Members 4everjoeysmom Posted February 6, 2008 Members Report Share Posted February 6, 2008 Chantal, Such wisdom from your son... Not that it is pleasant or comforting that e wanted to speak of his own preference in the "if it should happen" scenario, but that he comforted you by saying Jade would be happy with your choice. I know how much having my surviving son means to me, and how very close we've been and are through losing Joey and going forward beyond our loss and grief. Having patrick has kept me sane, so to speak. I know exactly what you mean...Patrick helped his dad and I make all the arrangements for Joey. He also was creamted, and we did a private release of his ashes at the family ranch pastures, with the horses he loved and raised. A huge horse barn was in building process...Joey was helping his dad to build it. His closest friends gathered at the ranch a couple of times in the past year and a half to help complete the barn in Joey's honor. And soon a plaque will be added as a memorial. We think Joey would like that too.It's so hard to think on these things and know it is our reality. But to know some of the choices we made are the same cherished choices by others... I wish this on no one. It's so devastating and hard. But I am grateful for this online community where we can clearly see we don't ever journey alone..... My heart and prayers are with you and your family. Love, Claudia (4everjoeysmom) Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Members mamabets Posted February 7, 2008 Members Report Share Posted February 7, 2008 For Chantal~ It is so very normal to react this way, and have this feeling of "What if this happens again?"We are thrown in to such a shock mode- Life will never be as we once knew it to be, and to try to maneuver our way through is very, very tricky. While it is excrutiating to even GO there, it is healthy that your kids are talking open and freely to you. That is every parent's wish.My Danny was 25 when he departed in June of 2004...Fortunately, my daughter and I have always been open about everything, as were Danny and I. If they felt the need, they can and could always come to me. Jackie calls by 9:00 AM every day, and by days end we have chatted at least four to five times. It was the same with Danny... My theory as a parent has always been "If they can come to you with everything, they will come to you with anything, and if they can't, they may come to you with nothing"While it didn't always go that way, I am sure, my heart was always opened, ready to listen with an open mind. They would "talk" and I would "hear"...People have said to me over the years "Do your kids really talk to you about THAT???"My answer has often been "Sure, and yours don't???""THAT" covers everything and anything, so I am thankful that your kids talk. This is a good thing.A fateful night still took my Danny, in spite of it all. The last thing he said to me, an hour before his accident was "Ma, don't worry...I'll call you as soon as I get home. I love you"He called...He held my hand, and we strolled as he entered his place of peace.... It was as real as his birth, each and every step of our way~His time here was up, mine isn't yet. I miss everything about him, he leaves me lots of signs, and the miracle of him lives on. I will hear his voice and feel his hugs again one day~LOVEmamabets Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Members chantallou71 Posted March 16, 2010 Members Report Share Posted March 16, 2010 2 years now.... Yesterday my son lost his first child he named her after his sister.... Now i am very very upset.....First my daughter now my first grand child....I most have done something terribly wrong for God to keep giving me this grief.....I love you Natasha Jade...... Go to heaven go play with aunty Jade I am sure she is taking care of you already. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Administrators Kelly Posted August 8, 2010 Administrators Report Share Posted August 8, 2010 Dear Members,We are excited to mention that we are moving to a more new and improved message boards on MONDAY MORNING AUGUST 9th! The boards will be done for a few hours while we are making the conversation. Remember we posted information about this move a month ago. For some of you this might seem a bit sudden, but when we were reviewing the site we determined the current message board you are using is out of date and the company that designed it is no longer in existence. The good news is this new message board will have new features that have been requested in the past like more fields we can add to your profiles and a chat room up to 20 people at one time. If we find the chat room is bursting at the seams we will add additional room for extra people. All your old posts, private messages and such will be migrated to the new message board. You might have to put up your profile picture again but not sure. The new company will be doing the migration for us. Here is a short list of some of the new features on the board:- Custom Profile Fields- Users can customize their profile pages by selecting a background color or background image, with tiling options.- Facebook and Twitter Integration- users can respond to multiple posts at once with "mini-quote"- Pinned discussion threads - like welcome to our board etc.- Announcements made across some boards or the entire message board- Search: Users can easily find all content generated by a particular member, by clicking the 'Find Content' button that appears on the main profile page, or in the Mini Profile Popup which can be accessed throughout the board. The results page allows content to be filtered by application, as well whether the member created it or merely participated in it. - Privacy: allows users to sign in anonymously, hiding them from the online users list. Users also have the option to disable personal conversations and user-to-user emails, as well as ignore other users if necessary.The next exciting piece of news about the new message board is it will have a new domain name of www.grieving.com for search engine optimization purposes. It will still be apart of Beyond Indigo and can be found through www.beyondindigo.com. We will be redirecting your current URL's to this new domain name but we might miss a few. If that is the case simply go back to www.grieving.com or www.beyondindigo.com to find your message board thread. We will try to make the transition as seamless as possible. The bottom line is the new board will give us room to grow our community and more options to interact better with each other. If you have any questions please direct them to feedback@beyondindigo.com. Kelly Baltzell, MACEO/PresidentBeyond Indigo Family Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
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