Members maamgrey Posted April 6, 2008 Members Report Share Posted April 6, 2008 It's been 10 weeks since I lost Mike. For 8 weeks I cried just about daily and would tear up at seemingly nothing. The last 2 weeks I've only cried once. I feel like crying but the tears just won't come. I want to but I can't force them. I'm not holding anything back; I think about him and miss him every minute of the day. I wear his clothes, I talk to him and write to him, I talk to others about him, I look at his and our pictures. I have a lump in my chest instead of a heart. I'm living under this cloud of sadness all the time. There is no life now - it's just existence. So why won't the tears come? Sue Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Members rodless Posted April 6, 2008 Members Report Share Posted April 6, 2008 I am not a crier by nature (especially in front of others) so I understand what you're saying. Sometimes the lump builds up until I can't stand it. Then I put music on and look at pictures and think about what I'm missing and the tears come. I always feel better afterwards. I wish I could cry a little easier. I did not cry at my husband's funeral until we were all done at the cemetery. I'm sure some people especially stepkids thought I was stone hearted but I think I knew inside that if I started I would not be able to get through it. I made up for it later. Your tears will come when they're ready. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Members armaiti Posted April 6, 2008 Members Report Share Posted April 6, 2008 I'm also not a crier in public. Alone with my cats I can. But early on my friend who's a nurse told me to drink lots of water too. If you cry a lot, you are losing water in your body, and you need to drink extra to make up for it...there's even an old Native ceremony called "replenishng the tears" that a friend of Ishaq's led for us that year, where we all held cups of water and remembered our loved ones who had passed and then drank the water.I think sometimes the grief takes such a toll on our bodies that they just need to rest, even if we feel we want to let loose, our bodies may not let us.Blessings,Anna Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Members maamgrey Posted April 6, 2008 Author Members Report Share Posted April 6, 2008 Wow, I never heard of that ceremony but what a nice idea. I don't generally cry in public although I did at the funeral and the cemetery - not sobbing, just tears and sniffling. After he died, I cried every day several times a day for weeks and weeks - always alone at home. But then for a couple of weeks, they just wouldn't come out. And well, I finally did cry tonight, and you're right, that lump in my chest has eased a little bit. Thanks for understanding.Sue Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
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