Members Daffodilfun Posted March 17, 2012 Members Report Share Posted March 17, 2012 Do any of you feel guilty over your parent's death? How do you deal with it? Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Members Mrssumr Posted March 17, 2012 Members Report Share Posted March 17, 2012 I kind of have guilt like I should have done more for her and I did not tell her all I wanted to. I now have a journal and I write to her I also just talk to her when I am having a bad time which is a lot. I miss her so very much and would do anything to have her back. All that keeps me going now is thinking that we will be reunited someday. I am 36 so I would imagine it is going to be a long time before that happens but it's all that keeps me going right now. I also have 2 small kids that lift me up when I am down and keep me from really going to a dark place I am lucky to have them and I am trying to be a good Mom to them as my Mom was to me.I hope you find some sort of release for the guilt you can't let it hold onto you as I feel it will just eat away and that is not good. I would imagine your parent would not want you feeling that way. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Members debbie8800 Posted March 18, 2012 Members Report Share Posted March 18, 2012 Yes I have guilt many of us do, i heard it is normal. I had a lot of guilt because I cam back to NJ and the hospital here told me she needed to be in a nursing home and that was the wrong decision. She caught mrsa and pneumonia in there so i felt terribly guilty. Had I stayed where i was it may not have happened, however i now realize she was weak and her time was near. I was trying to stop and prevent it, by giving her vitamins, feeding her, etc, but i was exhausted.So as you can see at first i felt like it was my fault then i realized it was in gods hands. Now after 4 months i feel much better but i still hold a lot of anger at the people who said she should remain in the hospital/nursing home because she was better off. She wasn't eating for them and they wouldn't tell me. It was awful, but death usually is not pretty.I try not to think about this stuff, just today i was firing off emails to a few individuals who i feel are responsible. I have to make peace and get on with my life. Mom was 87, I will be lucky to live to 75. I am 53 now, some days i wish i could go with her and be out of this lonliness i feel without her. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Members Daffodilfun Posted March 18, 2012 Author Members Report Share Posted March 18, 2012 There are many times I wish I could go be with mom. I want my dog to go with me also. I know that is not what God wants. I have cried a lot today. I have felt lonely. I wish mom could hug me. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
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