I wouldn't chalk it up to coincidences.  There are people who believe and people who do not.  Sounds like your counselor does not.  That's okay for him/her.  For you, keep open, and choose to believe what makes sense to you and brings you comfort so you don't miss out on that comfort.  It was maybe ten years out before I felt his hand on my back and just that one time and I don't know anyone else that has been through that.  I've had very few dreams of him over the years, took me 1-2 years to ha