Members Isaiah73x Posted May 2, 2020 Members Report Share Posted May 2, 2020 Hello all I'm new here I've never done anything like this before and I'm quite surprised there was a website for this which I am grateful for . My name is Isaiah I'm 20 years old and I lost my mother 2/1/2020 she was 44, still feels like yesterday my heart hurts everyday I wake up we were so close we talked / texted each other if not everyday every other day . Since she lived out of state the past 2 years in Oregon I'd fly up once a month to see her and spend a week up there filled with nothing but laughter and love, its so hard to think I have to live THE REST of my life without her. I still have trouble realiazing she's not here anymore there's times I want to call or text her and I have to remind myself that's not possible anymore. whenever I see a picture or see something that reminds me of her I'm still in disbelief like damn my mom is really gone. At the most random times I think of the the day I got the phone call that changed my life. I feel alone like no one gets me and the pain I have I'm so heartbroken, with mothers day coming up Im starting to feel more sad/depressed . To anyone reading this is there any advice that you could give me to make this all a little easier or what has helped you ? even sharing your story if you'd like <3 all is apperciated thank you all! <3 Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Members reader Posted May 6, 2020 Members Report Share Posted May 6, 2020 Dear Isaiah, I am so sorry for your loss. It is devastating to lose a parent and for myself the first year of grief was the rawest. Sadly, its very common to feel like no one understands our hurt and sorrow. This forum helped me a lot and I found the following websites helpful. What's Your Grief, Grief in Common and The Grief Healing Blog. I also sought out counselling and a grief support group. Please know there is no right way or wrong way to grieve. Different things work for different people. I even tried painting and writing and trying to different activities to keep myself moving forward. Anniversaries and holidays are especially hard. I like to take flowers to the grave site. Someone else suggested doing something to remember your parent like having their favorite meal, listening to their favorite song or donating to a charity they cared about. Even lighting a candle and saying a prayer can be comforting. Or write them a letter. Please know you are not alone in your thoughts and feelings. We are with you Take care of yourself and know that you are doing the best you can every day. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Members Isaiah73x Posted May 6, 2020 Author Members Report Share Posted May 6, 2020 12 hours ago, reader said: Dear Isaiah, I am so sorry for your loss. It is devastating to lose a parent and for myself the first year of grief was the rawest. Sadly, its very common to feel like no one understands our hurt and sorrow. This forum helped me a lot and I found the following websites helpful. What's Your Grief, Grief in Common and The Grief Healing Blog. I also sought out counselling and a grief support group. Please know there is no right way or wrong way to grieve. Different things work for different people. I even tried painting and writing and trying to different activities to keep myself moving forward. Anniversaries and holidays are especially hard. I like to take flowers to the grave site. Someone else suggested doing something to remember your parent like having their favorite meal, listening to their favorite song or donating to a charity they cared about. Even lighting a candle and saying a prayer can be comforting. Or write them a letter. Please know you are not alone in your thoughts and feelings. We are with you Take care of yourself and know that you are doing the best you can every day. Thank you ! yes its starting to feel heavy since mothers day is around the corner but I will take your advice thanks again I deeply appreciate it take care <3 Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Members reader Posted May 10, 2020 Members Report Share Posted May 10, 2020 Thinking of you and your mom on this Mother's Day. Please take care and know we are with you. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Members Isaiah73x Posted May 10, 2020 Author Members Report Share Posted May 10, 2020 13 hours ago, reader said: Thinking of you and your mom on this Mother's Day. Please take care and know we are with you. Thank you reader it means the world much love xxx !! Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Members reader Posted May 11, 2020 Members Report Share Posted May 11, 2020 Dear Isaiah, You're more than welcome. How are you feeling? I know it's a tough day. Hope you were able to be with friends or family. Be kind and gentle with yourself. With hugs, Reader. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Members Isaiah73x Posted May 12, 2020 Author Members Report Share Posted May 12, 2020 Hello reader , it was okay to say the least shed some tears and ended the day on positive memories and lighting candles for my mother thank you for the genuine concern it means so much xx Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Members TimBeach Posted May 22, 2020 Members Report Share Posted May 22, 2020 Isaiah, I joined today because I lost my 84 year old mother in January. I was primary caregiver and left Oregon for my old home in Louisiana to help her on her final journey after she was suddenly diagnosed with cancer in October....on her birthday. Then 4 months later she was gone. I'm having a helluva time coping. We talked everyday as you and yours did and were very close. I cry daily. I'm despondent. I lost my best friend. Reading your post made me feel less alone. It is the first post I read. To cope, I took all the photos and photo albums and reworked them into two archival binders. Painful at times, I think it helped some. So did your post. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Members reader Posted May 23, 2020 Members Report Share Posted May 23, 2020 Dear Isaiah, How are you doing? Dear Tim, I'm very sorry for your loss. I was also a caregiver to my father and I wanted to share this website with you called Aging Care. It provided me with some additional support. Thinking of you both. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Members pattyreeds Posted June 15, 2020 Members Report Share Posted June 15, 2020 I lost my mother and best friend 4 weeks ago. I have no other family that are close. My father died when I was young. I am struggling and desperate for suggestions that will help me through this. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Members pattyreeds Posted June 21, 2020 Members Report Share Posted June 21, 2020 Thank you so much for your response. Our stories are similar. I am going to try to help people that are caring for family members at home by giving them so time off. I truly appreciate your ideas. Take care Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Members Deborahmomof2 Posted June 24, 2020 Members Report Share Posted June 24, 2020 Hi my name is Deborah, I lost my mother this past Mother’s Day and have been looking to connect with other people who have lost a parent recently. I’m starting a zoom meeting for the first time and wondered if you would like to join. If so here is the link. https://us04web.zoom.us/j/71034566210?pwd=WFQ0N1FpODVNUWpHcHhsUzdpM1R4dz09 The time for this meeting will be today at 1:00pm. Hope to see you there. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
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