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Hi everyone. How is everyone doing? :rolleyes: A couple of months ago my husband told me that my friend went into him in work and told him that another friend of mine didn't like me. This morning when I dropped my son to school I kindly confronted her and my other friend. We decided to go for a coffee and we talked. Absolutely none of it is true, my other friend who supposedly said this to my husband doesn't even know him! I can't believe he would lie to me this way. Last night we where taking, and o said to him I never got to grieve for my mam, and he said that I have had all the time I need - he said he had to take a week of work and nearly lost his job over my mama death!! This has hurt me beyond words. I was extremely close to my mam - she was, is and always will be everything to me. I could talk to her about anything. She always knew if i was having a bad day. Even when we spoke on the phone she knew by the sound of my voice if I was ok or not... Now I feel like I have no one  - other than my 5 year old son. He threatens me that he will take him away from me if I don't 'sort my self out' and 'get over it for my son's sake' that Is so completely unfair. I don't know where to go from here... Do i confront him or bury it like it bottle up everything else. I am not close with my dad. If me and my husband argue, my dad takes his side.

 

Okay yes I have 'lied' in the past my husband is a heavy drinker and after work (he is a chef) he enjoys a couple of drinks. He would usually always drink after work. Then when he gets home he would say you should go to bed as our son is up for school. I always take him to school. I cook for him, clean the house do dishes, laundry all while my husband sleeps!! It's not at all fair. I feel like I'm gonna explode if I don't get the chance to grieve for my mam in the way I want and need to. What do i do here? Am o being selfish? Unreasonable? Petty? I feel so selfish I really really do. My husband also said on a few occasions that if I don't go to bed etc or talk about him to other people that he will pull the furniture out of the house, get rid of Virgin media  (our tv satellite) and take my son. I feel so lost and alone and upset. I cant take this anymore, I'm gonna snap! Seriously I am!

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Dear Marie,

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Aware (Depression, Bi-Polar Disorder & Anxiety)

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Tel: 1800 80 48 48

National Suicide Helpline (Pieta House)
1800 247 247

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