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    London Uk
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    Ritchie
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  1. Sweet Love thankyou for your concern. Gem, I am so sorry to hear of your loss. Letting go dosnt mean you will be losing him, it means you can be free to live the quality of life your Loved one would want. If anyof us pass away, would we not want the best for our loved ones? Xx
  2. Hi Folks Today for a few minutes, I realised Dad isn't here anymore. My furthest memory, right back to the late 1960's my Dad was always there. I can't explain how I feel, as I am usually good with words, and I am always the person who is there for people and knows what to say. Not because I am clever, but as someone once said to me, " No pain is ever wasted " I guess just writing small posts, will help me, and just being able to relate to other people suffering, sort of helps. Thankyou xx
  3. Hi There This going to sound weird, but are people able to share the Final words please, that their loved ones have said, even down to seconds before passing away? The drive from my house was the longest drive ever, and I arrived an hour after his passing, one of my Brother's was there, and the other seconds later and my Sister was there. My Brother gave me his hand, it was all a blur I don't remember anything. My Father reverted to his Mother Tongue language, my Brother told me. He kept repeating the same word over " Again and Again " I will never find the answer, but I want to know where is Dad now, are their any clues as to if he knew what was happening? I read somewhere that 1 Guy who died, his eyes opened wide and he said " It's Amazing " and died Is it morbid that I took a Photo of my Dad lying there? Mum said, " He looks like he's asleep. " Funeral was 2 - 3 weeks ago and as beautiful as it was it was the worst day of my life. You know the worst part? As the curtain got pulled and we walked away, Mum walked back and said " Goodbye " and touched the coffin. That moment will be etched in my mind forever.
  4. Dear People Thankyou for responding. I feel so empty and I think angry. I hate coming in this Forum, as everybody is suffering so much. I read a year ago, that somebody in the Pet group lost a Pigeon, whilst I didnt find it funny, I didnt totally understand the emotion. I dont know what to do? Now my Dog has been diagnosed with a bad heart, I really dont want to be here, when I see my Mum and Family suffering. My Dad is just dust now, on a shelf waiting to be buried, when before he was a Man who used to laugh and Joke and 101 other things. I walk my Dog at night and look at the stars and wonder what star my Dad is on? I am going to read though your posts, and respond. Thankyou
  5. Hi there I posted a message a few weeks ago, and to be honest I havn't posted since. I dont really know what to say, other than I feel lost and I have so many questions. I will try and post some thoughts. I am usually never lost for words.
  6. Hi StreamingTheLight Thankyou for your response. I will respond in more detail in the next few days, as at the moment I am not in the right place emotionally to think about it. Again, Thankyou for your Kind response. Ritchie
  7. Hi There My Amazing Father passed away on the 8th around 10.00am, but I wasn't by his side as I live in a town not far away. Mum was trying to ring me, and I finally got the message at 10:00 and rushed over after dropping my Doggie off at my friends. I was close to my Father, but we found it hard to talk, but saying that I love my parents and siblings so much. The Journey over was one of the longest I have ever had to travel, even tho it is about 20 Miles away. It was surreal as I walked into the room, as I can't remember much. I remember a member of my family handing me his hand and then I lost it !! All I remember was the warmth of his hand. It is still disbelief, and even tho I cried, my Mum and family kept saying " We can't believe it " My heart breaks for Mum as she sat there. We have family around us and lots of friends as Dad was really Loved by anybody who met him. The last week, I have been feeling sick and sleeping a lot, and my Doggie has been really cuddly towards me. I have tried not to punish myself or blame myself for things I have said or not said, as we all Loved each other, and Mum and Dad were together for nearly 60 years. Dad was a brave man, as he was in constant pain. I feel quite numb now, and we as a family have to prepare the Funeral and legal plans. Thankyou for reading this xx
  8. Hi KayC Thankyou for your kind words. Ritchie
  9. Dear People Sorry, I havnt logged in for quite a while Thankyou for the email, I received and the words of encouragement. I have seen my Doctor, and she is amazing and has put me on an anti-depressant called Venlafaxine, and also, I have counselling starting on 5th of Feb. 1 Bit of Great news, is that I have Fostered a Dog, and the way life has gone, is I can foster as many as long as I like. This Doggie is Beautiful, and I was supposed to keep her for 2 days, that was 3 weeks ago. She is next to me now snoring. She has taught me I can be selfish and self-centred, but I don't do it for attention, but I don't know how to deal with the pain. A Member Sim-law mentioned a year or so ago that getting a pet would help. She is slowly helping. Take Care Folks Ritchie
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