9 months

[foreverhis]

2 hours ago, BBB said:

Two years, more or less, seems to be the magic mark. Long way to go.

I'm not so sure about that.  We're all so different.  But I think that at around 2 years, most of us are able to look back and see that we've made at least baby steps forward into the life that's been thrust upon us.  Maybe it's magic to be able to do that, but for me, things started to shift and soften so gradually that I couldn't possibly find a starting point.  I realized right away that there's no end point to grief, so maybe admitting that was my first tiny step into accepting the reality in front of me and maybe that helped me slowly open the door and really begin the journey.

 

[KayC]

I agree that it can take much more time than that to process their death/our grief, longer yet to find purpose, and even longer to build a life we can live, it took me years.  It's different for everyone, we were very intertwined and an integral part of each other's lives.