lost my other half to drugs on Thursday. I never knew he was actively using. I wish drugs and alcohol never existed and as far as prescription goes, I wish it was something that was harder to get and wasn’t given in months quantity to avoid over dose. It’s hard and you aren’t alone in the grieving process. I hope in time that things heal and I’m sending you positive vibes <3

[Jack Russell]

Twingoats I am so sorry to hear you lost your partner to drugs. My son in law committed suicide last night and I am filled with sorrow and sadness for a young life. He was a drug addict and life was not going well for him.  My daughter and him recently split due to his drug taking and irrational behaviour. They have a beautiful daughter of 4 years old together.  His parents offered help all the time to seek rehab which he always rejected. He must of been at rock bottom to do such a thing. Suicide leaves behind such guilt. I could of done this or that to help when the only person who could of helped was himself. He lost everything due to drugs, his job his family and yet he would not give up his addiction.  Easy to say I suppose as drugs get a hold of you. But his poor parents and other people who loved him are now left with this guilt and sorrow.  I spoke to his mum this morning and she could hardly speak through the pain.  Just devastating for everyone. I keep picturing him finding something to hang himself with and actually doing the act.  That poor poor man I wish I had done something to help him but instead I was so glad when my daughter actually asked him to leave.  She had no choice.  But the pain left behind.  God bless him he isn't in pain now but I wish he was here.  God look after him in a better place.  God bless the little girl who will grow up without her father.