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Hi

I lost my darling husband on the 26th September 2008 he had kidney cancer which had spread to brain,bones and lungs. He only lived for eight months after diagnosis he was so brave and never stopped fighting.

I miss him so much and feel so sad and lost, it feels like I am drowning in grief. Would like to talk to other people in my situation.

Thanks

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I lost my husband on 11/20/07. He also had cancer. It was his second battle. He also fought it hard as he could. I am still trying to learn how to live without him. We were married for 35 years and they were good years. I have learned that it is one day at a time, somtimes one mintue at a time. i still look for him to come home from work and to be here in the mornings. They tell me it will get better, but i am not sure how long that takes.

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Hi

Thank you for your message, I was married to Steve for 37 years our three children are now all adults my two sons have children of their own my husband adored the grandchildren I have one daughter our youngest aged 29 and she will be moving to the north in the summer i will miss her so much.

We were just starting to have time on our own and had made plans for the future but sadly that wasn't to be and he died aged 55 I feel so sad and alone, friends and family try to help but unless you have gone through this it is impossible to know what its like.

Speak again soon

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I also have 3 childern, 2 are married (gilrs) and my son is still at home(22 years old) We have 2 grandchildern, one is almost 3 and his sister is 3 months. She is named for her papa, Kennedy. My husbands name was Kenneth. I rad on your post on the other form that your husband had high calisum levels. Ken did too, twice. He got very confused esp. the 2nd time. I never knew that could be an issue. When he was in for the calisum levles the first time they found fluid on his lungs and drained 3 and half liters off and  left the drains in for a week. I feel what really got him down was an reaction to a chemo treatment about 2 weeks later and he almost died from that and then high levels again, tumor was on his sterom and was eating it and sending all that calsium into his system. sometimes the selfish part iof me wants him here with pain and all. I have read that it like losing and arm or leg. You feel like a part of you is missing. or like losing a peice of flesh. When you have been together so long you really be become  one and. So for rambling so.

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I have 2 grandchildren Daniel aged 7 And Maddie who is nearly three. Did your husband talk to you about dying, Steve never really did he was so positive that he would beat it. Due to his brain mets and high calcium levels he had periods of confusion and it was difficult for him talk. Towards the end he said to me I might have to go away soon and you cant come with me but I will wait for you in heaven, I am crying whilst typing but just needed to say it to someone Sorry if this message leaves you feeling down.

Sylvia

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We never talked about it much. I took to the chemo dr on the 12th of nov in 2007 and before we went in I ask him if he still wanted to fight and he said HELL YES. i knew in my heart what they were going to tell us. When they told him they had done all they could do he asked for a feeding tube to build up his strenght to fight on. They gave him one on 13th and that was a blessing because we could give his pain meds thru it. They told me on the 16th that he had only hours maybe days and I brought him home for the last time. I think he finally knew on that sun. He told my girls to let him die , his heart hurt. We all then held him and told him we would be ok. He passed on the 20th a tues. I was at the funeral home with my kids and my sister and mom were with him. My sister was holding his hand and he just left. He had been drugged up and sleeping for 2 days. I wish that I would have been here, but they told me he would probably wait for to be gone and I am sure thats what happened. you dont bring me down, it helps to have somone to type to. Most everyone else thinks I should be over it  and dont want to talk about it or him.

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