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      Hi all,  I'm sure you've noticed some changes in the forums. We've again had to do some updates, so that's why things may look a little different. Nothing major should have changed.  Also, we are going to start adding advertisements sensitive to our community on the boards. This is something we are experimenting with, and we will certainly make sure they are in the best interests of everyone. We want to make sure our forums continue to stay accessible and cost free to all of our members, and this is a way to ensure this.  If you have any questions or comments, please feel free to privately message me or email me at Konnie@beyondindigo.com.  As always, we will be here with you, ModKonnie
momofJustin

Loss of an Adult Child

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krichie   

Kayla, Kayla Kayla.

What a beautiful name, send down some comfort for you family as they miss you so.

I had to go sign some paperwork at Lawyers today so the insurance company can issue the check to the kids trust funds. Very painful, what s signature no big deal but I cried like a baby after. He is gone and not coming back to see his kids grow up to hug me and tell me he loves me anymore

will have to do more paperwork when the check finally arrives to lawyers and we settle the estate but that signature to day was terrible

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Guest msnher   
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Well. I typed a post on the old board and twa-la......here we are...a new board....hmmmm....change.....can I handle it? Time will tell.....

Betsy, I laughed so hard when I read "Sus, do you need directions?" that I spit coffee out my nose!

Talk about crazy weather....did you all read about the ice island breaking off of Iceland? Sure. Global warming is a figment of our imagination...(sarcasm)

Maybe, just maybe, we will all get to see our angels sooner than we planned.

Carol - I loved the video. Did you notice her two front teeth are missing? So cute. So inspiring. I noticed that Gary Chapman played the guitar as backup. Made me think about Steven Chapman. Now there's a story of faith, love and forgiveness. Their 17 yr old son ran over their 4 yr old daughter, killing her. I think she was four. Can you imagine the amount of love that boy needed (needs) to move on from such a tragedy? Several years ago, here in Casper, a prominent man in the community was flying a kite with his 3 yr old daughter in the park. They were running. She tripped in front of him, causing him to trip on her. His knee hit her chest and the weight of his body crushed her, killing her instantly. I had the pleasure of meeting him while we were going through the legal battle with our grandchildren. He is truly a source of inspiration and strength. Two years ago two 13 or 14 yr old boys were smoking pot and playing with a loaded gun. The gun went off, killing the other boy. The friend was devastated, of course. The mother of the boy who was killed stood by the friend's side, knowing it could have easily been her son holding the gun, killing the other boy, asking the judge to please grant the boy leniency and not incarcarate him. The judge was sympathetic, but stressed the boy was irresponsible and he can not just turn away from the fact another person died. The boy was sentenced to several years for manslaughter.

Reading Gary Chapman's name brought that all up for me. And, it wasn't even he whose family was almost destroyed by the tragedy. Almost destroyed because the Chapman's didn't allow it to destroy them. I admire that.....as I admire it in the prominent man who crushed his daughter and the mother of the boy who was killed trying to help the other......I want to be more like them.

Now...I'm going to try to find my way around this new form/site....if I don't return, please come looking for me!

Susannah/Stephanie's mom

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hotrod   

:angry:HI INDIGOS

I AM BECOMING OBSESSED WITH TRYING TO UPLOAD A PICTURE. :angry: I WAS NEVER NEVER LIKE THIS BLS(BEFORE LOSING STEPHEN,)

I WANT EVERYTHING DONE NOW!! I CAN NOT HANDLE ANY CHANGE OR DIFFICULTY OR I LOOK FOR PEOPLE TO TAKE IT OUT ON!!!

DISPLACED ANGER IS NOT WHAT I WANT TO BRING HRE SO I WILL JUST TRY AGAIN AND HOPE EVRYONE IS HAVING A GOOD DAY

I ALSO CANNOT FIND SPELL CHECK!!!!

BETTY STEPHEN'SMOM :blink:

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Guest msnher   
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I don't know if my post to you, Dawnray, posted or not, and I haven't figured out how to go back and check, yet. Holding you close in thought during this difficult time.

Lorri - I just love you!! You crack me up!!!!

So....I had just finished my shower and dressed when I heard a light knock on my bedroom door. It's Mariah. Serious expression of sympathy in her eyes. "I'm sorry, Grandma." She almost whispered....

Turns out Jasmine broke a $1.50 picture frame that held the picture of their young cousin. Respecting Mariah's serious tone, I kept a straight face as she explained what had happened. It almost became another coffee out of my nose moment when she lowered her head and said, "I'm sorry for your loss."

Susannah/Stephanie's mom

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lolynbo   

What is your struggle with the site? We can help you get comfy in your new home...

Kelly

SOME HOW GO FROM OLD TO NEW STEAD OF HAVING TO SEARCH FOR RECENT PAGE.....AND NOT CRAZY ABOUT WHEN U START TO MAKE A REPLY OR COMMENT YOU CHOSE THE FONT AND COLOR AND IT LOOKS GREEK TO YOU TIL U POST IT...

WERE JUST SPOILED...LOL...I HATE CHANGE..DONT HAVE HALF A BRAIN ANYMORE...AND I CANT POST MY PROFILE PIC "TOO LARGE A FILE"...I WILL FIGURE IT OUT THOUGH..PLUS LOST EVERYTHING I HAD POSTD ON MY PROFILE BUT EVERYONE NOS ME NOW SO THATS OK

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Guest msnher   
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ROFLMAOFF

I think those are the correct initials for "rolling on the floor laughing my ass off"

Oh, gosh! I hope the new members won't be turned off my levity. While I completely respect the power of grief, I am enjoying all the confusion with the new site.

"Excuse me! We're grieving here!!" And, they give us a new site....I'm sure it will be okay, but it just seems so damn funny!!

It's like calling the suicide hotline and being put on hold.

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Eric   

Hey folks, just so you know i'm looking into fixing the complaints and getting everything running correctly. I apologize for the hiccups as we get going, but please keep letting me know things that aren't working the way they're supposed to!

Hotrod check your private messages and i'll send you my email to have you email me the picture you're trying to upload and ill try and get it up for you.

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kelly   

Ha! True but if we didn't give you a new site the other one would have stop working and then you would have had NO site. We didn't want that!! Seriously the technology was old and we no longer could update it. We plan on being on this site for a very long time as long as this company doesn't go out of business like the other one did. Please post your pictures in the photo gallery.

ROFLMAOFF

I think those are the correct initials for "rolling on the floor laughing my ass off"

Oh, gosh! I hope the new members won't be turned off my levity. While I completely respect the power of grief, I am enjoying all the confusion with the new site.

"Excuse me! We're grieving here!!" And, they give us a new site....I'm sure it will be okay, but it just seems so damn funny!!

It's like calling the suicide hotline and being put on hold.

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Guest msnher   
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okay...and, I'm sure my 9 yr old granddaughter could figure it all out in about 2 seconds. Me? I'm just learning how to use my remote control.

It's all good. I just find it funny....love the the choices for the silly little faces...

Oh. I DO appreciate the effort from all of you, Kelly! :)

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I just wanted to thank you all for your prayers. So far she still can't leave him. She assures me she is going to, but has to do it when he is gone. He skipped work today, and now she thinks tomorrow he is visiting his brother's place in a town not far from here. Beleive me, i want to do this with the law on our sides, I believe this man is capable of being very cruel, but I am so afraid if I insist on doing it my way, she will lose faith in me and decide to stay with him. So now I wait another day... I hate waiting.. in my wait I fear that something bad will happen.. I told her I can't wait to long.. it has be done by the end of the week.. For her sake.. the kids sake.. and for JaBoa's.

Yes.. I had to come back here my friends.. I can't live alone anymore. This is the only place I have to speak with anybody. I guess if my protective family is still lurking out there and watching us, it is up to them.. I am here.. and if they feel they need to spread the word about anything nuts i say.. oh well.. They are reltated to JaBoa.. perhaps a kind word here or there would make my need to come to strangers a little less.. Though through time.. your not strangers.. your family.. this wonderful family with the tragic bond..

Thanks again so much for caring.. Once I get her with me, I plan to do everything to make this lowdown coward go back to the pen.. and hopefully spend a very long time..

I will close now being I am on the phone line... I love you all for caring!

Leah/JaBoa's grandma

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Guest msnher   
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does bold work? does italics work? How about underline? I don't know what the S with a line through it is for. hmmm hmmmm2 bullets? numbers? I don't know how to insert a link.

quote

Well, with the old site when we hit spell check we lost everything. With this site it just slaps your hand, but your stuff remains.

Just experimenting..please ignore...

  ???   Spell check brought a gloved hand with a thingy on it.  I think they slapped my hand.  Note to self, don't do that again.  

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hotrod   

Hi Leah I am so very glad that you have decided to return and that you are safe. Will continue praying for the situation and know that you are not alone

Susannah You really broke my obsession

The story about the picture frame and the little one, so very serious saying:

" I am sorry for your losss". You cracked me up

Thank you.

Betty stephen'smom :blink:

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Guest msnher   
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Leah - I'm sure the worry and waiting is terrible. I am so greatful you have your daughter back in your life but so sorry it is under these circumstances. Perhaps this is something JaBoa is orchestrating for you all.....not something being orchestrated for her (JaBoa). I have discovered that when God is invited into a situation, the action I take may be the very same action I would have taken in the first place. But, the path is smoother and the results are much, much better. May God, whatever you perceive him or her to be, calm your fears and give you peace! May that same God also watch over and protect your daughter and her children; knowing he will also protect you.

By the way, how's your mom?

Susannah/Stephanie's mom

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Susannah-I thought that was so funny too that she was sorry for your loss. I'm just trying out the new site. It does look much different. the icon for insert a link kind of looks like a pistol pointing to the left. I didn't know how to work the old site that good.

Leah-I'm glad you are back with us and hope that you can get her away from him as soon as possible. Take care.

Rhonda Westley's Mom

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Hi guys,

I think I'm getting the hang of this site ..... it's all good! Just gonna take a little time to get use too!

Rich and I went and had lunch at a prospective barbecue caterer today.

We are just not that into this food!

We are not vegetarian but very close ...... so the idea of serving this food in large quantities is just not setting well.

We have an appointment with the manager of a local Chipotle to see if they can handle our catering desires.

That would make us happy!

If you have any ideas, please share them with me!

Thanks!

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I don;t get it yet, I just posted, or so I thought, but I don;t know where, maybe under chat, so if you want to know what I said, which was kind of long and drawn out, it is under chat if possible.

I will navigate, or learn to anyhow, tomorrow night or Friday. Can't in a hotel room on a laptop.

Love you all though, through and through.

dee

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Hi Everyone,

This is a little wierd. Everything is in light blue & when I go to bold my type it does not work! Ugh... I missed the brief chat, was out sorting tools. Just wanted to say hey and tell ya I'm praying for you all. Can't wait to get in a chat that will be cool. Michael is in a lot of pain today. Traveling from Penn to NC today, staying till Fri, then going to Wyoming... I am pretty uptight.

Elaine

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Eric   

hey all, sorry to jump in here but i saw a couple people concerned that the formatting may not work with the forum

the important thing to do i found is type everything out and then highlight what you want to change, then select the formatting, It appears if you say, press bold first and then type it doesn't bold anything, but if you type your sentence/paragraph and then format after it should work!

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Hi Everyone,

This is a little wierd. Everything is in light blue & when I go to bold my type it does not work! Ugh... I missed the brief chat, was out sorting tools. Just wanted to say hey and tell ya I'm praying for you all. Can't wait to get in a chat that will be cool. Michael is in a lot of pain today. Traveling from Penn to NC today, staying till Fri, then going to Wyoming... I am pretty uptight.

Elaine

Hi Elaine,

I'm sorry you are having trouble. We are trying to work out all the kinks. Once we all get used to things, this forum will be much better. The chat does look great doesn't it?

Konnie

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lolynbo   

HEY GUYS IM HERE LOST IN THIS NEW WORLD...TALK AMUNGST YOURSELVES IF I LOSS ALL OF YAL I LOVED YOU ALL......I DO GOOD TO REMEMBER HOW TO FEED THE DOGS AROUND HERE... :D

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lolynbo   

HEY GUYS IM HERE LOST IN THIS NEW WORLD...TALK AMUNGST YOURSELVES IF I LOSS ALL OF YAL I LOVED YOU ALL......I DO GOOD TO REMEMBER HOW TO FEED THE DOGS AROUND HERE... :D

OH AND JUST SO YAL NO THIS IS ORANGE...

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OH AND JUST SO YAL NO THIS IS ORANGE...

Hi Lolynbo,

Eric our wonderful technician is going to see why your post is orange. I am so glad you are here. Thank you for being so patient.

Konnie

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Look people.....we've been through the hardest changes in our life. This web change is childs play

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