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tdubslilsis14

3angls...

How have u been recently? I haven't been able to get on lately. I hope your doing ok. This month is hard for our family because its almost both Kristin and Travis' one year anniversery. Our school is have a candle light service on Sunday for Kristin. My brothers is going to be next Friday, the day he died. I understand how hard it is being only one month after everything. For us it was Christmas and I just wasn't into it....all I wanted was to see my brother one more time and tell him that I loved him. Well when you asked how I dealt with it...I'm not really sure...I was confused all of the time and I couldn't concentrate on school, I got so behind after being gone for so long. I tried to focus but my mind wouldn't get off all the memories I shared with my brother. Our community had set up this forum in memory of the 7 (now 9)teens that were killed in alcohol related car crashes. A lot of our families had spoken and shared their story. My mom did it for our family. Then Kristins brother went up and told his side of the story. On Oct. 16th I spoke at one. I am like one of the shyest people you could ever meet. But I guess remembering how my brother died and how I am close in age to all the other teens either there or watching it on the news, I wanted to tell about the day I found out...and how it important it is to make the right decisions. I didn't want anyone to go through the pain that I have. About 500 people came, other teens and their parents came to listen. I was scared but it felt good after I did it. I faced my fears and spoke infront of a huge crowd.

Travis always told me to keep singing for choir. But after he died I didn't want to sing anymore. He always told me I had an amazing voice. I had written a few songs about him and how my life has changed. I decided I should live my life to the fullest and not let it hold me back from what I loved to do. I'm doing a solo at our upcoming choir concert. I'm really excited. I know Trav will be watching me.

Thanks for your support,

Lexie

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3angelslostntheflame

Lexie,

Thanks for your support, and I will keep you and everyone in my prayers. I hope that you celebrate your brother's life on the one year and not the sad stuff. I know it's easier said then done, believe me. I can say a whole bunch of stuff like this, and I can't even do it.

Have any of you had friends that just don't understand. Today one of my friends was like "You have been so crabby lately." Then she preceded to call me a craba$$. I just wanted to scream, "Well I'm sorry if I'm not taking this death lightly!" It make me so angry that they expect me to be as happy and cheerful as I was before this happened. So then that got to me and I almost had a emotional breakdown in the middle of class. Sometimes I wonder when this nightmare is going to end, then I realize it's not.

~Stephanie

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alwaysmyjennifer

Stephanie, for the friend who doesn't understand, screaming will get your friend's attention and raise the cue that something is wrong. But please be open and honest with your friends. What you feel, and what they see as the cause of you being "crabby" is called love. You love your cousins, and you always shall. When you tell your friend exactly how you hurt, and why, your friend will most likely respond to your emotional needs more positively. Take gentle care of yourself this weekend. If there is something you like and think of as a special treat, allow it for yourself so you can feel special and loved by yourself. This will help you while you grieve. My best to you as you heal. Mark

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buddyssis

On December 23, 2005, my younger brother and four friends were in a car accident. He survived (Thank God), but his best friend didn't.

He won't talk to anyone about it. The kids were so stupid, only the driver was wearing a seatbelt, and my brother had to be airlifted to a hospital in order to have emergency surgery. I got the phone call at 11:55, just before midnight, Christmas Eve.

Knowing his best friend in the world had died made it REALLY hard not to bring everyone down over Christmas, and when my parents didn't let me know what was happening, didn't tell me WHY he was back in the ICU, I was frantic.

I couldn't be there for him, I live too far away, but I want to know...is there anything I can do to help him through this loss? I feel like I've lost my brother, even though he's still with us, as he's withdrawn and quiet. Not at all like the teen who would say to me "You're a munkey" (spelled wrong on purpose), just because he could....or tell our sister she sounded like she was strangling a moose when she played the oboe... "Poor Moose". How do I find my brother and help him grieve?

Jennifer, Buddy's Sis

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3angelslostntheflame

Jennifer~

Hello, my name is Stephanie, and I lost my aunt and two cousins to a house fire. My moms cousin was going to do this to my uncle but didn't, so maybe you could do it to your brother. Send him a "I'm thinking about you card" every week or every month...you know...so he knows that you are thinking about him. It made me feel better when I got a few, maybe it will work for him.

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needinghelp

i lost my great grandma 6 years ago but i was realy close to her and i just cant forget it and get on with my life occasionally remembering my past.

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mattsdad

needinghelp,

There is nothing wrong with missing your your great grandma. All of us here are missing someone whom we all loved.

Let us all know what a wonderful woman she was and why you miss her so. She would be proud to hear from you after all this time...

Jeff

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My bestfriend died in a car crash over a year ago and I just cant get over it. a week before he died (the last time we talked) he was doing drugs and being stupid and I told him that he was going to die and then while I was out partying with my girlfriends he faught with his girlfriend and tried to go apoligise. He went 90 around a corner and hit a truck, the lady in the truck lived but the car he was in was crushed and he died instantly. I just feel like I should have been home for him I should have been there for him because he always called me when he was upset and if I had been there he wouldnt have gotten into the car. I dont want to forget him but I dont want this to hurt anymore the way it does.

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griffinsmom

Wow Sarah....you've got much on your plate. I hope you have a great Godmother~my mother committed suicide, too- but I was a grown up. I'm so , so sorry you have to deal with this...why do some people just have so much tragedy in their lives? While others seem to sail thru life....Feel free to email me- its in my profile. Try to stay in school....that will be helpful to you, I would think. Take care

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tdubslilsis14

Kristin Rice- 11/13/04...killed by drunk driver...16 years old

Travis Woerner (older bro)- 11/18/04....dies 5 days later after car crash on November 13th...also 16

Heart Samons- 12/16/04...died of heart defect...1 month old

Terry (Mr.) Bisesi (friends dad)- 12/23/04...heart attack

Justin Davis- 4/16/05 (i think)....single car crash...17 years old

Jaymes Strickland- 10/21/05...driver runs red light hits his side...15 years old..one of my classmates

Mrs. Stamm (best friends mom)- 2/26/06...complications from surgery...left behind 8 kids and a wonderful husband

I miss them all...I lost all of them in the past 3 years...I am only 14...I hate having to go through the pain every single day

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I lost my neice and her husband in January in a motorcycle wreck. They left behind 2 children, 15 and 9. The kids are living with their uncle and his wife. The seem to be very unhappy and it is not going well. The teenage daughter is shutting down, not doing her work, not wanting to get up in the morning and go to school. Not only did they lose their parents, but they had to move states and give up their school, their friends and their church. THere was no family where they did live so they had to move where the support system is. We really don't know what to do. By we I mean me, and my sister, their grandmother - it was her daughter who died. We really feel that the kids are not in the right house but don't know how to make the change without hurting someone's feelings?

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i Grieve with you that is such a unexpected tragedy! sorry to hear. from chicago. my condolences goes out to you!!

www.newlife.com

www.spiritlessons.com

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nicolebrooke

Hi everyone,

I lost my younger brother when he was 19. It was the day after Christmas and he killed himself. We were completely shocked. I was living in another country and my mom told me over the phone and then I had to drive all night and fly home in the morning. I felt bad that I wasn't there sooner to help her. And I hadn't seen my brother since Thanksgiving. And when I called on Christmas I didn't talk to him on the phone either.

I will be on here evryday if anyone wants to chat.

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Exactly 2 weeks ago i lost my best friend. He was only 17 years old, about to turn 18 in a couple of months. It was a very sudden death, one minute he was sitting at home, then all of a sudden he stopped breathing, an ambulance was called but it was too late, his heart had already stopped beating. He had a heart transplant when he was 12, but he's been pretty healthy ever since. I did not expect this at all, and now i'm feeling really lost, and sometimes i still can't believe that he is gone, and i don't know how to deal with this. I cry whenever i talk about him, or see pictures of him, or think about him in any way. I NEED somebody to talk to, but none of my friends will listen to me, because it makes them feel sad too. Please somebody help me? I don't know what else to do or who else to talk to.

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nicolebrooke

Hi Guest,

I am so sorry you lost your best friend, and so suddenly. So many things you didn't get to say right? My brother died suddenly 6 yrs ago when he was 19. I ache for him, to hug him one more time and tell him I love him.

I am so glad you found this site. It helps so much to talk to other people who understand exactly how you feel. I think crying is good, how ever you need to deal with it is ok.

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tdubslilsis14

Hi Guest,

I kinda know how you feel. Well my older brother was killed about a year and a half ago from a single car crash, he was 16, the driver was drunk.

I guess for a while I tried to talk to all of his friends and no one would talk to me because it made them sad too...I felt emty and confused because the closest people to him were his friends. I talked to my mom about it and broke down because I didn't understand, but she told me that they're grieving too and I should try letting them have some space for a little bit and let them come to me when they're ready. I was only 13 and I really didn't know how to handle it. I was too scared to talk to my parents or cry around them so most nights I would just turn the music up loud and cry myself to sleep. One night my mom showed me this website and it helped a lot to write my feelings out instead of bottling them all inside. You know?....Well I hope this helped a little and I'm very sorry about your friend!

x3 Lexie

P.S.- I'm here for you anytime you need to talk (although I'm probably younger)

Visit these 3 sites....

www.traviswoerner.com

www.kristinmarierice.com (died 5 days before my brother but they were in the same crash)

www.whenyoudrive.com

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mmlldd

Thanks Nicolebrooke and Tdubslilsis14... I'm really glad i found this website. And i feel kind of better now that i see i'm not the only one who feels like this.. I honestly thought there was something wrong with me, since it's already been 2 weeks and i still cant really go a day without crying. Its just so hard and its not something i'm used to dealing with. But if anyone else needs to talk I'm here too, and I'll try to listen and help as much as I can.

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I have no idea what this is about...I lost my sister in July of this year and i lost my mom 2 years ago in 2004. I\'m just now seeking help for what I\'m going through...if someone could e-mail me and let me know that would be great...my e-mail is sweetie_pie2669@yahoo.com

R.I.P.

Mommy and Bethany

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jamiedawnsmom

Dear Guest, I have a daughter who lost her dad 3 years ago in a car accident and her 16 year-old sister to a car accident on 12-23-05. I'm going to pass on your email to her. Maybe you can help each other by just talking about your feelings. She's 20 and attends college.

Take Care.

Renee

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That would be wonderful. I'm really looking forward to hearing from her. My name is Kaley, and I'm here for her, as long as she needs. It would be a good idea to talk considering the holiday is in a few short days. It's so horrible that things like this have to happen but with time, i'm sure the pain will slowly go away....i hope. The hardest part so far is seeing my sisters kids. they are 2 and 3. they wrote me a letter saying that they wanted to see mt on my birthday which is tomorrow. so here i am kind of asking your advice on what to do, i havent seen them yet. and i'm terrified of the pain it may bring. *sigh*

Kaley

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Exactly 2 weeks ago i lost my best friend. He was only 17 years old, about to turn 18 in a couple of months. It was a very sudden death, one minute he was sitting at home, then all of a sudden he stopped breathing, an ambulance was called but it was too late, his heart had already stopped beating. He had a heart transplant when he was 12, but he's been pretty healthy ever since. I did not expect this at all, and now i'm feeling really lost, and sometimes i still can't believe that he is gone, and i don't know how to deal with this. I cry whenever i talk about him, or see pictures of him, or think about him in any way. I NEED somebody to talk to, but none of my friends will listen to me, because it makes them feel sad too. Please somebody help me? I don't know what else to do or who else to talk to.

I'm really sorry to hear this. it hurts to know he was so young. Feel free to e-mail me ANYTIME... sweetie_pie2669@yahoo.com

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jamiedawnsmom

Kaley, I passed your email on to Kari, my daughter. I hope she will get into contact with you. I think it's good to have someone to talk to and with you losing your mom and sister and Kari losing her dad and sister you might have a lot to talk about. Both Kari's dad and sister were killed in car accidents just 2 years and 3 months apart. Jamie's accident was 1/2 mile from home and the girls could see the emergency vehicles and we were looking for Jamie so Kari went to the accident site. She doesn't talk about it much but I'm sure it's something that eats at her. Kari's hotmail account has expired so she will have to setup a new one, otherwise I'd share her email address with you.

I hope you can help each other on your journeys.

Renee

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jamiedawnsmom

Thanks for asking about Kari. Kari had to work on Thanksgiving (2-10). She is a med aid at an assisted care facility and is going to school to be a nurse. She had to work yesterday too but has this weekend off so came home. You should hear from her hopefully tonight. She still needs to setup an email account and was going to do that now that she is home.

How was your Thanksgiving? You and your family are in my thoughts and prayers.

Renee

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