Members mariesgril1953 Posted September 18, 2017 Members Report Share Posted September 18, 2017 Hi everyone. How is everyone doing? A couple of months ago my husband told me that my friend went into him in work and told him that another friend of mine didn't like me. This morning when I dropped my son to school I kindly confronted her and my other friend. We decided to go for a coffee and we talked. Absolutely none of it is true, my other friend who supposedly said this to my husband doesn't even know him! I can't believe he would lie to me this way. Last night we where taking, and o said to him I never got to grieve for my mam, and he said that I have had all the time I need - he said he had to take a week of work and nearly lost his job over my mama death!! This has hurt me beyond words. I was extremely close to my mam - she was, is and always will be everything to me. I could talk to her about anything. She always knew if i was having a bad day. Even when we spoke on the phone she knew by the sound of my voice if I was ok or not... Now I feel like I have no one - other than my 5 year old son. He threatens me that he will take him away from me if I don't 'sort my self out' and 'get over it for my son's sake' that Is so completely unfair. I don't know where to go from here... Do i confront him or bury it like it bottle up everything else. I am not close with my dad. If me and my husband argue, my dad takes his side. Okay yes I have 'lied' in the past my husband is a heavy drinker and after work (he is a chef) he enjoys a couple of drinks. He would usually always drink after work. Then when he gets home he would say you should go to bed as our son is up for school. I always take him to school. I cook for him, clean the house do dishes, laundry all while my husband sleeps!! It's not at all fair. I feel like I'm gonna explode if I don't get the chance to grieve for my mam in the way I want and need to. What do i do here? Am o being selfish? Unreasonable? Petty? I feel so selfish I really really do. My husband also said on a few occasions that if I don't go to bed etc or talk about him to other people that he will pull the furniture out of the house, get rid of Virgin media (our tv satellite) and take my son. I feel so lost and alone and upset. I cant take this anymore, I'm gonna snap! Seriously I am! Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Members reader Posted September 19, 2017 Members Report Share Posted September 19, 2017 Dear Marie, Sorry to hear about everything you are going through. I know life can get really though. Please know there is help. I found the following information and hope it will help you: Need help now? If you need to talk to someone, here are a number of helplines you can contact for confidential non-judgemental support. If you or someone you know is at risk of suicide or self-harm, you should make contact immediately with one of the following: Phone or go to your local doctor Go to the Accident & Emergency department of the nearest hospital Call 999 Most helplines will provide a listening service, give information and advice, provide emotional support and point you in the direction of other services. They are often free-phone services which are staffed by trained volunteers or employees. The Samaritans www.samaritans.org Free phone: 116 123 Email: jo@samaritans.org Aware (Depression, Bi-Polar Disorder & Anxiety) www.aware.ie Tel: 1800 80 48 48 National Suicide Helpline (Pieta House)1800 247 247 Pieta House (Suicide & Self-harm) www.pieta.ie Tel: 01 623 5606 Grow (Mental Health support and Recovery) www.grow.ie Tel: 1890 474 474 Bodywhys (Eating Disorders Associations of Ireland) www.bodywhys.ie1890 200 444 Irish Advocacy Network (Peer advocacy in mental health) www.irishadvocacynetwork.com Tel: 01 872 8684 IACP (Counselling & Psychotherapy) www.iacp.ie Tel: 01 230 3536 Irish Council for Psychotherapy (Counselling & Psychotherapy) www.psychotherapycouncil.ie Tel: 01 905 8698 Shine (Supporting people effected by mental ill health) www.shine.ie Childline www.childline.ie 1800 66 66 66 24hr a day One to one chat – 10am-4am Text BULLY or TALK or HELP to 50101 from 10am to 4am Text for help Childline www.childline.ie 1800 66 66 66 24hr a day One to one chat – 10am-4am Text BULLY or TALK or HELP to 50101 from 10am to 4am Children/ Teens Childline www.childline.ieHelpline: 1800 66 66 66 One to one chat – 10am-4am Text BULLY or TALK or HELP to 50101 from 10am to 4am OutReach – Online youth mental health service www.ie.reachout.com Sexuality Gay Switchboard Dublin gayswitchboard.ie Helpline: 01 872 1055 Parentline parentline.ie Helpline: 1890 92 72 77 or 01 873 3500 Abuse, domestic violence & rape Amen Support Services Ltd. amen.ie Helpline: 046 902 3718 Aoibhneas Women and Children’s Refuge aoibhneas.ie/index.php/services Helpline: 01 867 0701 Children at risk in Ireland (CARI) cari.ie Helpline: 1890 92 45 67 Rape Crisis Network Ireland – Rape Crisis Help rapecrisishelp.ie 24 Hour Helpline: 1800 77 88 88 The Dublin Rape Crisis Centre drcc.ie/get-help-and-information/helpline/ 24 Hour Helpline: 1800 77 88 88 Email: counselling@rcc.ie Women’s Aid womensaid.ie Freephone: 1800 34 19 00 Share Twitter Facebook Linkedin Pinterest Email in your area Local Associations Learn more useful numbers Need help now? Learn more courses & seminars EMPOWER YOURSELF We run a range of courses and seminars across the country Learn more BECOME PART OF The Solution Join the Mental Health Ireland family Learn more DONATE NOW Subscribe To Newsletter Subscribe now to get a copy of our Manage and Reduce Stress booklet and stay informed about mental health and wellbeing updates, events and information. Don't miss things! First Name Last Name Email address: LIKE AND SHARE FOR REAL Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
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