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swede1

Some to Amost All Here:

Whoa! I hadn't checked here a few days as I was on another board I found for loss of animals (the one here is so quiet!)and I guess I also forgot to click the email notification button, too! A lot has been going on! I have little snippets for everyone, cuz ALL postings spoke to me in one way or another, but only have time to do one or two right now –will try to catch up on everyone’s later.

To Lauraanne,

I, too, relate to the needing someone to cry with, to talk about your loved one with. I never got that at all, not with anyone who really knew my Mom and brother, so over a year later, I’m still waiting and have a great fear that day will never come. For the seeming triviality of things, I’ve also found it difficult to get the same joy out of the small things that used to make me happy or content. This has improved some over the year, though, so take heart, Laura, it may just take time to regain that sense of ‘belonging’ in the mundane part of existence. If nothing else, I think grief helps one to really focus on your values and brings to light what’s really important to you, underneath the mundane stuff of daily living. Sort of like shedding one skin or peeling an onion. For your son, maybe you’re teaching him some honesty and okayness in showing feelings – not something to sneeze at! There are many books about talking to your kids about grief, some for kids to read themselves, too. And I, too, gained about 15 lbs this year, and also was considered skinny before! I also would like to hear what my 3 loved ones have to say now…so am still in the process of finding a medium I can truly trust!

To Lauraa,

Dealing with multiple losses is so very difficult, isn’t it? I hadn’t realized you’d lost so many, too, and all such major relationships yet. I feel so sorry for you, as I know how awful it is. I remember one ‘friend’ saying she wouldn’t call it a “tragedy” – I almost keeled over, wondering, well, what would constitute a tragedy then? Do we have to lose 10 loved ones at once, or what?!?! I felt like saying, ”YOU try it, THEN talk to me!” People nowadays tend to minimize everything, even the really important stuff, in order to what?…get ON with their accelerated busyness? It does feel like we’re out-of-sight, out-of-mind, within mere weeks. I think people are too scared to face us; there ought to be classes in how to approach the grieving…simply the approaching would be nice! I’ve heard way too much of this from too many people on these boards…we’re the lost and forgotten, to be sure. Maybe our mission as grievers should be to wake the rest of them up? When I went for a mammogram last week, and they left me sitting in the waiting booth for over ½ hour, all I could think about was my Mom, and clinics and hospitals. When they had asked me what her age was when she got breast cancer (tho she lived about 10 years beyond that), I almost lost it then and there, but thought if I had, there was no way I was going to be embarrassed about crying. If more of us were open about it, I think societal acceptance would come around in due time. Some books I found helpful were: “Healing Grief”, James Van Praagh (a medium); “Blessing From the Other Side”, Sylvia Browne (psychic). As for lessons, I think it’s such a personal thing for each of us, it’s not easily interpreted unless you know someone very well. For me, my cat had the most to teach, his biggest lessons to me:” Wake up, Mom! There IS continuing life and enduring love!” (tho my trust in this still wavers at times) and even before he crossed, “We are NOT just our bodies, otherwise we couldn’t continually communicate from a distance or feel each other’s feelings!”

To Seekingsolace,

I DO have more questions, based on your last posting re: my stuff, but it will have to wait til next time..glad you’re still here, though, trying to help us all out!

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swede1
Hi everyone.

Lots of stuff to try to answer I see. So let me get right to it : )

For Laura [lauraanne]: Thanks for your kind words. I'm happy to help. I'm glad that you're feeling more comfortable with sharing. The doorbell visitor sounds like they were certainly very persistent. They really wanted to get your attention. It does make sense that it would be your old boyfriend. You might want to just ask him to tell you what he would like you to know and specify that you would like to have communication during the day and even specify which day and timeframe. 230a is a bit of a mess for sleep afterall : ( You could also wait until it happens again and then speak to him at that time but I would value my sleep too much to risk that happening again.

The dream about your dad was most likely a visit from the sounds of things. How did you feel in the dream? That is the key to discerning a visit. Visits [in dreams] are usually linear dreams [as opposed to the abstract way that dreams can sometimes be] or at the very least a very clear, linear, non-abstract moment in a dream AND the person visiting feels very real to you in the dream. That is an example of a visit.

For noidofmyown: you had said that you can't seem to make [contacts/communications] happen ... yet when you most need it, they just happen ...and you had wondered why this was. Other Side communication is facilitated by the receiver's ability to receive. Part of this is being very open to receive in a given moment, part of this is being clear that you would like to receive in a given moment and not have any fear around it happening. Maybe when you most need the contact from your people on the Other Side is when you are being the most clear.

I know this might sound odd but clarity is an alignment process: conscious mind + subconscious mind + emotions + body. These all have to be in sync/ saying the same thing / having the same intention otherwise you can send a mixed signal out there and then people on the Other Side don't know what to do. If one part of you says "yes ..I would like contact" and the other part hesitates for some reason ...it's confusing for the senders and it messes up the "receivers" signal [ability to receive]

Every person has a different manner in which they get clear ..For people that tend to live more in their logical mind, the moments of greatest "heart" clarity are usually when they are feeling an emotion strongly. For people that live in their emotions, when they are feeling an emotion, their pain can be so great that it mucks up the signal to the Other Side [this is quite common]. These more emotional people receive signals more easily when they are calmer and meditative. There is a frequency to the Other Side regardless and it needs to be matched to get the signals.

Oh yes ..one other thing ...The dream that your sister's husband had about your dad ..I believe the "dark place" that your father spoke of where he "couldn't breathe" was when he was on earth with emphysema. And when he says he is ok now I believe he is referring to the Other Side.

For Swede1: You had asked about why people come through to you when you are feeling distress and ask with your heart when I have previously mentioned that pain often blocks the transmission. See 2 paragraphs above this re my note to noidofmyown re Logical people vs emotional people. Does this clarify things at all in your case?

You had also asked what would happen if someone's style of communication was dysfunctional. Do you mean the senders? [ie. person on the Other Side] or the receivers? [person on earth]. Once I know this, I can answer.

Yes a cat can definitely help someone come through just as much as a human can. Animals have souls just as we do. While on earth, I feel them to be more open and aware than we are for the most part. They easily see and hear the spirit world. When they pass to the Other Side, I have often found that they are very wise souls. You can usually already get a sense of the wisdom and age of their soul when they are on the earth [just by looking into their eyes as you sit in front of them ...Just sit for a while and feel them].

What John Edwards said I have also found to be true. But I would word it a bit differently: people retain their "soul personality" when they cross. This personality does not have the same hang ups they had on earth. It would be analagous to a person on earth who has become enlightened. Does that make some sense? If you are still unclear, let me know and I can elaborate more.

Lots of text again ...Apologies for going on and on.

Remember that they ARE with you. The signs are there ..Trust in that.

Hi Seekingsolace,

Had to grab your post to remember everything! Re: that, that's the funny thing. I'm more the emotional type, and yet get more messages when I'm feeling very pained. For the dysfunctional comm., I meant the one who has crossed didn't communicate well...or at least not as well as the one left here. I was so pleased to hear you talk about animals often having very old souls. I just seem to KNOW for a fact that my guy was just such an entity. He was always so laissez-faire about these kinds of things and in fact, one communicator I used after he passed said he said I'd know him by looking into his eyes, if he ever came back while I was still here. Of course, I realize this doesn't PROVE any such thing, but it just FEELS true, because of our connection to each other. I also think his sister must be almost as wise, but it's more like she doesn't seem to remember, and therefore act on it, the way he always did. Don't know if this makes any sense to you, but I thought I'd mention it. Yes, the soul personality phrase makes SOME sense to me, but I wouldn't mind elaboration on that anyway if you have the time! I also had meant to ask you if you were at familiar with the series of books called "A Course In Miracles"? If you were, I could then ask a number of questions from THAT perspective.

Blessings To You

Swede1

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elena82

Hi everybody,

My boyfriend passed away 4 weeks ago in a car accident. In the first two weeks I could clearly feel wind (him) on my face when trying to sleep, but know it becomes more difficult. I often can smell him or feel his present. I'm often 'talking' to him in my head, but to be honest I not sure if he's really talking to me or if I'm just talking to myself or making this up. I trully hope that's really him talking to me but who can confirm this? I also see a lot of signs like his sending me little things to prove he's there, than again maybe it's because I'm so alert and all these signs are coincidences. Has anybody had similar cases?

Bless you all,

Elena

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sunflowers

Hi everyone.

To elena82...my loved one[dad]died 4 weeks ago.I too often 'talk' to my dad,or rather I hear a dialogue in my head that I know to be his phrasing or wording.It doesn't feel like I am making it up,as the flow of this dialogue comes with such ease.I also,feel and smell things around me,mostly when I least expect to be experiencing them.

As for signs[coincidences] they are sending us...I can only say that I just 'know' in that very instant a sign occurs ,who it is from ,and I thank him for sending it to me.I currently rely on signs,as I had told my dad to not freak me out with a full blown 'dream visit' yet.I don't know if there is a general list of signs;I suppose we all have specific indications[signs]that we recognize as that coming from our loved one.This is what makes them unique and personal.

I find the last 2-3 days to be over emotional,restless though.

How are all the rest of you doing?

Take care.

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seekingsolace

Hi everyone.

For Elena82: Welcome to our group. I wish it could be under easier circumstances for you. My heart breaks for your suffering.

Know that your boyfriend is with you. He is speaking to you. Trust your heart. It knows.

One of the ways that people on the Other Side try to communicate with us on earth is through telepathy. Our brains are wired for telepathy ...most of us just don't realize that or practice it consciously. The conversations you are having in your head with your boyfriend are indeed with your boyfriend. Of that I have no doubt. Know that your doubts are normal though. The adult mind doubts easily. Children don't doubt things like this but, the adult mind is often that way. But remember ...just because you are doubting, does not mean that it is not him.

Ok ..now for as for how to prove it to yourself: First ...ask him to tell you something that you don't know about him yet and then confirm it with one of his family members that does have the information [Your boyfriend will have to tell you who to speak to regarding this or where to find the information]. You could also ask him to give you a concrete signal/sign that it is him when he starts to speak with you telepathically. You could suggest a scent, etc ...give him 3-4 options and let him pick and choose which one works best for him. It is usually best if you go with one that he has already communicated with you with already [because it is evidence that he can transmit in that way ...Like the wind for instance].

Keeping a journal/log of the signs that come and in what circumstances they come might be helpful. If you know what they mean, then jot that down as well. Your mind might doubt initially but that's ok. You could choose to do the actions anyways and tell your mind to doubt if it needs to.

I communicate with the Other Side daily [i won't get into all the details here to avoid redundancy ...they are covered in my 6.6.05 posting] and it is very much real. Your heart knows the truth. Trust in it. It will guide you clearly.

For Sunflowers: Signs from loved ones that have crossed over do indeed tend to be unique and personal. It's like a person's voice on the earth or their face ...It is part of their uniqueness.

For Swede1: I am somewhat familar with the Course in Miracles so if you have questions from that perspective that you would like to ask me, please feel welcome to ask. If I can answer them, I will : )

You had mentioned that signs/contact comes to you when you are feeling very emotional. Are those the times that you ask for a sign/contact? Or do you ask at less emotional times as well [and they don't come then? ..and are you wondering why?]. If you are trying to sort out how to have more regular signs/contact outside of the very emotional times, post me some details on your contact attempts and contact/sign pattern and I can comment further.

You had also asked me to elaborate more on soul personality. I will get back to you on this tomorrow hopefully. I would like to spend a little bit more time reflecting on a precise metaphor.

And on to dysfunctional communication ...You had mentioned that your concern is with the Other Side sender because they were not great at communication while on the earth. I don't believe that this will be in their way on the Other Side. Challenged communication patterns are an earth/human thing but they are not a soul personality thing at all. Once we revert completely back to our soul form, we are in a freer communication state again.

A hello to Laura, Lauraanne and Noidofmyown as well.

Take care everyone.

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lauraa

Elans82...I am so sorry for your loss and welcome to this site as it is helpful.

Seekingsolace, thank you for all your sound advice to me and others. I am working at having my loved ones come thru but not luck yet. I do get emotional while listening to the tape at the point when I need to ask them to come thru and I have alot of tears. I ask them questions without a reply but I still can see my dads silhouette and my husbands face and they are both together. I am just trying to take it further to be able to actually see them and talk with them. Am I nuts or what? I don't think so! I appreciate you care and input and it really helps getting the suggestions and I look forward to further thoughts of yours.

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Hi am am new to this post. I lost my father in April and have been visiting this site daily. It has given me alot of help in dealing with my feelings. I have been desperate to comunicate with my father since his passing. I know that he does send me signs and I can feel his presence often. I have not been able to dream of him, though. When both of my grandparents passed, I was able to dream often. They were so vivid and real to me. In all of my dreams I was able to hold them and they always end the same way. When they are ready to leave, I cry and they tell me they just came to visit but they can't stay. But I always wake feeling like they were really there. I had a dream like this just a few months before my father died and I hadn't had one in a very long while. My mother also had a dream 2 nights before my father went into a coma, that he went to the store for her and when he came back, it wasn't him it was my grandfather. She told me of this dream the day before anything happened with my father and didn't think anything of it. One night when I was just drifting off to sleep, I had a vision of my dad in a chair, but I jumped up and haven't been able to see him since. Could I have scared him away. I have been told that feathers are a way for them to communicate with us and I find them all of the time. They always seem to appear when me, my mother and my sister are together. Can I be doing something that is preventing him from coming through. I would appreciate any advice you can give.

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elena82

Hi everyone,

Thanks for your support and seekingsolace thank u for your post it really gave me more confidence about the talks with Steven. I must say that I'm actually afraid to ask him a confirmation, because if it didn't work... I would be even more devasted.

Yesterday, I red all the posts on ADC's and other stories about NDE. Afterwards I kept asking myself, if the Other Side is so much better, why bother living here. The Other Side mean no more pain, only love and be together again with Steven. Now I can't stop thinking about my time to leave. I'm even hoping it won't take long before I die. I don't want to live long anymore. I don't want to kill myself neither, because it won't be fair for my family and I just don't have the courage to do it. But I'm praying my time to come, as soon as possible.

I won't be the only one thinking like that. I don't have kids to raise, I don't have anything. Just pain. I told my father that I didn't fear death anymore and he totally agreed, he said: Death isn't scary, life is.

Seekingsolace, what's making living here better than the Other Side/Heaven. Do we have to learn something here before making it there? I know for sure that Steven was a better person than me. He gave unconditional love, helped everyone in need. When we argued it was always me who started it, and he could always stay calm and make it better. Do we have to deserve to die?

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elena82

Hi again,

I was just thinking about something and wanted to share...

I can't dream about my boyfriend. He was only a few times in my dream, like for 2 second. I can't even remember something. I only had one dream of him, two weeks after his death. But I don't know if it was a visit or a message.

In my dream, he survived the accident but had brain damages. I remember crying a lot, I was happy to have him back, I was holding him in my arms with my head on his chest. He looked sad because I was crying, he cried but the tears didn't come. Then I was sitting on the back seats of a car with him. He was listening to music or something with headsets. And he laughed like a kid. I just screamed: look his laughing, his happy. And than thinking: it doesn't matter that he is disabled, he's alive, I love him, I will take care of him. Then his mum said: it doesn't matter, he will only live for 2 months...

When I wake up, I was sad but I was thinking that he wouldn't want to live like that and that I was selfish to ratter have him alive with brain damages than death... It sounds sick, I know...

I really try to dream about him. He is always the last one in my mind before sleeping, actually I think the all day about him. Why can't I dream about him, I mean a good dream. It doesn't even have to be a visit or a message, I just want to have a dream about our daily life together... I only have weird dreams about stupid stuff that doesn't matter...

Tomorrow it will be 1 month that he's gone... Is it to soon for me to dream about him?

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lauraanne

Hi to you too Seekingsolace. And to everyone else. I took a three day beach vacation with my mom, sister and son. (Well we drove up late afternoon, stayed one day and left next morning.) I thought I would have a chance to be serene enough to talk to my brother but no. We stayed busy the whole time and the place we stayed in was not like the pictures that were advertised! Rusty medicine cabinets, wallpaper peeling, water in the bottom of refridge, sliding glass door had hole punctured through right beside the lock so that it looked like it could be lifted! And there was much more, but won't bore you all with that. The beach was nice and the water felt good and the strong ocean breeze was wonderful.

I haven't heard those cracks at night since I had that experience where I felt like my brother was here next to me and I asked him not to do that because it scared me. This is exciting news but also I am a little depressed about it because I feel a hesitation to actually try to communicate with him again. I have talked to him at different times but I haven't really RELAXED and opened completely up to it so I can hear him...I think I am scared of something but I don't know for sure what...maybe like Elena82 said, if it didn't work I would be upset.

I kind of thought he might come to me in a dream, but if he has I haven't remembered the dream! I have always had very strange and vivid dreams since I was in my teenage years. I used to tell him about them and he was interested but then would joke about them to me because he didn't have a clue why I had them or what to do about them either! It would be very fitting that he come to me in a dream. I did have a strange thing happen about 4 or 5 nights ago in a dream, I was having a bad feeling dream about people I didn't know... don't remember all of the details, but an old kind white haired woman all of a sudden was sitting next to me on a couch and put her arm around me and comforted me and gave me a hug where I wanted to cry but felt a feeling of such peace and comfort come over me that I couldn't cry. I felt like it was significant...real...but the dream before that wasn't anything I felt was real and I didn't recognize the woman. I wonder if it could have been one of my grandmother's or great grandmother's. I never new any of them.

Gotta run,

Bless you all,

Laura (anne)

Hi to you lauraa!

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Hi everyone,

Thanks for your support and seekingsolace thank u for your post it really gave me more confidence about the talks with Steven. I must say that I'm actually afraid to ask him a confirmation, because if it didn't work... I would be even more devasted.

Yesterday, I red all the posts on ADC's and other stories about NDE. Afterwards I kept asking myself, if the Other Side is so much better, why bother living here. The Other Side mean no more pain, only love and be together again with Steven. Now I can't stop thinking about my time to leave. I'm even hoping it won't take long before I die. I don't want to live long anymore. I don't want to kill myself neither, because it won't be fair for my family and I just don't have the courage to do it. But I'm praying my time to come, as soon as possible.

I won't be the only one thinking like that. I don't have kids to raise, I don't have anything. Just pain. I told my father that I didn't fear death anymore and he totally agreed, he said: Death isn't scary, life is.

Seekingsolace, what's making living here better than the Other Side/Heaven. Do we have to learn something here before making it there? I know for sure that Steven was a better person than me. He gave unconditional love, helped everyone in need. When we argued it was always me who started it, and he could always stay calm and make it better. Do we have to deserve to die?

Dear Elena82,

While I can't pretend to know the answers to your questions, it has always struck me that many people who have made life good for others do seem to leave here sooner, although this theory also seems to fall apart when considering animals' contributions.With people, I wonder if that's why they say that the miserable ones seem to hang on for so long? (for example, my father has never been liked, much less loved, by anyone who's ever known him, but he's still here) However, I know the feeling well that you spoke of; wanting to leave yourself ASAP but without taking active measures to see it happen. I've suffered this with 3 deaths so far. All I can tell you is that the feeling gradually went away over time. It did help that I had my remaining furgirl to take the best of care of since she got ill after her brother's 'graduation' to another plane. I've also recently found that my relationship with my husband must improve if I am to rid myself of that feeling of despair for the future without my loved ones who have crossed over. So I guess it helps if there's something or someone to give your life more reason. They also say that upon the deaths of your parents, that feeling of meaninglessness almost universally rears its ugly head with most people, as it has with the death of my Mother. But I'm still here, still struggling with things and feelings and hoping that some day I'll be able to see if there was a good enough reason for all of this to have occured the way it did. I'm sorry your pain is so fresh - there's nothing worse and I understand how difficult it is to go on every day. Just know that you're not alone in these feelings - we all suffer to some extent.

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swede1

Hi Lauraanne,

Glad to hear you finally got your beachy trip done...although....yah, nice place! Well,at least the beach itself was nicer!

What I think is significant in your dream was the FEELING this woman imparted to you -- comfort, care, concern, peace. It reminds me of dreams I had with both my brother and my furboy. No matter the chaos going on around us, with my furboy there was ALWAYS the feeling that he was FINE, I didn't have to worry about his safekeeping anymore; with my brother, there was just that feeling of complete SUPPORT that I so desperately wanted in waking life.( Is there any way you can find out if you had a relative who would look like her? )And by the way, (another commonality with us) I also have always had (since even younger than you) crazy dreams; still do for the most part. When I have one now that follows somewhat logical sequences or doesn't jump around so much from one crazy thing to another, I sit up and take real notice. That's partly how I know the last dream about my Mom wasn't just a dream! Another reason I knew was because of, again, the FEELING - I don't normally feel like that in waking life. I think it's sort of like working with symbols - although I have a dream/symbols book or two, I often find that the feeling behind the symbols ends up being more important than the symbol itself, also because sometimes the symbol doesn't even seem right. Maybe you could ask yourself, in a quieter moment, after revisiting the dream in your head, what did it SEEM to be saying to you? Hope some of this helps, and glad you're still on this board!

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Swede1,

Thanks. I felt like it was the feeling that I got from this woman in my dream that was so important too. It seemed real and it just flat out interupted my other dream which was a bad dream anyway. One of my grandmothers never got old enough to look like that, (I was told today by my mom). And my other grandmother was taller and had a longer face. So if it was real, then it was a great grandmother or great aunt or somebody else I don't know. There was this old lady that used to sit with me when I was about 5 that I think may have looked like that! Mrs. Kale. I just remembered. Because she used to wear her hair up in a bun with those hair combs and I would take them out and "fix" her hair. I am going to check with my mom on this one. Hmmmmm...Thanks again! I probably wouldn't have thought of her if I hadn't been putting my thoughts down here.

I have a dream book that I bought years ago, I had another one that was pretty good but I think my boyfriend at the time kept it. This one never even comes close with my dreams. Thank you for the advice. I am glad you are still here too!

Laura (anne)

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lauraa

Laura (anne),

I have to laugh everytime I read your name. It's is so funny to me that we are both here....I lost my dad and mom last year and I can hear them both calling me and it was Laura Anne or if my mom was pissed at me she would always say Laurie Anne. Is that a coincidence? I don't think there is such a thing. Anyway, I have been reading everyone's post here and I know the pain and sorrow you all are going thru. It is the most difficult thing we will ever have to go thru.I lost both my parents last along with my husband. Loosing my husband is by far the "puncture wound" in my heart! I have been in such deep grief for my loss of him that I haven't even begun to grieve for my parents. We all have to get thru it the best we know how...and that is probally the problem as most people haven't any experience with death and even when we do it is still devastating. I was numb the first year. I was also alone alot mostly by choice as it was to painful to see that life goes on and I couldn't put myself out there to deal with it...it was all I could do to get thru the grocery store....I do deal with anxiety but I think for the most part I'm doing a good/better job with it. I try to make sleeping a priority just so I don't get up as exhausted as I went to bed. The one and only thing that has helped me is reading books on the "after life" and know that they live on. I have had readings from mediums (the real deals)that has confirmed to me without a doubt that my husband lives on and is with me and our 3 kids. They have told me things that they would never have known because they didn't know me or any circumstances about us. I was told that a woman understood what I was going thru and she was there to meet my husband when he "crossed over"....and this woman said she wanted me to know that she knew what I was going thru....That was my husbands grandmother who raised him and she herself lost 2 husbands....so many other things were confirmed over and over again. My husband showed his face to me in our bedroom window about 4 months after he "passed". And I also had a dream that my husband was standing with me at his funeral and we both were looking at his casket and he said to me. "I am not there". So he is coming thru to me to convey that life does go on and that he is happy and healthy without sickness or pain. His biggest suffering was leaving his family that he loved so much and I know my life will never ever be the same. I know we grieve as deeply as we loved. I am realizing that the only thing that is going to get me thru this is LOVE. Love my kids. Love my cat. Love my dog. Love my friends. Love that I only have TODAY. I cry. No, I sob! I miss him with every fiber in my body. And, I miss everybody that I've lost in this life. I will pray for you and everybody here who needs support. We should all make a prayer list and pray for everyone because I know the power of prayer truely works.

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lauraanne

Lauraa~

Thank you for that post. It was very helpful to me.

I hurt so much like you described and there is something comforting about the statement~ we grieve as deeply as we loved.

One thing that I would like to ask all of you, I keep reading about mediums and how people checked them out first to make sure that they were real...Well how do you do that? Years ago I set out looking to talk to my dad and ran into several crazies! So I gave up. I DO believe that God gives different gifts to different people and that some people have that special gift. But first of all how do you find someone at all, (not the yellow pages?), and then how do you make sure you have someone who is real?

Thank you,

Laura (anne)

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lauraa

Lauraanne,

First of all I found a site. www.bestpsychicmediums.com------I read it over and over until one of them resonated with me. I even emailed the editor of the site and chatted with him. Then I thought about it, sat with it for several months. Then when I felt I made the decision I called one of them and she was wonderful. She even suggested to me that I wasn't ready at all for a reading then I waited for awhile. I continued to read books about the "afterlife" so I would feel more comfortable and ready because sometimes as I understand they don't always go the way we hope. It has put me on a path to where I know they are real. Just like any profession or calling there are "always" the ones who are "quacks" and take advantage but not where I am. They believe in god and feel they have been given a gift. They aren't trying to turn anyone away from god. They feel no-one dies but that we physically shed our bodies and we live on and we live on in a place where there is no more suffering. When you get right down to it that was my belief anyway but when we are knocked down to as low as we can get grieving the loss of our loved ones if you are anything like me you need to know for sure. I have had many many times now when things were told to me that there is no way that anybody else would have known the things they verified to me. Keep reading any and all books on the subject. It has truely been a lifesaver for me. I think the hardest part with this grieving is all the stages that we need to get thru but for me the hardest was and still is that I am angry with god and I must admit the lowest point in my life. Grieving the loss of my dad and my husband (my two best friends in the whole world)and not having one of them to help me thru the loss of the other and being upset with god when I have relied on god my entire life has been the most profoundly lowest time of my life. I am working hard to concur this and come out with my faith intact. Seekingsolace has also shed alot of light on

this subject which has helped me because I know there are authentic people out there who have good intentions and that is to truely help grieving people. It is a gift and I feel god has given that to certain people. I also went with my own intuition when it came time to pick a medium and it was so right. Good luck.

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lauraanne

lauraa,

Thank you. I will check it out. Seekingsolace has been very helpful to me too. I am just having trouble calming down enough and finding time around my child to do it myself and I feel the need to hear from my brother. My brother's girlfriend has caused much (more) grief in our family and I really need to get strong enough to deal with it properly.

In God's strength, wisdom, and protection,

Laura

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swede1

Lauraa,

Just a really PRACTICAL question about the medium you chose.....did your reading break the bank? I've looked at that very site MANY times, but never acted because one I did check out in the U.S.(can't remember if she's on that site, too)was charging over $300 U.S. (much more in Cdn. funds!)for less than an hour's worth. I've used animal communicators many times, so know when they're good, it's well worth it. For me, I'd have to budget for THREE readings; Mom, cat (again- it's been 5 yrs since the last one) and brother, so expense is definitely a high consideration!

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lauraa

Swede1,

I love the name....furboy. That is so cute! I think with the mediums you have to be careful. Mostly I think we have to use our good intuition. I don't have alot of money to spend on that so we need to be wise. There are people out there who would take advantage but I'm sure that is in everything. Just like I think alot of them have god given talents and want to help people grieving. We were also given the gift of discernment....There are Spiritual churches if you can find one and I'm sure they are all different as well but you will find mediums there and they do readings randomly at their services. I have found the services to be extremely spiritual and meditative....that is where I feel drawn and where I always connect to my husband and feel the most at peace. It fills my tank to help get me thru this awful grieving. It is real! They don't believe you die but that we shed our physical bodies and our spirits live on...that was my belief anyway but after my losses I was so devastated that I needed to know more and these people confirmed to me just by telling me things over and over again by different ones things they would never have known in a trillion years. It has help to carry me this year. No, I have not spent alot cause I won't cause I can't. Hope this helps. Let me know. Good luck.

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swede1

Dear Seekingsolace,

I'll have to think more about my signs patterns, etc. (been too busy of late to sit down and ponder that). However, something struck me....according to The Course, there is no such thing really as TIME, and things can happen all at the same 'time'(past, present, future), so to speak...so does this mean that once you're in the spirit world you can manipulate time? I know that more modern physics allows for this collapsing of time. Just kind of wondering if a loved one can manipulate things/events to get a sign to you by 'playing' with time?

Also, another Course question would be: if ultimately there is only ONE of us here (or anywhere!) because we're all ONE, with no separation between 'parts', then how is it, even in the spirit world, we seem to have different souls/soul personalities? I would have thought that once you return to spirit, you'd sort of blend into that melting pot of Oneness, especially since you'd now know the truth about WHO you are....so wonder how you could possibly retain any vestige of separate ANYTHING?

And just an observation: It might sound strange, [unless this is a part of the fear of God(ness)], but it strikes me as rather frightening to think that in 'time' we will all return to true wholeness/Oneness....because wouldn't that seem terribly LONELY, KNOWING that there's no one else there and there never will be, and that we're only playing with OURSELF?!?!?!

Any help you could give me on these things would be great, as those concepts have driven me crazy for years. I couldn't even get help with these from a local woman who claims to know the Course inside-out and who was teaching it.

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seekingsolace

Hi Everyone.

Apologies for my absence ...I've had a very, very sick dog on my hands for the last while and the last week has been particularly challenging. She went temporarily blind on top of an underlying chronic renal failure so I had to think fast on my medical feet to save her sight. Thankfully it has returned and she is more stable again in the last 24 hours. Giving her the proper care and support has been a bit of a marathon to say the least but thankfully the strength always comes from the Big Kahuna and recharges my battery.

I just wanted to let you all know that I am here and will reply to your postings within the next few days. It is good to see so much activity in the group : )

A hug to all of you ...

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noidofmyown

Seekingsolace: I'm glad your dog is more stable now. Just wanted you to know that you have been a BIG HELP to all of us.

Swede1 and seekingsolace: If I may ask, what is the course you are referring to?

to both Lauras:you two really do have alot of similarities. Although I have lost both my parents, I can't even imagine the pain with losing a soulmate.

I myself have not contacted any psycics yet. I do believe that there are legitimate ones as well as "con artists" --- like with anything. I have felt myself in a spiritual state of growth the past few years. Although I do attend a church, my spirituality does not come from it. I do believe in you, seekingsolace. When my mother died and I stood next to the dying baby bunny, I experienced things hard to describe. I had previously asked God who was right --- her religion, mine, or others. The answer I "felt" was all yet none exactly.When I was younger, I used to ask 'how did Moses stand beside a burning bush and come up with all that?" I'm not trying to get religious here. Its just that what I experienced made me understand how that could be. My mother's religious beliefs were very different from my own, and one of the things I do remember is feeling that she is right, and I am right, and all the other religions out there are right, and understanding that religion is for us humans to understand these hard to grasp concepts. I remember understanding that there are some of us (not me, but you, seekingsolace) who can understand both "worlds". I understand that they exist, but alot of what I experienced at that moment faded, as it is hard to describe. It is only now, 5 years after my mom's death and a year after my dad's that I feel ready to understand.

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swede1

Dear Noidofmyown (1st) and Seekingsolace (2nd),

1st:

A Course In Miracles is a set of books (3, or all 3-in-big-one) consisting of a text, workbook for students and manual for teachers, published by the Foundation for Inner Peace, that is essentially an organized transcript of teachings directly from Jesus/God, or The Voice that were spontaneously received by a psychologist (an atheist, no less)over about 7 years' time...a "kind of rapid, inner dictation" that, with one of her colleague's help(whom she first had a troubled work relationship with), was later compiled into the Course. It is a set of teachings whose purpose is to help people find their own Internal Teacher. There are lessons for each day of an entire year, as well as the general text, and the teachers' manual for those that have 'got' the teachings well enough to help enlighten others. It is meant more as a STARTING point, not as an end to the learning. It's main premise is "Nothing real can be threatened. Nothing unreal exists. Herein lies the peace of God." If it sounds interesting, it certainly is, and blew me away on many fronts. Although I've never managed to even get through the entire year even once (I've restarted it a few times), and I don't 'get' every concept it contains, its teachings are the only things so far I've ever found that explain some of the hardest questions I've had about both religions and the Bible...although I seem to have found some, either discrepancies, or just sticky points that appear to contradict, but this may just be the way I've read it. I attempted to take a year-long 'course' in the Course :-) from one of the people who 'teach' it, but I wasn't happy with the way she led the group, so quit as she wasn't helping me understand it much better.

2nd: Oh, I'm so SORRY you've had such an illness to contend with...I understand, as my remaining furgirl also has kidney disease (although we treat her homeopathically/holistically, with quite good results for the past 5 years since diagnosed). I know I, too, drop everything whenever her care requires my undivided attention! Of course, she's the most important 'person' in the world to me...I consider her my daughter - and a wonderful, loving, furry daughter she IS!! I hope things stay stable for your doggie, and I add, take your time getting to my questions cuz I don't ever mind any animal taking precedence. Even a Guide needs a break when earthly duty calls!

Hope everyone else is doing alright, too. I never did find time to reply to all, as I had planned. Sorry about that.

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seekingsolace

Hi Everyone.

It is good to finally have a chance to write to all of you today. My dog is still needing icu care from me but she is stable thankfully and, God willing, will continue to be. Thanks for all your wonderful words of support : )

A warm welcome to Songbird [see 6.28.05]. Please feel free to write to us here anytime. We are here to help in any way that we can.

My comments to each of you are below:

For Songbird: I wanted to mention up front that the dreams you have had of your grandparents do not sound like "dreams" to me ...they sound like "visits". They fit that picture succinctly [i.e. the vivid & real quality to them].

I know that you are desperate to communicate with your father and you have been wondering if you are doing something that is preventing him from coming through to you. The most common thing that does that for people is fear of contact or the method/manner of contact. Do you have any fear around your father's method of contacting you? [if so ..I can make some suggestions around this]. I wondered about this point since he does tend to give signs with the feathers when both you, your mother, and sister are together [signs that come through when earth beings have company are often less frightening for everyone and more easily validated ...].

Another reason why people in spirit can have difficulty getting through is because of unresolved stuff that you might have with them. I realize that that is a very personal thing but, if you suspect something like that, the key is to resolve that thing and then the messages can get through. I realize I am being general right now. I can provide more details on the "how" once I have more specifics from you [if it's too personal, you are welcome to e me privately at illuminatumm@hotmail.com].

I do know that your father IS coming through. That I would like to you to hold solid to. This WILL happen for you. There IS always an answer. I am very tenacious about finding it as I know it's just sorting out this and that and then it happens. I do know as well that the communication challenges are usually on the part of the "receiver" not the "sender" ...mainly because the receiver is in Earth [physical] form still and can feel that telepathic communication is foreign/new so they have a greater learning curve than people in spirit.

As for why the dreams from your grandparents came so often to you and why those with your father have not as of yet ...I would need to hear more about your relationship with your grandparents and how their death affected you and then the same with you and your father. I think that will start to clarify things.

When your dad came to you as you were drifting off to sleep and then, when you saw him and bolted awake, he was no longer in your vision ...This is a common occurrence. It is much easier for people in spirit to get our attention when our "day" mind is turned off [ie. while drifting to sleep for instance] ...then when it turns back on, if it is filled with much noise, the signal from them is interrupted.

I have a feeling that your mind might be full of stuff right now and perhaps your father can't get through because of the volume. Perhaps the same thing is happening at night in your dreamworld ...There is too much other stuff in your mind right now for the dreamworld to have even quiet for his transmission to be heard.

By the way, I believe your father is choosing feathers as a sign because they are meaningful to you or him in some way. Was he a birdwatcher? Or are you? Or some other thing that has to do with birds? or flight? The signs come a certain way because of personal meaning.

Feel free to write more on this to us. An answer is there for you.

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For Elena 82 [see 6.28.05]: It's understandable that you don't feel like living here without Steven physically present. I do believe though that, if technology were already in place that would fully allow you to communicate with him, to compare notes of the Other Side and Earth, your experience right now would be completely different. Communication being so seemingly cut off right now produces only a pain that you know [because everyone's experience is different]. I know that this will all be different in 100 years. Communication technology will catch up. We are just a little behind the times right now. Thankfully though, we can work with the inherit communication system that we have wired inside us now. We don't have to wait for technology. It's just about learning skills in the now.

As far as what Earth vs the Other Side have to offer. There is something potentially exquisite about a physical reality ...and something equally exquisite about a non-physical reality. We on earth haven't yet achieved the exquisite in our physical reality because we forget who we are, who we all are [ie. beings of light and eternal wisdom] ...We struggle with emotions ..the main one is fear ..and this creates a lot of pain for us. Our minds create a lot of pain for us. And this all produces the physical reality of the earth right now. But this will change too. And it changes first on an individual level. We need to decide to see the light in ourselves and on the earth. It's really hard sometimes, I know ...because we suffer, we hurt ... a LOT. I won't go on more about this right now because I would take up pages. Hopefully this starts to give you some food for thought though. My heart goes out to all of us in the physical. We are trying our very best ...We need to keep that in mind. And be loving to ourselves.

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For Lauraanne [see 6.28.05]: your white haired lady in your 'dream' ..I believe that she was a 'visitor' from the Other Side. Either a relative of some sort, Mrs Kale, or a person assigned to look after you from the Other Side. She gave you a lot of love in that visit. She means well for you.

It is good to hear that your brother has stopped the cracks at night : ) He listened to your request. When you feel more comfortable, you can speak with him again about other contact. Just take your time. You are wise to note that you are probably scared of something right now. Trust in yourself. And trust in your brother. And then get out of your own way and let nature take it's course. You are wired for this stuff.

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For Lauraa [see 6.28.05, 6.29.05, 6.27.05]: What an incredibly profound and accurate thing to say ..."We grieve as deeply as we love". Thank-you for sharing that with us.

The fact that you keep seeing your husband's face and your father's silhouette is phenomenal. I know that you are aiming for being able to directly talk to them. In answer to your question if you are crazy or not ...NO ..you are NOT crazy. You are a lady with a lot of determination that would like to have a strong connection with people that she loves. It is that simple. I think it IS possible for you. The key is to keep trying. I'm not going into a huge pile of specifics around this right now because it would take up more BI post room that I am already taking up. But I do promise you that I will give you a reference to more detailed information in this regard once I have it prepared.

I know you mentioned [6.29.05] that you are really angry at God and that has been really hard for you. Have you spoken to God about that at all? When people are angry at God, they often stop talking to him altogether and that doesn't get them very far. Just keeping talking to him ....Even just to let him know how ticked off you are. It's ok to be angry at God. The Big Kahuna can handle it!! And do know that just because you are angry at God, doesn't mean he's gone anywhere. He has an infinite amount of patience. So spit at him, cuss at him, do your worst ...He can handle it. Just know that he IS there. Whether you like it or not. And blame him if you need to but do know that God is NOT to blame for every death. Sometimes we just bite off the hand that feeds us because it looks like the one that hurt us on another day ...but we could be wrong.

Making sense of [or even just "being"] why both you father and your husband are not with you in the physical must be one of the most brutal things you have ever gone through. My heart goes out to you.

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For Swede 1 [see 7.1.05, 7.3.05, 6.21.05]: Thank-you for your kind words and support around my dog. I have always thought of her as my child. Animals are incredible beings of light : ) Blessings to your furboy and furgirl.

Although I am somewhat familiar with the Course in Miracles, I am not an expert on it by any means. I would say I only have a beginners familiarity with the book however, the principles/questions you ask about, I can try to answer. In other words, if you have a question about the Course, for me, I will take it as a question about God/Big Kahuna and/or the makings of the universe and that IS something I can try to assist with independant of my knowledge of how the Course was intended.

You had asked if, in spirit, you can manipulate time. YES. We can do the same while in the physical body. Sounds odd? It does to me too. But yet I have had first hand experience with it many times as have many of you although you probably don't know it. Have any of you ever had the experience of "time passing slowly" or "time passing quickly?" That is a common example of time manipulation. I once had to arrive at an appointment and I knew I was extremely late and I knew it would take me 20 minutes to drive there [i had done the trek before and it always took that long]. That day the clock registered a 5 minute drive yet that was physically impossible. Yet, before I left, I set my intention to arrive to the appointment on time and to take my time driving. I turned on my stereo and did not look at a clock until I arrived there. An example of time warping when in physical body. There is much about time our planet has yet to learn. It will be interesting to see how things change as more knowledge/remembrance is attained.

You had also asked about "seperation" versus being "ONE". My experience of the Other Side is that there is variations/differences with EACH individual soul but that we are all connected. So it is not that only seperation exists or only oneness but rather both. "One-ness" according to my experience is the state that is felt when complete connection occurs between each other. We are only all part of one being to the extent that we have a shared experience and a deep connection within the same universe ...Each and every part of the universe is dependant/interconnected upon the other. The tears of one person are felt by all if we really consciously tune into that.

You had asked in a much earlier posting [see 6.21.05] for me to elaborate more on "soul personality" vs "human personality". The soul personality would be analagous to only the deeply wise parts of a person, whereas the human personality would be only a fraction of the wise parts [because the wisdom is held strongly in the unconscious and weakly in the conscious mind and most people don't know how to easily access that wisdom or how to trust in it when it speaks to them] and the rest of "ego" parts [ie. fear and societal based behaviour /programming to get ourselves love and acceptance].

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For Noidofmyown [see 7.2.05]: Thank-you for your kind words : ) If I can help you in any way in terms of understanding of either of the worlds that you speak of, I will try my very best. Please know that you already have an incredible wisdom already present within you. I am merely a Guide to help you access it and trust in it. Your "feeling" was right. There is much more of that within you. Trust in that.

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Apologies for the very, very long entry today! I hope I haven't left anyone out. Please let me know if I have. Take care everyone. Remember to trust in your senses.

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