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I witnessed my husband's tragic death from falling into a yard fire.  I have no idea how to stop the images I have from this from playing out..  I am thinking hypnotherapy or something.  Don't want to take drugs.  Looking for things that have helped others cope with witnessing something so horrendous.   : (

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Dear Just Tris,

I'm so sorry, I know its hard to have these images. Please consider talking to a grief counsellor or a family therapist.  I know there are different therapies that might help. I know a lot of it is easier said than done. But try and distract yourself or move your thoughts to something or someone else when they come up. It does practice, but I hope it will get better.

Thinking of you.

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I am so very sorry for what you are going through, Just Tris.  I can’t imagine the trauma you’re going through.  I do hope you have supportive, loving folk around you. 

I wasn’t with my hubby when he was killed in a terrible manner, but it didn’t stop my mind from imagining it.  The nightmares were horrendous and sleeping tablets were a must for me - still are, but on a much reduced dosage.  My whole sense of safety was ripped out from under me and I also had nightmares about other family members meeting terrible deaths.  

I had a few consults with a Psychologist, who was also a qualified hypnotherapist.  I’ve also been dealing with another trauma and was desperate to have an image relating to it, ripped from imy brain.  Personally, lots of hypnotherapy has saved my sanity and both terrible images have thankfully, softened over time.  The Psychologist I consulted with recorded our hypno sessions, but she didn’t have a soothing voice.  I found just what I needed on YouTube.  There are many different hypnotherapists to choose from with vids on there.  I found Michael Sealey and Jason Stephenson very good and have recently started listening to others.  

Hypnotherapy and meditation gives your brain a much needed break from the trauma and ruminating.  I initially needed to listen to a number of videos each day, but now doing so just at bedtime and when I wake in the night, is sufficient. 

I’ve also had consults with a specialised grief therapist, which also helped a lot. 

This particular forum isn’t very busy, so pop over to this one where I hope you will find the support, understanding and compassion you need.  http://forums.grieving.com/index.php?/forum/15-loss-of-a-partner/

Sending you strength, love and hugs XX 

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