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Lost my beautiful dog this morning


ctaylor

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Hi all

I'm in a really really bad way. I woke up this morning to find my 2yr old Portuguese Water Dog passed away in the living room. He was my best friend -- my everything. He was so young. I'm so sad I can't get the image out of my head of his limp body. I thought he was sleeping until I shook his body and he didn't budge - then I saw his tongue hanging out of his mouth. I had to carry him in the snow down the street to give his limp body to the animal hospital here in Brooklyn. I don't know how I'm going to get through this. The level of sadness and shock I'm feeling right now is extraordinary.

My boyfriend is in the other room and our apartment feels so quiet. I've been sobbing all morning and don't know what to do with myself.

Thank you for reading.

Cara

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Dear C,

My heart aches with you.  What was your beloved dog's name?  Tell us a little about him or her.

This past Sunday, we had to put our beloved Belgian Sheepdog Mouchette to sleep.  Only a week before, she'd been unexpectedly diagnosed with liver cancer.  We thought she'd have more time, but over the weekend, she deteriorated rapidly and by Sunday morning, she would not eat and she could not get up and walk at all.  We knew it was time to give her a loving and painless exit.

The pain is truly horrible.  We are shell-shocked, and although our friends and neighbors have been so nice and thoughtful, we can do little beyond the basics of eating and sleeping.  I'm writing this through tears now.  So know that you are not alone.  And I can tell you, that even after four days, the pain softens just a bit.  But for now, let yourself grieve.  Give yourself permission to feel sorrow, despair, physical hurt, loneliness.  I'm finding thta it helps to take deep, slow breaths.  Sit down, close my eyes, take slow deep breaths, in through the nose, out through the mouth, as I imagine my beautiful Mouchette sitting beside me, me touching her warm fur.   This simple meditation technique helps me a little.  It's so hard, I know, I know, I know...I'm so sorry for your loss...Laura

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I sit here in tears too as I had to put my dog down when all I wanted to do was take care of him. I had so much pressure from others "to do the right thing." for my Lab was in failing health but not sick. He was adjusting well to his new reality of what long term diebetes was doing to him.

It felt so wrong to take his life, and during the process it did not go smoothly at all. our vet could not find his vein and tried 5 different places to inject 2 x each. Finally with a lot of emtion on all sides our vet gave him a sleep aid and the 5 injection relaxed him. His vein were completely flatten because he was a diabetic lab. It was all so horrible on top with all the guilt that none of this had to be done at the moment.  

I held him in my arms telling him not to worry everything was going to be ok... When he needed me the most, what did I do??? He trusted me...we could have gone on together longer... he didnt need to be put down then...

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oh i feel your pain sweetheart i have lost 3 in 4 years it still breaks my heart , i have another 6 doggies and i dread the day when i have to say goodby to them, all i can do is love and cuddle them take them long walks feed them proper ,and hope to god that i will be reunited with them

 

bless you  may

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I also feel your pain.  The one thing I know from experience, after having had to put down 6 dearly-loved pets over the last few years,  is that you always second-guess yourself afterwards.  Even when I knew there was nothing that could be done and knew at that moment that I was doing the kindest thing possible for my dear hairy friend, I'd come home and second-guess myself.  I'd do it for days.  Every time. 

There is no easy way to get through this and never the right time to have to face that day.  Every time I've had to make that decision I'd swear I'd never have another dog or cat because it breaks my heart every time I lose one.  And then... a few weeks later one seems to find me, or I feel that tug to start looking for a new pet.  Not a replacement, but another companion. 

When the process of putting a pet down does not go smoothly it makes it doubly hard to deal with.  I had a similar situation with one of my cats a few years ago and it broke my heart.  At the same time I knew that going through with it would spare my little friend a much worse fate if the disease was allowed to run its course.  I struggled terribly for a few days afterwards, remembering those little frightened eyes looking at me.  It is really hard to get past those thoughts, but over time it's much better.  I knew I'd done all I could for her and that even in her last frightening moments I was holding her and talking to her and I believe that was the last thing she heard after the shot made her relax, before the final injection.  That's what counts.  You did all you could for your dear pet and now you have to try to be kind to yourself, knowing you would never have purposely hurt him.  You loved him until the end and he knew it.  The last thing he experienced in this life was your loving touch and kind voice.  You did not fail him.

DianeS

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Just this side of heaven is a place called [highlight= #ffff88]Rainbow[/highlight] [highlight= #88ffff]Bridge[/highlight].

When an animal dies that has been especially close to someone here, that pet goes to [highlight= #ffff88]Rainbow[/highlight] [highlight= #88ffff]Bridge[/highlight]. There are meadows and hills for all of our special friends so they can run and play together. There is plenty of food, water and sunshine, and our friends are warm and comfortable.

All the animals who had been ill and old are restored to health and vigor. Those who were hurt or maimed are made whole and strong again, just as we remember them in our dreams of days and times gone by. The animals are happy and content, except for one small thing; they each miss someone very special to them, who had to be left behind.

They all run and play together, but the day comes when one suddenly stops and looks into the distance. His bright eyes are intent. His eager body quivers. Suddenly he begins to run from the group, flying over the green grass, his legs carrying him faster and faster.

You have been spotted, and when you and your special friend finally meet, you cling together in joyous reunion, never to be parted again. The happy kisses rain upon your face; your hands again caress the beloved head, and you look once more into the trusting eyes of your pet, so long gone from your life but never absent from your heart.

Then you cross [highlight= #ffff88]Rainbow[/highlight] [highlight= #88ffff]Bridge[/highlight] together.... 

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The above helped me when I lost my Aussie .

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