Jump to content
Forum Conduct & Guidelines Document ×

Anger at my husband for unresolved issues before he died


AnnRA

Recommended Posts

  • Members

It is nearly 3 months since my husband died suddenly, and I have been hit hard today with some real ANGER about unresolved issues in our marriage.  I am being flooded with memories of all the times he was unsympathetic, did not support my ideas, was disconnected from me....

The truth is that I OFTEN FELT ALONE in our marriage (28 years), but then we had some wonderful times of closeness, and a real life together.  He was a truly good man.   

Some of this today has been brought on by news that he had told his brother of changes he wished in his will, that would have benefitted his only daughter.  We met in our 40’s and did not have children.  He always doted on his daughter and I knew that from the beginning. The will changes are mostly not going to happen, according to the executor, but it just brought up in me all this ANGER about where I truly stood in this relationship.   

I REALLY REALLY want to move on in my life! To remember the good times and not look back anymore!  Mostly, I want to have a go at him right now and get some explanations, but of course I cannot do that!    

How in the world can I resolve this, when I JUST WANT TO TALK WITH HIM AGAIN .....and I cannot ever do that now......

Link to comment
Share on other sites

  • Members

I understand this frustration. I’m new to it. It’s been two days only but the idea that there will never be a chance to speak with that person again to resolve issues is such a frustrating ache. It helped reading about souls and what can possibly happen, how they are shown all the domino effects of their actions and can feel our pain. But no one knows how certain that is. It can just all just end, nothing more.  

Link to comment
Share on other sites

  • Members
Michele Damico

I too have intense anger with my former husband. I was quite taken aback when I learned he left the majority ( a lot of money) to his grown siblings...I didnt even know this account existed. My In Laws treated me horribly after his passing (Its been 1 year as of Friday) and am in an ugly law suit because of this. So many negative emotions and anger/frustrations. I recently visited his gravesite and cannot bring myself to talk to him. I took care of him while he was ill and knowing he kept all of these crucial facts from me is daunting.

Link to comment
Share on other sites

Create an account or sign in to comment

You need to be a member in order to leave a comment

Create an account

Sign up for a new account in our community. It's easy!

Register a new account

Sign in

Already have an account? Sign in here.

Sign In Now
×
×
  • Create New...

Important Information

This site uses cookies We have placed cookies on your device to help make this website better. You can adjust your cookie settings, otherwise we'll assume you're okay to continue. and uses these terms of services Terms of Use.