A place for those who are dating and mourning~

[lindat]

I might do that, but not before October - perhaps a 55+ dating group....     I am also thinking of going back to school in Jan - I need to learn some database stuff for website design.    I am thinking of turning my hobby into a career since waitressing is getting harder as I get older.  I am really wondering how I will do with the heavy trays now that I have been off for so long.  Anyway, it is something I need to plan for since I have no retirement and very little social security.  

[justkaren2]

Linda:

I hear you.  I'm 52 and don't know what I will do when I retire..probably live in a cardboard box somewhere!

I try not to think about it...one of those things I just hand over to God.

Karen

[lindat]

I will be 62 next birthday, so the time for planning is now - or much earlier.  Funny how you never think you will ever be 60 and then it has passed you by.....

[aprilmoonflower]

I just made all the reservations for our trip. (we are camping ala KOA) woohoo!

[rodless]

Becky...neat rainbow. I have a quote posted on a rainbow pic on my filing cabinet at work: Never miss a rainbow because you're looking down. Some days is helps to read it. Somedays I have to read it more than once!

April...have a great trip. It will be fun to hear how all turns out.

Linda...glad you're doing better. A +55 group sounds good to me. #58 is coming up in a couple of weeks. How did I get to be so old???? I am lucky to work for city which gives me state retirement plan. I think looking at a web design career would be a good move.

Everyone else... (Hate it I can't see posts while replying.) Have a good weekend.

 

[justkaren2]

April:

You are a brave woman.  Camping all by yourself with kids?  I love camping, but have never done it without a man.  What is KOA?  I think it's a type of campground, isn't it?  Tent or trailer?

Linda:  How do you like the 60's?  I love my 50's, but must say I am dreading 60.  And I hear you, rodless...I still cannot believe that I am this old.  I definitely don't feel it, but the mirror tells me otherwise, although I have always looked young for my age and I am grateful for that. 

Does anyone else here struggle with not having someone to lean on emotionally?  I really miss having someone to bounce off big decisions with.  But I guess that's what is hard about the second year.  The shock has worn off and reality sets in...not concentrating so much on just overcoming the grief, but on how to live alone without them.

Everyone have a great weekend.  I'm going to Santa Barbara for a wedding.  We are traveling by Harley, so I'm going to be a biker chic this weekend!

[mishknit]

karen....

where do you live???

if you're going by harley to santa barbara, can't be too far from me...

i live in northridge.

i love motorcycles....can't drive one, but love to ride on the back with a good driver.

im my youth i had a lot of that, not so much now!

anyway,

have fun!~

michele

[aprilmoonflower]

KOA is kampgrounds of America. I have camped before alone pre kids so I'm not too worried! (I was a great girls scout once upon a tim! haha!) and we won't be having a fire or anything like that (not with 2 preschoolers!!!). Just a place to stop and sleep mainly as we won't be there long at all. they have playgrounds and a pool too.  they even have food delivery to your campsite if you need it.lol.

[justkaren2]

Michelle:

I am in Murrieta, which is in Riverside County, very near the San Diego border.  I'm very, very geographically challenged, but I think Northridge is LA County?

Yeah, the motorcycle riding is a new thing since Richard's death.  Taunting death, I think.  What do I have to lose?  Just my life.  And then I would be with him.

Also have been skydiving and all of the things that I was too sensible to do prior to this.

I love the peace that I find on a motorcycle...on the back...something about the wind in my face and the scenery.  My kids think I have gone nuts!  Don't tell anyone, but I have.   I would never drive one because I am soooooooo very uncoordinated.  I don't want to kill someone.  I first got on the back of a motorcycle one month after Richard's death, and I found such solace there.  I think of him every single time.  I feel that he is there with me.  Stupid, yes, because he didn't ride but I find solace there.  I almost got a tattoo after he died with his initials...just because he would have hated it!  And to forever remember the impact of his death and all that I had learned.

Mid-life crisis and this death are doing strange things to me!

April:  You are going to have so much fun.  For some odd reason, I think this is a really good thing for you.

Karen

[lindat]

Karen, the best part about the 60's is being here to enjoy them.  So many of my friends didn't make it, that I think you learn from here on out to be grateful for the time you have - whatever it is called.    I think for all of us, eating right and exercise of some sort helps to keep us feeling as young as possible.   I think the worst part of the 60's is all of the fat old men that think they look younger than their years, when in fact they look older.   The men in their 50s want women in their 30s and 40s, so that part sucks.   I always dreaded being 60, but that was the year that Terry died and I was so sad that he wasn't here that it went by without much thought.  I did enjoy the 50's very much though - hated to see them go. 

[mishknit]

i know where that is karen....

northridge is in la county....probably 2hours from you.

maybe one day we'll meet...

but then linda and i kept saying that too!

i'm 54....

52 when tom died.

and i wanted to get a tatoo so badly, because he hated them too! lol!

i actually almost did when i turned 50, but chickened out, and then when tom died i thought, what the hell, why not...but never followed thru.

now the plan for the tatoo is when i'm 60...that same year my son will turn 21, and we're gonna go to vegas and get tatoos....lol

we'll see! but it's fun for us to make that plan (and i'm hoping he doesn't get one before that!)

god..april, camping with little ones...that will immediately put the relationship to the test..you'll know REALLY fast if he's a keeper!

and linda....i know what you mean about the guys....i'd love to find someone my age,even a bit younger, but...not happening.

i still hold out hope.

peace,

michele

[lindat]

Perhaps when I come out in October, the 3 of us could meet for lunch or something....

I had to have tiny tattoo spots to show them where to aim the radiation and they hurt, so I have decided to forget the tattoo idea

My heart isn't really in the dating thing right now, mostly I just really feel sad and empty now that Jim is gone.  I can't move on until I am sure that there isn't a chance.  Perhaps October will be the turning point.  If he hasn't realized by then that he wants to be with me, he never will.   It's only a little more than 3 months, not long at all.   He is still calling, so perhaps there is a chance.  I'm psycho....

[justkaren2]

Michelle and Linda:

That would be so cool to meet.  I'm up for it if you are!  But, Linda, you won't have time when you come out...you'll be spending it with your guy.  But, who knows, maybe the reunion will be awesome, and you'll end up moving out here!

Yeah, who ever thought we would be dating "old men"...teehee.  And you're right, no matter how old, men always think they are studly and want the younger beauties.  But there are some good ones "our age" out there.

What about the really young guys that are looking for a 'cougar'.  Sorry, little boys, go after another sex fantasy instead.

So, I gave up the tattoo idea.  Now, I'm thinking of getting my belly button pierced.  I lost so much weight after Richard died, I finally have a flat(...ish) tummy and think I could pull it off....that is, if the piercing guy could stop laughing at this old lady long enough to do it!

Well, I'm off for my weekend.  Wishing you a good weekend, ladies!

Karen

[lindat]

Hi Karen,  I will only see Jim for a day - and only if he really wants to see me.  I will be spending some time in Escondido with my mom and I will be doing a mini reunion in CA for alumni that live there.   I will make time to see you guys, Michele and I have talked about it for way too long already....

I will be here for 5 years until my cancer treatment is over - because of medical coverage I have to be a resident of MI.   After that, I will either head to CA, MS or FL - asap.   A lot can happen between now and then, but that is the general plan.   I will be glad when I don't feel the way I do and I know from past experience that this too will pass, but it is hard right now.   Jim says that I wear rose colored glasses, if that is true I must have lost the dam things...

[airymoon]

rodless my  son took the rainbow picture by my house with my cell phone.  it was actually a very bright double rainbow.

[justkaren2]

Linda:

That made me laugh.  Lost your rose-colored glasses?  Too funny.

Escondido is only 45 minutes south of me.  Michelle is two hours in the other direction from me.  Totally doable!

I'm back from my weekend.  We were trying to save money, so we booked a hotel for $75 a night.  It was named "Sleepy Hollow".  I nicknamed it "Creepy Hollow", which turned into "Creepy Hellhole".  It was the worst hotel I have ever stayed in my whole life! We laughed hysterically when we saw it...something for the memory books.  Didn't sleep a wink all night, so I'm going to bed now.

Karen

[lindat]

A few years ago my mom and I drove up to LA and we had reservations at a motel in Hollywood.  It was almost midnight and we couldn't find it so we stopped a policeman to ask for directions and he said to follow him.   He pulled in the hotel parking lot and then came to my car and told me to come with him and my mom to lock the door.  He walked me to the office and after we got the key he went back with me to get my mom and then he escorted us to the room.  He told us to go in and lock the door and not to come out or answer the door until it was daylight.   I was exhausted and went right to sleep, my mom didn't sleep all night because she said there were bugs crawling out of a big hole in the mattress.  She also wondered why people were going in and out of the place all night long    Looking back I am sure that we were the only reservation they had ever had....  thanks for reminding me.

My car is living in Fallbrook until I can get there to claim it and my mom lives in Escondido.  I worked at the Red Lobster in Oceanside.    We will have to seriously do this.

[mishknit]

my very best friend is moving to the la costa area at the end of the summer...

so, if it's not a weekend i have weddings, i can meet you two and see her....

perfect!

maybe this will actually work out!

peace,]

michele

[aprilmoonflower]

I wanna come too.. I am 6 hours from San Diego if it matters.lol.

[lindat]

April that would be really cool!! 

[mishknit]

yeah!!!

april, come!!

how way cool would that be?

peace,

michele

[justkaren2]

Ahh, Linda.  You know my territory well.  Oceanside is the beach me and my kids frequent (I didnt know about the gangs and stuff until recently), our doctors are in Fallbrook, and I used to shop in Escondido before they built the mall here in Temecula.

April:  You'd really meet up with us?  6 hours from San Diego?  I'm so geographically challenged, I don't know where you could be...Arizona, maybe?

Karen

[aprilmoonflower]

yup, an hour south of Tucson.

[aprilmoonflower]

btw~ we did have plans to meet in Sedona at one time (about 5 of us from here) but due to schedules, finances and stuff it hasn't happened (yet!)..maybe one day though!

[mishknit]

ok....

i am seriously a mess.

i HATE this dating thing!!!

i want tom back,

i don't want to get pissed off when i let something slip that i feel is intimate (and, frankly...cover your ears if this offends you..i don't think sex is that intimate compared to other things).....

letting someone into my life is intimate, and i am assidously attempting to not allow that to happen, but, at a certain point.....

you either allow it or not.

i'm in the negative space here... not willing to move ahead, but still enjoying (kinda) the here and now parts of it.

i am seriously a mess ladies......

just don't know what i want now....and what i want really can't happen.

obviously a lot has happened the last few days.....too much to go into.

but it seems unkind of me to not let this guy really in, and i'm not ready to do that...

so

break up?

keep having fun with no thought of him?

just venting...

i know you guys don't have the answers...

peace,

michele

[lindat]

 

I guess the only thing that is helping me right now is

trying to stay in the present.   It sounds corny, but when

I catch myself reliving the past or worrying about the future, I try

to pull myself back to now.   The fact that now is miserable doesn't really matter, it is still all that I have and I have to try and make it valuable in some way.  Do I succeed?   Some minutes I do and some I don't....  the last 3 weeks I have gone back to sometimes getting through one minute at a time and just focusing on breathing in and out.    You are right about the intimacy being much more than sex - it isn't the sex that I miss.....   For myself, I have no regrets that I took the risk and let him in my heart, but it sure hurts right now.  

Michele, I know that when the time is right, you will figure out what is best for you.

[justkaren2]

Michelle:

I'm right there with you.  I'm a mess, too.  Maybe we all are?  Maybe it is just part of the process? 

I hear your inner turmoil and I hear your fear.  Do you really have to make any decisions now?  Right now? 

As Linda said, I know that you will figure it out with time.  I could be way off base here, but maybe you could start by trying to define what is so frightening about intimacy to you?

I know what it is for me...fear of abandonment.  Once I figured that out, then I was able to say.  "Ok, if the worst happened and he abandoned me, would I survive?"  And the answer was yes.  I would survive (I survived the death of Richard, didn't I and NOTHING could be worse than that) and I would simply be left in the same place I started...alone.

"keep having fun with no thought of him?"  You ARE thinking of him.  Your inner turmoil is clear evidence of that.

You will figure it out and I have faith that you will do what is best for both of you.

Keep us posted.  Use us to vent.  Use us as your sounding board. We most probably do not have the answers, but it helps to have someone listen that cares.

Hugs,

Karen

[mishknit]

thanks linda, karen...

i am so grateful to have this place to vent....

perhaps i want him to dump me... that was a pattern before tom, and then with tom it was the ULTIMATE dump!

stayimg in the moment is paramount.

he just emailed me and has tix to see a play friday night...something i want to see, and i don't think he;s much of a playgoer, while i am an ex-actor.....

it's sweet.

i'm going

we'll see.

amd i also wrote a couple people on the internet....

maybe just needing to see what else is out there.

i hate and love my life in not-equal measure.

i hate it more, but am grateful for the opportunities i have to grow...

and this seems like one of them.

grateful for y6u guys for sure1

peace,

michele

[justkaren2]

so, are you thinking that maybe he's not the right one?

What made Tom different that made you change your pattern of making men break up with you?

 

[mishknit]

tom was the right one....

i didn't want him to go, held on tight.

i'm not sure if this guy is the right one...

he iS right now tho, and that's good.

frankly i'm not sure i could recognize the right one if he bit me.....

i don't think i'm ready for the right one.

i mean..i don't want to get married, or move in or anything like that...

i have an almost 16 year old son, so no big changes are reasonable right now.

so i guess there are no big decisions to be made.

the only decision would be if he wanted more than i want to give....

right now we're cool.

and i do like him, and feel like, if a decision had to be made, i'm gonna be upfront about it...

might as well break some old patterns in my life.

but i did write a couple new people last night, and they both wrote back. one lives too far away, and i knew that, the other seems interesting.....

we;ll see.

i feel like i've had my one true love.

i don't want to be alone, tho...i've learned that,

so now i'm looking for mr. next-best, and, frankly, that seems pretty cynical. and that's probably because it's early...too early for me.

ugh.

i want my old life back.

i want tom back.

peace,

michele

[aprilmoonflower]

Michele- just go with the flow I guess. have some wine if all else fails. lol. ok j/k (kinda) I think you will KNOW if he's the right one. Sounds like you just want and need to have fun right now, no?

[justkaren2]

Michelle:

There you go.  Try to quit being such a worry wart (lol) and have fun!  Enjoy your play tomorrow night!

I would give anything to have Richard back also.  I will never quit missing him, but I have found love again...very different relationship from that with Richard, but I am content.  Something I never thought I would say or feel.  Having lost Richard, I find every moment in this new relationship precious.  But I still freak out if I don't hear from him or if he's late and panic a bit.  I relive those moments when I was waiting for Richard, fretting over what to make him for dinner and he wasn't answering my calls.  He called  me at 4:30 (the moment he collapsed), but just as I went to answer the phone, my boss walked in so I didn't answer.  I tried to call him back, but he didn't answer. I was slightly worried but really more angry and, all along, he was dead.  How is it possible that the most important person in my life had died and I didn't have the slightest clue?   It was the farthest thing from my mind.  When his daughter finally answered his phone and told me, I remember screaming "No, No, No" over and over.  And, just like that, in the blink of an eye, my whole life changed and will never be the same again.  I cannot get that moment out of my mind or the moment that I saw him in the hospital for the last time.  Oh my, I loved that man.

I am damaged goods, but better in a way.  Does that make any sense?  I elected to go through this pain, not around it, and think I have finally made it to the other side.  Still have my moments, but they are less frequent now.  Nevertheless, I am profoundly changed.

Wow, I went off on a tangent again.  Thanks for listening to me.

Do you want to talk about Tom?  I'd like to hear if you want to share.  If not, I completely understand.

April:  August is just around the corner now.  Woohoo!  I think perhaps I am more excited for you than you are!  What day do you leave again?

Linda:  Didn't you say you are going back to work soon?  Are you looking forward to it?  Feeling strong enough?

Karen

[lindat]

Hi Karen,  Actually I should be going back to work around the 20th of August.   I hadn't had any problems from radiation, but in the last week my skin started falling apart and peeling.   My doctor likened it to a skinned knee - to which my sister responded that we should skin his balls and see how he feels when we tell him it is like a skinned knee....  I love my sister, she makes me laugh.   So now I have no skin under my left arm or under my left breast - can't wear a bra  and they tell me that the damage will peak 7 days after the last treatment (a week from today) so not sure how that will work into the time frame.  I am anxious to go back, but may have to be patient awhile longer.   

  Jim hadn't called in a little over a week, so when he called yesterday and left a message that he just called to say hi and that I should call back when I have time to let him know how I am - I didn't call right away, too tired.  Last night around 11pm, he called again quite agitated that I hadn't called him back yet.  I just couldn't deal with that  - too much pain etc. - so I let it go to the machine and planned to deal with it today instead...  This morning he called my sisters number by 7am - 4am his time in CA - frantic that something must have happened to me.   Within  a few minutes, 2 of my kids called because he left messages on their machines too.  He didn't sleep all night because he was so worried about me - I am just at a complete loss as to how he thinks.   I felt really bad that he put himself thru all that, and I am amazed at the same time.   I guess that is how obsessive people are, but I never would have guessed that would happen.

  I remember before I moved here, I was upset when he didn't return my phone calls in 3 days.  I just knew that something had happened to him, because of the way that Terry died so quickly (I think once that happens to someone you love, you never feel secure again).  He decided that I had totally over-reacted and that my behavior was out of control due to issues unresolved from my childhood and that I needed therapy.  He has thrown that "erratic" behavior up to me several times over the last few months to show that I need counseling - I wonder why the same behavior in him isn't acknowledged as such....  On the other hand, I am very happy that he still cares that much, I was beginning to worry.   

  I don't look at any of us as "damaged goods", and not sure why I should.   We are very special - all of us - and we are all better in some ways for having gone thru these times.  We value the people in our lives more and we realize how very precious life is.   Most of us are now more conscious of living a healthier life and our kids should benefit from having us around longer.  

All of us are changed and the changes I made probably saved my life - and I gained some wonderful friends here as a bonus    

Michele, I am thinking of you and hope you have a great time.

[justkaren2]

Linda:

No skin at all?  Is it a seeping, wet wound? There is this product that might help, although under the arm would be tricky.  It's called "second-skin"...at least, that's what we used to call it back in my nursing days.  It's a moist bandage that they use for a lot of burns, including road burns.  The moist layer is cool and soothes the skin and helps prevent scarring and it really decreases the pain and itching as it heals and it doesn't stick to the healing wound.

Jim amuses me...so typical.  Did you finally talk to him?  How'd it go?  

 

[lindat]

Karen - Yup, huge patches of no skin.   Some of it came off with my bra a few days ago and I haven't worn one since.  As you know, the biggest problem outside of worrying about infection is that everything sticks to it.  Can I buy that 2nd skin stuff over the counter? 

Typical?  I guess I haven't been around many typical men then   I did talk to him yesterday morning and then he called back again in the afternoon because he forgot to say something earlier.  He was fine once he felt reassured that I wasn't avoiding his calls.   He had distanced himself emotionally since the move and I was really having a hard time.   I feel as though a weight has been lifted.  

My sister and I are going sightseeing today to the Henry Ford Museum and Greenfield Village - and for a change I really am looking forward to enjoying the day.

Linda

[aprilmoonflower]

Linda- ouch!

Karen- I am leaving in 12 days! I have so much to do! :shock:

[lindat]

April, yes ouch.  Sorry to be so graphic, but trust me it is worse than it sounds.   Just one more hurdle to get over....  I am so excited for you, hope you have a wonderful time, I am jealous

[aprilmoonflower]

Linda- just be careful you don't get an infection! ugh! ((heal quick)) btw I gotta say it sounds like Jim wants to keep tabs on you. not sure if that's good or bad. time will tell, huh? I hope you meet someone fabulous though that will treat you like you deserve! (not saying he won't come to his senses)

[lindat]

TY April, time will tell - wish I had a crystal ball.  I am trying to be as careful as I can, infection is definitely a huge consideration.   I will be glad when this part is over, it really hurts.

[airymoon]

Ok imkinda late to the thread but i have to put my 2 cents in I think Jim is scared too although im not sure why maybe just afraid of commitment  but he obviously still cares. But you cannot wait for him to decide for you what to do. Only you can do that.

Michelle  I know how you feel about not wanting to have him in too far. I think sometimes i would like that again and then i panic and think wtf am i thinking! The truth is i need to first like my life the way it is and i dont mean like that kurt is gone but like the way i am doing things and be comfortable with it before i can even think about the next step and i am just not ready for the next step. I am also afraid of that step for all the obvious reasons Have you talked about this with him and told him that right now you would just like to date and even if you are exclusive(safet sex thing) it does not mean you are ready for a serious relationship? If he gets that than you will know he at least gets the situation and who knows later.  Dating doesnt mean marriage. sometimes dating means dating 

[lindat]

Becky,  I've decided that I want him in my life in whatever capacity he feels comfortable.  Unfortunately, since I am a resident of MI for the next 5 years and he just moved to CA - only time will tell how that will play out.   Tomorrow he will be gone 4 weeks and I'm not sure how to do 5 years.  I do know that time will make it easier and every day is part of my life so I can't wait 5 years to live again.   For now, I am hoping to see him in October when I go out to CA to get my car and my stuff.  Perhaps I will have a clearer vision of the future after that visit.  For now, I think that knowing that he cares may be enough. 

[airymoon]

i admire your strength linda.  if you dont think your strong then i admire your outlook and courage (but you are strong) and bravery. I'm sorry about the skin issue your having. and fyi ive use new skin for a minor scrape and it burned like crazy  so be careful. did the doctors say if there was anything you could use?

[lindat]

Not sure about strength, courage or any of it - some days I am a mess.  I seem to find whatever I need when I need it, but don't think that I have any more than anyone else.  Sometimes the positive outlook is a big lie, but sometimes I start believing it and things seem better

They gave me hydrocortisone cream, but it doesn't seem to help.  They also said that doing nothing is better to cut down the risk of infection.   It seems better today and I have an dr. appt tomorrow, so maybe they will say the worst is over.

[mishknit]

you know what becky, we haven't actually talked about it,

but i think he gets it.

when we first started dating i explained i wasn't 'easy'...and i didn't meant that in a sexual way. i have a lot of baggage, and he knows it and tolerataes it so far.

i do believe, tho, if it came to that i would have that talk with him...i just am so honest now, and relly, not afraid of losing him. i like him..that's established, but i don't love him.

and even if i did, after living thru what we all have,

so what if someone dumps me, ya know???

i've had the ultimate dump, right?

we had tix to a play to friday nite, but he had a really bad cold, so i got the tix and went alone. loved the play, and no problem going alone. i made friends with the people on either side of me, so i was able to talk about it after.

linda...god, there must be something the drs. give for that? i can't imagine that they haven't figured out something after all this time....

so you're coming in october?

keep me apprised, gotta make this happen this time!!!

peace,

michele

[lindat]

Michele, I am definitely coming and meeting you guys is at the top of the agenda - LET'S DO IT!!!     Will give you the dates as soon as I have them.  

[justkaren2]

Linda:

Yes, the 'second-skin' stuff is available over the counter, but you usually need to go to a medical supply store to get it.  I'm not certain what they call it...just ask them for bandages for burns and tell them what you need it for.  I went about five years back for my daughter who fell and had huge (probably 10 inch across) road burns and it worked wonders for her.  Someone said something about it burning...I think they are talking about something else.  This has no medicine in it...it is for open wounds...for skin that has been burned off and is sterile.  Of course, you have to remove it probably daily (or more often if your wound weeps through and the surface of the bandage becomes wet...which opens you up for infection) for showers, cleaning and inspecting the wound for infection...but it doesn't stick, so that is easy.  There also used to be this really thick, white cream that they used for burns...sulvadine, or something like that...but it is prescription.  Ask your doc about it.  If you don't tell him how uncomfortable you are, he will do nothing.  Don't be stoic...complain loudly so that he will do something.  No doc wants you to suffer, but if you don't tell him, they won't know.  They are concentrating clinically on the wound and your overall medical health...pain is usually secondary to them and often not thought of if you don't bring it up.

Anyway, I'm glad you have a doctors appt.  Ask him about it.  Things have probably changed since I was an RN and they may have different recommendations now.

By the way, your attitude is great!, both regarding your medical treatment and Jim.

Much admiration going out to you!

Karen

[lindat]

Karen, 

He just gave me an astringent - Domeboro - that I mix with water and apply to the area 3 times a day with guaze pads.  That is supposed to dry it out.   I told him about the pain and he just said to use tylenol or something similar.    I will see if it helps - only 4 more days to go.

My attitude is suffering a bit today....

 

[lindat]

Speaking of attitude, I got this in an email today..

There once was a woman who woke up one morning, looked in the mirror and noticed she had only three hairs on her head. "Well," she said, "I think I'll braid my hair today." So she did and had a wonderful day. The next day, she woke up, looked in the mirror and saw that she had only two hairs on her head. "Hmm," she said, "I think I'll part my hair down the middle today." So she did and had a fantastic day. The next day, she woke up, looked in the mirror and noticed that she had only one hair on her head. "Well," she said, "today I'm going to wear my hair in a ponytail." So she did and had a really great day. The next day, she woke up, looked in the mirror and noticed that there wasn't a single hair on her head. "YEA!" she exclaimed, "I don't have to fix my hair today!"

If I ever have to do chemo again, I'll try and remember this story

[aprilmoonflower]

That's a good story Linda..a good attitude to take. considering what the alternative is!

I am leaving in 9 days! I have so much to do before then! I maynot come back until after Sept 24 so I may be gone awhile.. I will be posting sporadically until I get to NY (Aug 4) but I'll have my laptop with me while I'm gone so I'll check in!

[lindat]

Wow, I had no idea you would be gone so long....  it will be great to hear from you along the way when you have time or are not having too much fun