Confusion

[bwhaley]

When I was 8, I lost my best friend Jamie before I could see her again. My parents & I were going to go visit her in the hospital the next morning, but when we called to see what room she was in, we got the news that she had passed away. I was only 8 so it all seemed so unreal to me, and took awhile for it to kick in. Still, now 10 years down the road, she crosses my mind every day. It wasnt until I became pregnant in november with my daughter that I started to realize things that we're unexplainable & undeniable. My due date is now my friends birthday, I'm to deliver at the hospital that she passed away at, I keep passing by places & names that are associated with her, and the 1st name that I picked out - I realised that it was the name of the cemetary that she was buried at. Its confusing me and I dont know what to think. I was never one that belived in reincarnation or things along that line but now everything is leading to that conclusion. I found this site by googling her name and found a memorial that her mom had made for her, but the guestbook isnt working, and I cant contact her mom because she didnt leave a email. I dont think I should to begin with because I dont want her mom to get mad at me, because this is a weird situation. I dont know I just need to vent and its so hard for me to let something go that is biting at me everyday. Anyone have any advice.. or input?

R.I.P. Jamie Leigh Armstrong

[4everjoeysmom]

First of all, I'm sorry for the loss of your friend so many years ago.

Second, I don't believe her mom would get mad or upset with you.  I think she would be honored to know that you have not forgotten Jamie Leigh.  I lost a son a couple of years ago, and it does my heart good to know he is not forgotten by his friends.

And finally, after reading your post, I didn't get the sense of reincarnation as much as I got the sense that obviously someone is trying to get your attention.  I believe oftentimes way too much credit is given to the power of humanity and spirit, and not enough to the power of God.  Have you considered it may be God trying to reach you?  Not proselatyzing here...  It's just that so often people are looking everywhere for answers to the mysteries of life and the afterlife, but so often never look to a Creator of humanity and all its mysteries.........

Congratulations on your baby.  Wishing you all th ebest life and God have to offer.

~4everJoey'sMom

[Kelly]

Dear Members,

We are excited to mention that we are moving to a more new and improved message boards on MONDAY MORNING AUGUST 9th! The boards will be done for a few hours while we are making the conversation. Remember we posted information about this move a month ago. For some of you this might seem a bit sudden,  but when we were reviewing the site we determined the current message board you are using is out of date and the company that designed it is no longer in existence. The good news is this new message board will have new features that have been requested in the past like more fields we can add to your profiles and a chat room up to 20 people at one time. If we find the chat room is bursting at the seams we will add additional room for extra people. All your old posts, private messages and such will be migrated to the new message board. You might have to put up your profile picture again but not sure. The new company will be doing the migration for us. Here is a short list of some of the new features on the board:

- Custom Profile Fields

- Users can customize their profile pages by selecting a background color or background image, with tiling options.

- Facebook and Twitter Integration

- users can respond to multiple posts at once with "mini-quote"

- Pinned discussion threads - like welcome to our board etc.

- Announcements made across some boards or the entire message board

- Search: Users can easily find all content generated by a particular member, by clicking the 'Find Content' button that appears on the main profile page, or in the Mini Profile Popup which can be accessed throughout the board. The results page allows content to be filtered by application, as well whether the member created it or merely participated in it.

- Privacy: allows users to sign in anonymously, hiding them from the online users list. Users also have the option to disable personal conversations and user-to-user emails, as well as ignore other users if necessary.

The next exciting piece of news about the new message board is it will have a new domain name of www.grieving.com for search engine optimization purposes. It will still be apart of Beyond Indigo and can be found through www.beyondindigo.com. We will be redirecting your current URL's to this new domain name but we might miss a few. If that is the case simply go back to www.grieving.com or www.beyondindigo.com to find your message board thread. We will try to make the transition as seamless as possible.

The bottom line is the new board will give us room to grow our community and more options to interact better with each other.

If you have any questions please direct them to feedback@beyondindigo.com.

Kelly Baltzell, MA

CEO/President

Beyond Indigo Family