Members Malisacher Posted October 13, 2021 Members Report Share Posted October 13, 2021 The medical bills are starting to come in I don’t know how I’m gonna pay them…this on top of grief ….I’m still waiting on my benefits from husband jobs his military and his civilian government job….they say anywhere from 2 to 4 months for them to come in ….then I have my social security benefit call on 28th of this month ….hopefully I get something from them for my son like his dad social security until he is 18 ….then I can work on getting him ssi because he is autistic…I know I won’t qualify for anything I’m too young 47 ….so right now I’m living off our savings which will go down fast with medical bills….I’m so stressed out right now not sure how I will sleep tonight …we’ll guess worrying about money took my mind off my grief for a minute or two. 2 2 Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Moderators KayC Posted October 13, 2021 Moderators Report Share Posted October 13, 2021 I remortgaged my house to pay my husband's, that was 16 years ago, I later found out I wouldn't have been responsible for them in my state as I hadn't signed for anything, but they didn't tell me that, the hospital was hounding me relentlessly at usery interest. I thought it was a smart move but NOT! Know the laws of your state before you do anything! There are free lawyers to low income. I didn't know that either at that time. I'll be paying on this until I'm nearly 80! I got on sleeping pills eventually after struggling for years and not enough sleep. I need my sleep to function! You're in my prayers, no one should have to go through all this! 2 1 Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Members Roxeanne Posted October 13, 2021 Members Report Share Posted October 13, 2021 Hope you can find a way to not pay medical bills...as european i find very unfair you have to pay for health care ! 3 1 Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Members Popular Post tnd Posted October 13, 2021 Members Popular Post Report Share Posted October 13, 2021 17 hours ago, Malisacher said: The medical bills are starting to come in I don’t know how I’m gonna pay them…this on top of grief … Malisacher: I'm getting bills for my husband too. They must know he's deceased because one particular bill I keep getting is addressed to me and not him but does show him as having been the patient. Of course, they threaten legal action. Well, I don't know what they can take because I have nothing. I chuck them into the round file (trash). I'm not paying bills on behalf of my deceased husband. Besides, I can't without an income and no benefits yet. Please try not to stress over these bills. If you think you should, set them aside in a separate file or a box and maybe later on you can revisit this issue. You can only do so much and I'd say prioritizing what is absolutely necessary for you to do is critical. Anything else will just have to wait. I know it's hard when we are so used to being on-top of things and live with a conscience but, that was then and this is now. We have to live in the now and you've got your son to think of. Do you think people out on the streets are getting bills and paying them? I think not. In fact, I know they don't. And even some people who do have the money and means to pay don't pay. I don't like saying "well, if they are doing it then so can I" but I am living a new and very difficult life with a new perspective and only doing what I can. You my dear, are a widow too. We shouldn't use it as an excuse but, we also have nothing to feel guilty for. NOTHING. 3 1 1 Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Members Malisacher Posted October 13, 2021 Author Members Report Share Posted October 13, 2021 Tnd ….thanks ….I’m trying not worry about it …but going to the mail box gives me bad anxiety nothing but bills….but when I do get bills takes my mind off my grief for A minute or two 1 3 Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Moderators KayC Posted October 14, 2021 Moderators Report Share Posted October 14, 2021 Throw them into a special wastebasket just for them and put in a back room, out of sight. I don't know Michigan's laws but if you are held responsible, there's always bankruptcy, not sure why I didn't think of that! I had nothing to take, they exclude your home and one vehicle and I had no money. But in OR we are not responsible unless we personally signed for it. Even then, there's bankruptcy. I made it much harder on myself taking all this debt on. I'm old and retired now, have expensive repairs constantly needed on my 43 1/2 year old mobile home, need I say more?! 2 2 Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Members Popular Post Jen H Posted October 16, 2021 Members Popular Post Report Share Posted October 16, 2021 Please don't stress yourself over those bills. Don't pay them right now if you can't. Don't even open them. You have more important things to worry about. 5 1 Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
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