does it ever get any easier

[missingddbdkb]

i loss my brother dec 2006, i also lost my nephew, my brother's son in dec also.  i have days that i just cry and cry, please someone tell me that it get's easier to cope with, i miss them so much and my whole family misses them.

[diane1234]

Dear Missing,

I lost my brother @ the end of '06 also. I find that it does get easier(not really better) as time passes. I think just sharing how you are on an as needed basis on this thread is sooooooooooo very helpful! I would've lost it long ago, if it wasn't for my friends on the loss of Sibling thread!They taught me the grief walk is like waves; you might get knocked over by one every so often, but you usually survive it.Then the waves come less often & I was very grateful when that happened for me(B-days & Death Anniv. are my waves today). The people in the everyday world expect me to have just picked myself up & moved on(they don't want to deal w/ death..it scares them). The Women on the "Loss of Sibling" thread can relate and won't ever judge where you're @ on any given day...such a blessing this site has been for me. How did your brother pass? My brother died from a surgery gone wrong. I know he's not suffering anymore in heaven :-) However, I still wasn't ready to lose him.

My brother's B-day is on June14th and that's always a weird time for my family & I. I am going to his grave w/ my family to say prayers for him and to sing him Happy B-day. I just had my own B-day and it was the first June cookout since he died that we didn't share a B-day cake(our B-days were a week apart). I wished him a GOOD cookout in Heaven w/ all those who have gone before me(my Aunts, uncles, grandparents, pets...). I'm rambling on now. I just wanted you to know you're not alone :-) Keep sharing who you are & what you feel & it will shift for you eventually. Welcome to the Wave riders !

Blessings,

Diane

[missingddbdkb]

diana,

well first of all my nephew had a car accident on nov 25, died dec 4, my brother had been sick already, this is my nephew's dad, my brother had a dr appt in bham to go to a specialist, they thought he may have had ms or luke garatis disease, to make long story short, on the11th he went to the hospital he had a blood clot on his lung, there was nothing they could do for him, he died the 15th of dec. put it this way, not a very good xmas.

and yes, the holidays, and bdays are the hardest.

daphne

 

 

 

[diane1234]

Daphne,

Soo Sorry to hear of the consecutive losses you suffered in one year. It must've been hard to loss 2 beloved family members soo soon after eachother.Was your Brother sick for a very long time w/ MS? How did you make it thru that tough first year?How many siblings do you have?I have 2 sisters living. I know I had a rough 1st year after Harvey died.

I'm getting closer to his B-day (this Sat.) and I can feel my temper getting shorter & the tears flowing more this week. I'm trying not to pick fights w/ my family, as they tend to WACK out this time of year too. My one sister has decided NOT to go to the cemetary w/ us on Sat.(she just wants to stay home). In the past , I would've guilted her into going w/ us. However, this year(Harv's second B-day in Heaven), I'm just letting it go. If you read the loss of Sibling site from Jan.'07 until now ,you'll see that one of my sisters has issues(especially w/ death & always being right). My good sister, myself,my hubby & my parents are going to wish Harv a heart felt hi (and I don't want him to be alone on his B-day). He was my only brother(10 years older than me) and I was always his little shadow as a child. I still miss him sooo very much(just typing this brings me to tears). I'm just going to consider myself knocked down by a wave today(hopefully I'll get up soon).

Blessings,

Diane