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About ModKonnie

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  • Birthday 08/10/1964

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    Fitness, Reading, Internet, My Children, Martial Arts
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    Father, Brother

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  1. Grievingmysibling, I am so very sorry you are going through such a traumatic time. You've done all the right things--therapy, venting, talking to others. When I become overwhelmed, I try not to look at the big picture. I concentrate instead on getting through a little at a time. We will be here with you, ModKonnie
  2. Creighton, I am very sorry about the loss of your uncles; you've gone through much trauma with your losses. That being said, you should consider some professional help on dealing with your extreme anxiety you are suffering. While anxiety is perfectly normal during grieving, if yours is getting worse, then it might be time to talk to someone who can direct you. We will be here with you, ModKonnie
  3. I am so very sorry I didn't notice your post before now. I can certainly see how you are angry; often people are angry when a loved one dies. It's a very normal part of grieving. That being said, I, too, have been angry angry angry over the death of my father at times. I have been angry at the death of others in my life. I ask myself all kinds of questions, and I end up driving myself crazy over it all. Sometimes just venting to others helps. We will be here with you, ModKonnie
  4. Sadie43, I am a drug counselor during my regular day job. I have several clients who have suffered severe trauma and gone through EMDR. I've heard good things about it. ModKonnie
  5. I am so very sorry about the loss of the young man you loved. As much as you may find this hard to believe right now, time really does lessen the sharpness of the pain you are feeling. The empty, sickening feeling will fade. People deal with grief in many different ways; sometimes, people deal with grief by pretending they haven't been affected, while others fall apart openly. Stop blaming yourself for his death. It was his decision. You may need to really talk to a professional to deal with the intense trauma you have suffered over this. We will be here with you, ModKonnie
  6. You've definitely come to the right place. I am so very sorry you are dealing with this. I'm not so sure why you feel you SHOULD feel this way. I lost a brother, and while it was definitely horrific, life does go on for those of us who are still here. Your sister wouldn't want you to feel this way, would she? We will be here with you, ModKonnie
  7. Nonita, I am so very sorry about the sudden and tragic loss of your mom. We have a forum "Loss of a Parent," where you will find many people who have lost their beloved parents. They will be able to offer you support and encouragement, too. You have to stop beating yourself up over not calling your mom. I, too, go for days without talking to my mom. That's just how things are. Talking about your feelings will definitely help you to deal with them. We will be here with you, ModKonnie
  8. I am so very sorry about the loss of your mom. You have come to the right place to find people to talk to. You may want to also post in "Loss of a Parent." There are many people in that forum who can offer you support and encouragement as you begin to put your life back together. We will be here with you, ModKonnie
  9. GrievingmySibling, I am so very sorry about the loss of your brother. Of course you are suffering from the horror and trauma of the whole tragedy. I'm glad you are going to a therapist. It will take some time for you to learn to deal with what has happened. Talking to others is the best way to heal. You've come to a good place to talk to people. Feel free to share whatever you are thinking or feeling. We will be here with you, ModKonnie
  10. Skywise, I am so very sorry about the loss of your Clive. You sound like you had an awesome relationship. You also sound like you are grieving in a healthy way and moving forward step by step. I'm sure helping your aunt has really been hard on you emotionally, mentally and probably physically. Your post wasn't too long; in fact, I enjoyed reading it. I almost laughed at the image of Clive slurping chili noisily while you were irritated. We will be here with you, ModKonnie
  11. I am very sorry about the loss of both of your parents. You will find many people here who share the struggle. We will be here with you, ModKonnie
  12. Well, if I could have had a collage from my father explaining who he is from the time I was born--I would have found that to be the most precious gift he ever gave me. I would love to know what my mother was thinking about and feeling and doing when she was young. So, I think the good would outweigh the possible negatives... ModKonnie
  13. I am so very sorry this has happened to your family. My brother died in a similar manner after a family argument in the middle of our yard. He drove off after fighting with my other brother, and an hour or so later was gone. I would suggest you talk to a professional about how you are feeling. You are obviously rocked by the trauma of the whole situation as well as the grief. You cope and deal by talking as much as possible about your loss, your feelings and your brother. We will be here with you, ModKonnie
  14. This is powerful... ModKonnie
  15. Sugartree714, I don't think this is morbid; in fact, it doesn't sound like a bad idea. You could create one and give it to your child yourself when she/he becomes an adult. It may strengthen your relationship as you both learn how to become friends as adults. ModKonnie
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