Members skipper74 Posted March 23, 2008 Members Report Share Posted March 23, 2008 Hey everyone, I lost my Mom April 28th of last year. The "anniversary" of her passing is quickly approaching and I am dreading it. My Mom was my best friend and her loss has been nothing short of traumatic to me. I watched her suffer for several days in the hospital from Lung Cancer. I am 33 years old and have now lost both of my parents. My Dad passed about 7 years ago.The hard part for me has been my inability to actually grieve for her. I have 3 kids under the age of 6 and my husband is has been in the middle east since Christmas. I have had to try and be both parents for my kids and try to cope with my Mom's death alone. I have no family here and today I am facing yet another holiday by myself. I hate crying in front of my kids, but I just have days when I feel like I just can't cope anymore.Any other time my husband has been gone I have had my mom to talk to on the phone everyday and I always felt better. Now I just feel alone.I have been doing ok, but for the past week or so I am falling apart at the seams. So many things are reminding me of her. I keep smelling her perfume everywhere, and I feel like I am having "flashbacks" of her death. I can't figure out how to cope, and I have noone to talk to.Has anyone else had a similar experience close to the 1 year mark?? Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Members connorsmom Posted March 24, 2008 Members Report Share Posted March 24, 2008 Hi!I just sent you a PM.......here if you need to talk. J. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Members gracerose Posted March 25, 2008 Members Report Share Posted March 25, 2008 It's almost a year since my Mom passed away too - April 26th. She was my best friend too and her passing has been the hardest thing I've ever had to deal with. I miss her so much. Lately I feel kind of numb, but I know one year is coming up and I don't know how I'll manage the closer it gets. I'm not married so I don't have a husband to lean on, although I've learned that my grief is my own to deal with, to feel, to learn to live with, even though I have the rest of my family - who are all going through the same thing. It's a very lonely lonely world without my Mom. I feel for you. Nothing prepares us for this kind of loss or her death. My Mom was sick for a long time but when the time came, it floored me completely. I carry on with things because I have no choice, but there are days when I just stay home and keep to myself. Please take care and know that there are others of us who go through this too. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Members sheela Posted March 25, 2008 Members Report Share Posted March 25, 2008 i am in the same boat mine died last year june 6th. its coming up as well and i am hurting very much too.. i dont have any family to lean its a long story. i hurt every day and am very alone and lonely with no friends other than online... Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Members stephysteph13 Posted March 25, 2008 Members Report Share Posted March 25, 2008 Sheela i really feel for you. i read alot of what you write and my heart aches for you. im hoping u can find peace in some people on here to make it through this tough time. i know what your feeling missing your mom even though im young i have been through so much not only my mom and it sucks.Hang in there!Steph im always here if u need 2 talk Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Members sheela Posted April 22, 2008 Members Report Share Posted April 22, 2008 ty Steph i had some family contact me recently and so at least i have that ..i have a cousin who i have missed for years reach out me and that helps a lot .. if money just wasnt so tight i would move out of where i am at - i have lived here since 1996 with my mom in a down town ghetto and i hate it so much i am on the 11th floor and i feel so cut off from the rest of the world ... i cant wait to move but have to wait for some property to sell first ... and then i am so out of here !! my mom hated it here too we both did but could never move bc of her health and $$ etc ... hugs and ty i feel for you too i see your anguish as well i dont always post a lot somedays its just too hard to write much ... Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Members sheela Posted April 22, 2008 Members Report Share Posted April 22, 2008 every one here has been so kind thank you every one for your kindness i appreciate it a lot even if i dont always say much .. i dont know what i would have done with out this support group !!! Steph i hope things get better for both of us and every one here Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
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