Members LazyBemmer Posted October 22, 2020 Members Report Share Posted October 22, 2020 On December 29, 2018 my dog died from old age and a tumor on her leg. Her name was Ladybird. I miss her and think about her so much. But now I feel guilty about her death. I wish I had payed her more attention before she passed on. I loved her but sometimes I just never spent time with her. She was so loyal and I feel guilty about her death. I feel so bad. Is it normal to feel guilty? Is it just grief, am I supposed to feel guilty? I just don't know. She was an American coonhound that had the colors of an American foxhound. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Members AJWCat Posted October 22, 2020 Members Report Share Posted October 22, 2020 I am very sorry for your loss. Guilt is very common. Everyone seems to have it. Everyone feels that they didn't do enough, or ignored signs, and sometimes made a very innocent error like leaving a window open... the list goes on and on. It's normal. It's part of the process. And it's a horrible feeling, I hope you come to a level of peace about her passing. Try to think about the better days - that's what I try to do. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Moderators KayC Posted October 23, 2020 Moderators Report Share Posted October 23, 2020 19 hours ago, LazyBemmer said: Is it normal to feel guilty? Yes, our way of wishing we could go back and change things with a different outcome, even if we can't change their death, perhaps make their life better. My Arlie (Husky/Golden Retriever) was my soulmate in a dog, perfect for me! He was so smart, beautiful, goofy, fun! I miss and love him more than anything in the world, I've lost a lot of wonderful animals but this is by FAR the hardest! He passed Aug. 16, 2019 (cancer). I rescued Arlie just before he turned one, he lived to 11 1/2, but the first several years with me in his pen M-F while I worked/commuted, excepting one year I was laid off. I finally had a fence built and he loved the freedom! How I wish I'd done it when I adopted him. We do our best. I hope he knows I love him more than anything in the world and how much he means to me. I hope this brings you some peace and comfort to think about, that they are happy and not in pain and we'll be with them again. I am so sorry for your loss. (((hugs))) I also want to leave you with these articles in case you didn't peruse the other threads... http://media.wix.com/ugd/0dd4a5_e934e7f92d104d31bcb334d6c6d63974.pdf http://www.pet-loss.net/guilt.shtml http://www.griefhealing.com/article-loss-and-the-burden-of-guilt.htm https://www.griefhealingblog.com/2019/08/pet-loss-when-guilt-overshadows-grief.html https://www.griefhealingblog.com/2017/07/pet-loss-when-guilt-goes-unresolved.html It is not our grief that binds us to them, it is our love, and it continues still. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Members LazyBemmer Posted October 23, 2020 Author Members Report Share Posted October 23, 2020 Oh, thank you for your very kind replies. It really made me feel better. <3 Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
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