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Bob it is so good to see you back!   50# of pepperoni links is alot of links!  Bet your house smells good.

Laurie, what a great message from your sister.   That story and Kate's story of her experience are amazing.   I keep hoping to have an experience like that from Sarah.   Haven't had anything like that yet, but know it can happen.

Cheryl, your grandaughter is beautiful.    Grandchildren are so special.

Susan the sunsets are beautiful.  Thanks for sharing them.   I need to stop and watch more of the beautiful things in nature.   Life gets so busy sometimes and we miss alo

Dee, how was the school carnival.   It sounds nice and what a great cause for your fundraiser.   We had some warmer weather here today.  It go into the 40's and lots of sun.  It was so nice to see the sun. 

Kate, I am very phobic when it comes to snakes.   I wouldn't have been able to sit by that pool at all after seeing that snake skin..  I don't even like garter snakes.  EWE!   Guess now that I think about it, I am pretty wimpy when it comes to critters.

Lora, if you are checking in we would love to see you back.  I was thinking of you and Cara today. 

Well have been watching the Super Bowl and it appears that New England finally woke up.  Guess I will go see how this ends. 

Have a restful evening.

Sandy

 

 

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I thought the story might be an encouragement to all that are here...these are sacred moments...I am always encouraged by that lovely photo of Erica's light...

Also, Becky you out there? doing okay? 

Bob, Jesse would have loved to be cooking that sausage up on the wood stove...we have done that some ourselves...

Colleen, good to see your post here, it is hard to come to terms with how our loved one passed...I agree...

Cheryl, thanks for posting the pic of your lovely grand daughter....congratulations of her early graduation!

Tommy's Mum, it can be healing to find something to pour your heart into, one bereaved mum I talked with organized a homeless shelter for vets as her son died in the Iraqi conflict. She took in many soldiers who needed healing and still does this kind of work.  

Kate, thinking of you and Ross too, I suppose you up there still have plenty of snow...my mom who only lives about 4 hours south of me keeps letting me know how they don't have any snow where she is, can't figure that out...She lives pretty close to where Colleen is...

Sandy, good to see your post...

Wade, hope to hear more from you...its okay to say you are not okay...there is no way anyone has to make this journey...there is no outcome that needs to be arrived at...I send gentle thoughts your way....

Susan, also thanks for the pics of the sunsets, very lovely...

Finally, thanks again to Dee and Sherry for staying on here...

Today was my Grandson Benton's 4th birthday...he is a rainbow child as he was born shortly after Jesse passed...we were so happy to have him today. 

 

 

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Happy Birthday Beautiful Benton, you shine the light of your Sweet and Precious Uncle Jesse...in your laughter, your smile, and in all you take in and learn from.

Today a strong and beautiful sunrise, I sit and watch but I should be getting ready to leave for work, instead I linger here watching the colors change.

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mermaidtears the quotes are wonderful. Glad I did not offend you. You are correct that each one grieves individually and heals in their own way in their own time even within families. i have witnessed that for myself in seeing my 3 other adult children each grieving in their own way." No matter how long the time was. I t will never seem like enough" gosh how that rings true. I still cannot look at old photos even now just not ready. my kids are really resistant in posing for photos which makes me really sad as we all know too well how precious memories are especially when they are all you have left of someone you love. Hi to Bob glad you made it back. Cooking is always a good activity taking pride in something you have grown or made yourself is good we often do not take credit for our acheivements and we should. Cheryl your grandaughter is so bright you must be so proud. It is very strange that identical injuries can cause such different outcomes. My son and his friend fell from the same building same height and were both badly injured yet only one dies. At first i was so resentful that another family still had their child but I gradually realised that that was what Tommy was trying to do, save another family from the pain and loss and i was able to forgive and reach out to patrick to make sure he is doing ok. Sometimes forgiveness is possible in other cases it is never deserved, and I feel the pain of parents on this site who have not yet seen justice served or even a person held responsible and punished for their crime, that must be an additional trauma. i don't know whether to believe in karma, too often I have seen wrongs go unpunished maybe in the next life?? On a much lighter note I hope you all enjoyed the superbowl. I miss living in the USA and watching it with friends and family it was a happy tradition.

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Bob----Good to see you back on this site. Glad that you are keeping busy 

with the sausage-making project. :D

 

Laurie----thanks for posting that lovely story.

 

Dee-----I remember your picture with the shaft of light on the walking path. 

 Lovely pic....and so meaningful when it appeared after you asked ERi  "where are you, ERi" ?

Hope that the school carnival to raise money for such a good cause went well.

 

Kate-------the hot peppers sound good, but I have never been able to eat them. My

husband dearly loves hot peppers, though.........the hotter, the better, it seems.  :o

 

Cheryl-------Beautiful pic of your granddaughter.....thanks for posting it.

 

WISHING PEACE AND COMFORT TO ALL  INDIGOS.

 

Davey&Lisasmom,    sherry

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Sherry, the fund raising event only brought in about $400.00. It is much less than we were hoping but, it is $400.00 more than we had to begin with, so we will deposit the money in the Student Council Account and write a check to the Syrian Charity that we chose and go forth knowing that we tried.

 

 

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I wish there was a like button. When I'm behind i can't keep up with everything I would like to comment on. 

I do know I saw colleen. Always nice to see you.

Bob I'm glad you're back. The sausages sound awesome and a great easy way to stay fed.

Back to acceptance I accept whatever anyone has to say about it lol. It is as different as our journeys.

Sending love to every one.

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Dee....those kids will be as proud of the $400 as they would if it were $4,000.....(of course we would as adults like the $4,000)....still such a teaching moment for the kids in giving....

Gretchen....so true....there are many 'shades' in acceptance...I can feel one way in the morning...another in the afternoon....after 1,000's of thoughts have washed over me during the day...some days I am strong and balanced....the next day somewhat pitiful....the next day full of cheer and good will....the next day...wrung and hung on the nail.....I will be glad when I can stay in a somewhat controlled state/attitude/mood/emotion.....still a work in progress.

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ericas mom $400 is an excellent amount and will change lives well done for raising the money. Helping others also helps us. mermaidtears it is true how emotions and attitudes change like the wind, I think that is why sometimes we wonder if we are losing it! I know I do sometimes, but then other times I see my progress and feel I am making sense of the world. each day brings new experiences. Today I saw a couple of crocuses and four mini irises in my garden so it is true that Spring is beginning in the UK at least. I guess there is probably snow in the USA? I kind of miss the snow actually well except for digging out my long driveway and the log pile. We have just had a lot of rain which brings down the mood, although my blue light definitely helps.

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Just a question from a computer illiterate person, sorry but when I copy and paste a quote from the web on here it either will not paste or pastes and will not let me resize it smaller. How do you clever quotees do it? Sometimes a quote or picture is just better than words. Thanks

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Oh please don't think me ungrateful...I just was hoping for more of what we have earned in the past: 600.00 or more. But I get it, times are tough. It is a lot of work on our end, husband makes all the items and we buy the paint and stay after school for at least 3 days to finish the painting with the kids, and it was not shown one bit of courtesy or consideration by my boss...so I am just feeling down about our school right now. I do a good deal of outreach at school, but I have been on my principals 'crap' list for several years, and so she doesn't even come and tell the kids what a fine job they have done by all of their work..it just kind of sucks. But $400.00 will help out a few families and yes, the kids will feel that they are giving thousands through this outreach. Thank you each for your comments.

 

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Dee, is there a way that I can donate to your fund?    

Sandy

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Sandy, the outreach we are collecting for is for Syrian Refugees, in Syria. This is through  our Student Council. Yes, you can donate if you like, a check to the Lincoln Student Council...but I am sure that you can donate in your town to a similar outreach...however if you would like to help our Student Council make a difference, please do. PM me if you want the address. So sweet.

So we had 2 days of 50 degrees, and now it is down in the 20's with wind. Up and down the temps go, and twice tonight  I look at my email from school, another child is home sick. Hard on bodies when the temps go up and down...

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Such an important lesson you are teaching the children Dee. They are the future of our world. With so much apathy these days it is so valuable to learn compassion and caring. Good for you!

This weather is driving me nuts. One week it is warm and lovely... and the next it is cold as can be. Last night it went down to -28C and yet by the weekend it will be +1C... or so they say. We have not had all that much snow ...and yet they are calling for overland flooding this spring. Global warming is really making an impact in our part of the world. Something to take very seriously.

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INdeed on the weather Kate, I very much agree about this being global warming...we have had two days too, in the 50's, and now back to 20 degrees. The roller coaster effect. This weekend, it is to go into the 40's and bounce us around some more. If this were late March or early April, it would be a normal battle between winter/spring, but this started in January, the up and down of it all, and we have not had snow since December which is sad.

The soon to be full moon is causing so much upheval in the school today,  all sorts of problems with kids, and injuries too.

 

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Thanks to all those who mentioned Benton's birthday...it was a Ninja Turtle theme this year...

Susan, thanks for sharing the pic...

Dee, what does the fund do for the Syrian Children? 

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There are a couple more new members who have been redirected to this thread for support I hope they get into contact soon, your gentle words and personal stories really help.

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I hope that the new folks come too Tommy's Mom, and I hope that we can hold their hands while listening to their hearts.

Laurie, the fund will be sent to a Syrian Refugee Charity to assist with either food, water, bedding...any number of needs in the refugee camps. How are you these days? I like that Benton did a Ninja Turtle Party, my Grandgirl likes the Turtles too...though lately has found her inner princess.

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Dee------Congratulations on the $400. that was brought in at the 

school carnival for the charity.  As you said.....it is  $400. that

will be sent to the charity for their work.....and I'm sure they appreciate it,

even if your school administrators were silent about acknowledging all

your work, and that of the dear students who put so much into it.  

Many times,  teachers work.....above and beyond their school day class

duties,... are taken for granted, expected, or just plain ignored.   Sad to say. :angry:

 

HAPPY   BELATED  4TH   BIRTHDAY  TO  BENTON.

 

Laura------I bet Benton had a wonderful birthday, celebrating with the NINJA TURTLE theme.:)

Tommysmum-----I, too, hope that the new people find their way here. They will be welcome.

 

PEACE   AND   COMFORT   TO   ALL   INDIGOS.

 

Davey&Lisasmom,  Sherry

 

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Thanks Sherry, I just wish that the Student Council for all of their efforts were congratulated by the school, but we will have a LEADERS LUNCH later on in the year to celebrate all they add to our lives as leaders of Lincoln School.

Peaceful day All

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Dee...I think I posted this years ago...I have a friend that is a teacher and she told me...'I can teach any child...but I cannot teach under all Administrations'...there must be a missing link in her DNA if she cannot express gratitude....common sense good manners. We all have known people like that...the charity will be greatly thankful.

 

Love those words I am posting....but so true....those of us who did break...and had no choice in being broken..and had to learn to heal...find a vast vacancy in our hearts for reaching out with compassion and care...

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Susan statistics show poor give a higher percentage of their income than the rich no surprise those of us whose hearts have been shattered will be the ones to comfort newly devastated parents. It is the knowing I suppose.

Today I really had a little conversation with forest that I needed a sign other than through a psychic. I was on my way to my daughter's whose marriage was in another crisis moment. I was driving when it suddenly dawned on me there was a construction road block on my usual route so I m add a quick decision to turn. I was driving along and suddenly realized I was driving by one of forest's old apartments and I had this feeling of softness all around me and like someone was holding my arms. The fact that I didn't notice what street I was on until all of a sudden I was so surprised to discover where I was

I noticed crocuses and irises starting to push up in my yard. This weekend it will be 82° in Feb.! It was -4 three weeks ago. Crazy. Global warming "coming down fast helter skelter"

A little concerning to me.

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Gretchen, I am so glad that Forest did indeed give you a wonderful sign of his being near. Lovely, that softness, that sense of comfort. Hooray.

And yes, a bit concerning this weather we are experiencing. Hugely concerning.

shannon, lora, leah, becky, and all of the wonderful folks we love and know...are you out there? Are you okay?

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Gretchen I am glad you had a sign it is really important to get confirmation that our children walk with us still even though we cannot see them. I could really do with a sign right now as my car died today. I have only driven it a couple times since last may because of all my ankle surgeries, and it was a real blow, mentally and financially. Still things are thrown at us in life and when you have lost a child nothing, nothing compares, so I wait for it to figure out. I still cant drive coz I am on crutches still so I guess it does not matter, its not like I can walk to the store is it? Mermaidtears as always your quotes are spot on. I try to donate whenever I can, whether its financial or a few food items for our local soup kitchen, yet my ex husband has more money than he knows what to with and never gives to anything. i truly believe that giving to others whether it is money or items or your time is so valuable. Love and caring make the world go round and better people in it.

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