Members llamas Posted February 18, 2021 Members Report Share Posted February 18, 2021 I sincerely don’t want this to be taken wrong, but I’m still picking up the pieces after watching my brother go through a painful long death process nearly 2 years ago. However, because I’m not his wife or mother, I don’t receive annual calls or flowers. I feel forgotten. I do have friends who had checked in with me online. I appreciate them. It’s close family and friends that I am disappointed in. I understand that not everyone comprehends grief. I understand my brother’s young children take precedence. It would just be nice if others took the siblings who are grieving into account. Maybe I feel this way because I’m in a unsupportive environment. I can’t be the only one who feels this way? Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Members reader Posted May 13, 2021 Members Report Share Posted May 13, 2021 Dear Illamas, I hear you. I know this is a very common feeling for many people who are coping with a devastating loss. I too wish people were more kind and considerate and thoughtful. Please know you are not alone. It might help to let your family and friends know that you would appreciate a check in on the anniversary. So many people live in their own bubble and never realize how their lack of words or actions can be hurtful. I also found a lot of support at this website about this topic at What's Your Grief. Thinking of you. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Members SandyLoo Posted September 1, 2021 Members Report Share Posted September 1, 2021 Dear llamas, I understand your feeling exactly. Sibling grief can be the forgotten grief because there are expectations that you need extra love/support as a parent, child, spouse. I also read something interesting one time that sibling loss is the loss of the past, present and future. Also losing a sibling can also be hard because you are “supposed” to hold up the remaining family when you are grieving too and then have guilt when you can’t emotionally do it. i will say this, I have struggled with all of the above & my older sister passed away 2 years ago from a 3 year battle with cancer. She was my rock. I am currently struggling with it all again and hope we can support one another in this forum. wishing you peace. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
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